As of the date of posting this blog, this is your official warning that it is 14 days until Valentine’s Day. Put that reminder in your phone now and we hereby relinquish all responsibility that we never told you about it.
If you’ve recently embarked into new relationship territory having found your significant other online, this can be a nervy time. You want to acknowledge the new person in your life but you don’t want to come across like a limpet or worse a serial killer.
Don’t fret our team of busy love cupids have been out there hand-picking the some alternative, low key yet romantic options for Valentine’s Day dates. So what are you waiting for, pucker up, look smart and perfect that Spotify Valentine’s Day playlist for the perfect night.
Let’s face it the weather is grim. It’s cold, wet, damp and dark and the thought of dining al fresco is most definitely off the menu. The solution? Create your very own indoor picnic and wine and dine your date in the warmth. Think fairy lights, music, some delicacies to share (chateaubriand is always delicious with someone special), giant faux fur throws and candles and you have all the ingredients for a perfect romantic night in. For a dash of extra cuteness order in some Valentine’s Day cookies for you to share.
There’s nothing more romantic than laying out looking the stars, but in the UK in the middle of winter, your date won’t thank you for this. Instead, why not head to one of the many planetariums across the UK for a night-time view of the sky sans the frigid temps. It will guarantee you some up close cuddle time.
‘If Music Be The Food of Love’…
When you are happy your brain releases feel-good chemicals endorphin, oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine. Dopamine, in particular floods your body and makes you relax and enjoy yourself. Why not look at local gigs and concerts, or even open mic nights that you could take your date to on Valentine’s Day. Obviously pick something you have the same taste in and then you can spend the night listening to a favourite group, relaxing in each other’s company, letting your guard and inhibitions down and you’re guaranteed to have something both to talk about into the wee small hours about later on whilst you get cosy.
Create a Love Nest
We live in a world obsessed with social media and documenting our lives; our Facebook feeds are full of pictures of our friends living ‘perfect’ lives. Sometimes though this obsession to post online distracts from the genuine sentiment of the moment.
Valentine’s Day is all about enjoying each other without distractions and interruptions so why not take a step back and turn your house into your own romantic hideaway. Somewhere where the two of you can decamp for 24 hours, phones off, curtains drawn, lights low, make a bed on the floor and just enjoy the quiet. Simple pleasures such as a long steamy shower together, massage, good food and lots of tactile touching are all ways to make you both feel good about being with each other. Your focus will be totally on each other giving each of you quality time, it is also much more personal than going away to a hotel.
Ultimately, it’s not about the grandiose nature of the gesture you choose to make it is just about making time to show that person that you care about them and that they make a difference to being part of your life. Even if you don’t give a Cupid’s arrow about Valentine’s Day, at the very least, it’s nice to put in a little extra effort to make your partner feel appreciated.
If you’re still looking for your significant other to spend Valentine’s Day with you’ve still got time to get online and find yourself a date. As a little helping hand from our in-house Cupid’s if you use the Plentymorefish discount code ‘PMFVDAY’ you can save 40% on our online dating membership plans. This offer is valid from today up until midnight on the 14th February. So get out there and get wooing.
If you’re lucky enough to have found love online then hopefully our Valentine’s Day date ideas will have given you some inspiration on how to celebrate it with your other half.
It won’t have escaped your attention that in just over three weeks the most romantic (and equally most dreaded) day of the year, Valentine’s Day, will be upon us.
For new couples this can be pretty daunting and place a lot of unnecessary pressure on a new relationship. You may have only met your perfect match online a few weeks ago, but you can already imagine the two of you on February 14th exchanging gifts and having a romantic evening together. You’ll spend ages finding the sweetest, wittiest card that has just enough sentiment without being too close to those three words ‘I love you’, you’ll painstakingly scour Not on the High Street for an appropriate Valentine’s Day gift and you’ll go all out and book that fancy new restaurant in town instead of the Chinese all you can eat buffet.
Stop! For a minute let’s all take a breather. Whilst there is nothing wrong in telling or showing someone how you much you like them, Valentines Day is just one day out of 364 others, and a meaningful relationship isn’t built over a bouquet of roses. Grand gestures pale in comparison to the littler acts of appreciation, thoughtfulness and sincerity.
When you start a new relationship everything is exciting. The simple ping of your phone telling you that you’ve got a message, those ‘good night’ and ‘good morning’ texts and those surprise date nights to pick you up and get you through a tough week are all little things that matter early on. It is about getting to know each other, what makes your partner tick, the little foibles and things that make you smile about each other. The unnecessary commercialism that is placed on Valentine’s Day takes all that away and it stops being a day to establish and grow your relationship and having fun.
Then there is the added problem of what if you and the person you’re seeing aren’t on the same page as to how to celebrate? Maybe one of you is all about grand gestures and going all out to treat the other person whilst the other partner is all about sentiment and “it’s the thought that counts.”
Do enough just to mark the day. By all means, acknowledge it but don’t make the whole day revolve or be about Valentine’s Day.
If you’re seeing each other during the day plan something different for an activity. Why not consider doing something quirky together such as going to a make your own pottery place and creating something together. Go to places that won’t be full of hundreds of other couples – head out to the countryside and find a nice country walk with a halfway pub. If you live near the coast take a walk along the headland and draw funny messages in the sand. Restaurants are over priced so get creative and consider doing something at home like a romantic picnic, add in some candles or fairy lights and big floor cushions and create a foodie delight to enjoy together. If your relationship is at that stage you could always play some naughty food games for fun and there are lots of aphrodisiac foods you can enjoy together!
These are just a couple of ideas on how you could spend Valentine’s Day with your new partner; if you have more we’d love to hear them.
Remember, that spending time together on Valentine’s Day is more important than anything, so make it count.
LET’S TAKE BACK VALENTINES DAY!
That’s right! Let’s take it back. Let’s make it ours.We urge singletons all over the UK to take part.Let’s see if we can use the power of social networking to rename Valentines day.
How we’re going to do it…
We would like you to come up with a new name for Valentines day. Tell us your new names in the comment section of this post, via Twitter (include @plentymorefish and #renamevalentinesday in your answer) or Facebook wallpost.
The best 5 names will win a FREE MONTH on PlentyMoreFish (UK only)and coverage on all our social networks.
So what would you rename Valentines day? Join in the fun and let’s make it a day for all of us singletons to celebrate too!
Please ensure that you have @PlentyMoreFish in your answer with #renamevalentinesday included. This makes it easier for us to compile all the answers and guarantees that none will slip through the net.