So, you’ve been dating for several months and things are going really well between you. You’ve even had ‘the Talk’, are exclusive and happily floating on cloud 9.
On a night out you and beloved take smoochie selfies and just as you are ready to type the caption and share it on your Insta you stop, asking yourself if it’s okay to make it ‘online official’.
It seems that switching your online status from ‘dating’ to ‘in a relationship’ has people all frazzled and many worry it comes with too many complications and only adds pressure to the relationship.
Some say it’s time “when you both agree it’s ok” whilst others are firmly in the “it’s nobody’s business” camp.
A survey by Jewelers F. Hinds only 32% of people would remove their dating profiles to confirm a relationship.
We think it all depends on the couple. It’s important that you both feel ready to declare it to the World (or not). So talk about it before taking this step.
Even if it doesn’t work out and you’re back to changing your status to ‘single’ – it is really that important to you what other people think?
What do you think? Cast your vote below
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So, you’ve scored! You’re on a date with a sexy single that you’ve met online and you know lots about them and their naughty side – winner! But, dating isn’t always just straight to the bedroom; sure you might have met and matched on Plenty More Naughty Fish or another casual, no-strings-attached dating site, but there’s more to it than just racing to the bedroom!
You’ll know that getting to know each other’s kinks before you get between the sheets can make not only your relationship but your sex life better. That’s very important! You’re hot-blooded, you have needs but it’s important to ask the right questions on your naughty date – then enjoy opening Pandora’s Box in the bedroom!
So, what questions should you ask?
Get to know your sexy suitor without being pushy or too forward; be open yourself and get them to reveal things about them that will help your relationship grow on a deeper level. Try some of these:
- What’s your biggest turn on?
- Is there a sexy scene from a movie we can recreate?
- What’s your sexual fantasy?
- Do you like playing dress-up?
- What’s the furthest you’ve gone on a first date?
- Do you keep toys in the bedroom?
- Where is a public place you’d get down and dirty in?
- Do you like sexting?
- Have you ever had a friend with benefits?
- Have you ever played strip poker?
With these questions, you could be getting hot under the collar in no time and getting to know each other on a deeper and more intimate level!
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Long gone are the days where people thought being on a dating website was for weirdoes.
Online dating is now a key part in today’s dating culture, and it’s actually one of the most successful and efficient ways to meet someone special. But most people just don’t know how to unlock this opportunity.
So here are our top 5 tips on how to make it easier to find love online.
- Be yourself
It can be so tempting to exaggerate or embellish your traits to help find a date but it’s important that you are honest on your dating profile (and IRL obv). Saying you are 6’1 when you are 5’5 may not seem like a big fib to you but your date might feel like they’ve been deceived. Stay honest and real and the right person will find you.
- Go on dates
It seems like an obvious one but it bears repeating – the more dates you go on the bigger the chances you will click with someone in real life. When looking for a new job you wouldn’t say no to turning up for an interview and expecting to get the job, would you? If you are serious about finding that special someone you’ll have to go out to find him or her. No hiding behind a computer screen!
- Stay optimistic
It can be really disheartening when you’ve been single for a while and feel like you’re the only person on Earth still left without a partner. To take the pressure off, focus on making a new friend rather than meeting the love of your life. This may seem weird at first, but if you’re too focused on ‘The One’ it may blind you to the possibilities out there. Most of the time it’s our own expectations that get in the way of connecting with the people around us. Go easy on yourself and your date!
- Check your dating profile
Coming back to point 1 (being honest) when was the last time you’ve checked in on your own dating profile. Are you honest about yourself? How old are your images? Sprucing up your dating profile can really boost your dating game. Check out our post on DATING PROFILE MISTAKES WOMEN HATE for some dating profile tips (also relevant for the ladies!) If in doubt, ask a straight-talking friend to check over your profile and give you some tips.
- Before you meet in person, have a phone convo
We know in today’s world having an actual phone may seem like your dating in the 90s but trust us when we say this should be the first step before you meet a date in person – no matter how much you liked them online. A phone call will give plenty of time to check if you have chemistry. After all, if you can’t talk over the phone, you are not likely to have much to say to each other in real life.
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So, you’ve found a naughty single in the Naughty Pond and you are in heaven! They are flirty, open and there are naughty messages flying around all over the place! You’ve never felt this excited about someone new and the thought of meeting and taking your naughty fling to the next level is almost too much for you… but how do you bridge that gap between online naughty dating and real-life sexy dating?
You might think that the mystique and suspense of online romance and naughtiness can’t be translated into real-life face to face flings but you can jump into the Naughty Pond easily with these tips!
Plan your meeting to be somewhere public and open. Even though you’ve been plenty more naughty dating together, potentially egging each other and riling each other up online, you may not want to jump straight in the sack as soon as you lay eyes on each other. It’s always best to plan to meet in a public, open space just in case you get cold feet. This means that you can take your time chatting, checking each other out in real life and deciding where you should go next.
The naughty pond is filled with sexy singles but you need to make sure the one you have hooked is the right one for you – so don’t rush it! If your sexy date wants to go for dinner and drinks don’t rush them into the bedroom – let’s face it, nothing good ever happens in the bedroom that’s rushed and overall too quick! Take your time getting to know each other and enjoy the real-life factor.
Don’t have expectations that are too high. We get it, you’ve been flirting, winking and sexting with this single for ages now, your relationship is more than just an online fling by now. But it can be easier to be brave from behind a screen. The naughty single that you’ve fallen for while online dating could be more reserved in real life – and that’s ok! The seriously raunchy level to them is still in there, the fun will be in patiently unravelling it together!
Be patient. Patience, as they say, is a virtue. Usually, the best sexual encounters come from being made to wait… it’s torture but it’s the best pain you’ll ever feel in the bedroom. Your real-life date will be much the same. The chit chat and flirty glances could feel like foreplay and the dinner and drinks could get you hot under the collar – if you’re patient enough you could score the whole nine yards – and wouldn’t it be worth it?!
Be naughty! This one is a no-brainer! You have found your naughty match and you won’t be looking for plenty more fish again for a while, you’ve hooked a winner and you’re planning on taking it home to baste, oil up and cook. Your naughtiness could be matched with your new fling and once the introductions and dates are out of the way, it can be time to dive into the naughtiness and get down and dirty together! You can finally do everything you’ve been talking about and I bet it’ll feel like a huge relief – and then it’ll be time to do it all over again!
Be safe. It’s 2019, it doesn’t need to be said at the top of our voices. Casual sex and hookups are a thing of our time and it’s cool. But remember to be safe, take protection and look after yourself over anyone else! It’s simple, it’s effective and let’s be honest, it saves a whole lot of headache!
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We spent a lot of time online. A.LOT.OF.TIME. So we can confidently say we’ve seen our fair share of men’s dating profiles. Some good, some amazing, and some…well, let’s just say there’s room for improvement. Sorry, lads – we have to call it. It’s always surprising when someone looking for love doesn’t seem to put any effort into creating at least a ‘decent-ish’ dating profile.
So from a female perspective here are the biggest dating profile turn-offs.
We get it – you like your friends. But if your dating profile comprises of mostly group shots you are turning it into a game of “Where’s Wally”. Worse yet, looking at you in group shots with other ladies. What exactly are you telling a potential date? She won’t know if the other woman in the pic is your ex or your sis, and as soon as confusion sets in, she’ll be on to the next profile. Make it easy for her to see whose profile she’s looking at.
Sex doesn’t sell
That’s right, Gentlemen, your abs may be harder than the surface of our office desk but we really don’t want to see them in your dating profile. Whilst we can all appreciate a bit of eye candy, that’s what Instagram is for. Your dating profile isn’t a place to hawk the goods unless you’re after a no-strings-attached-date, in which case check out our Naughty Pond. If you are looking for a relationship, add photos of you in well-fitting clothes that compliment your nice physique. If in doubt, ask yourself if you would show that pic to your Nan.
If I could turn back time
That ‘used by date’ applies to images too, or at least it should. Any images of you that are older than your mobile phone should not make it onto your dating profile. How would you feel if your date shows up to a dinner date having suddenly aged 20 years? It’s not a great way to start off! The same applies to fibbing about your age, height, hobbies, anything really – just be honest, please.
Let’s face it
Your profile pic should not make you look like you ought to be on Crime Watch. We cannot tell you how many photos we’ve seen taken by low light, with a shadowy figure staring down into a webcam. It’s simply creepy af and is not going to get you dates. Instead, go for images taken in natural daylight. Ask a trusted friend and head to the garden or the park and take a few pictures – preferably headshots. So – you know – she can see your actual face!
Gents, if any the above describes your dating profile, we hope you take our well-intentioned advice and put some effort into updating it. We really want you to find that special someone. So start with your dating profile and put your best (virtual) foot forward.
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It’s not always easy to find something to do with your date – especially as the days get shorter. Dinner and a movie are safe and boring. But don’t worry, we got you covered. Why not try one of our favourite dating ideas?
Cream of the crop
One of our favourite dating activities at this time of year is visiting a Harvest Festival. With a huge variety of different festivals happening each week across the country – especially if you are a foodie. Each festival has a different way to celebrate autumn, from gin and pie tasting to craft demonstrations and foraging tours – there’s something for everyone. Check out Country File’s favourite harvest festivals for some inspiration or browse the net for a local listing near you.
Autumn is undoubtedly the best season to get out and take some photographs. You and your date can take some really creative and Insta-worthy shots of each other with minimal effort or equipment. Not only will you have tons of fun but you’ll also create lasting memories. #relationshipgoals
Go Go Glamping
As it gets colder it’s also a great time to cosy up. Whilst booking a hotel is nice, it’s also a tad snooze-worthy. But rather than go full-on Bear Grylls on your lover, consider the unusual options of glamping. Stay in a safari tent or a treehouse for a weekend out of the ordinary but with most of the creature comforts. Certainly beats a boring hotel room, right? To get inspired visit Canopy & Stars.
Après-Ciate the slopes
This is for the sporty couples among you. If you haven’t tried skiing yet, you’re missing out on a whole lot of fun. To get started, book some time on an indoor ski slope (just Google ‘ski slopes near me’). Impress your date with your graceful – or not so graceful – moves. And who knows? You might end up booking a winter ski break for two.
Cook up some magic
Cookery classes are as varied as there are culinary tastes. Whether you are an accomplished hobby chef or barely manage not to burn the toast, you’ll be spoilt for choice. And what’s not to like? You get to work together as a team preparing, cooking – and importantly – eating a meal. I mean, food! Right? Regardless of how the meal turns out, you might just learn a thing or two about cooking – or your date!
If you got it, haunt it!
Strong emotions – such as fear – are known to make someone more attractive, so our next idea is set to bring you close than ever – muhahaha! Check out Haunted Happenings for a hooooge offering of mystery and spookiness. Stay at a Haunted Inn or go on a fully-fledged ghost hunt a la Scooby-Doo. Whatever you decide to go with, this type of date activity is guaranteed to send tingles up your spine. We’ll leave it up to you to find out if that’s a good thing or not.
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Chemistry alone is not an indicator of a successful long-term relationship. Going the distance takes effort (on both parts) and a real dedication to making it work. Once the honeymoon phase is over and routine kicks in we tend to forget that it’s often the smaller and less obvious things that make or break a relationship.
Happy and healthy relationships are built on fundamental behaviours that ensure both partner’s needs are met, leading to a deeper understanding and strengthened the bond.
To quote Salt-N-Pepa, “Let’s talk about sex, baby.” Yes, sex is a form of communication. One form. There are so many other ways couples communicate and every person has different needs. Knowing how your partner needs to be shown love – touch, words, gestures, intimacy – will make all the difference. Don’t fall into the trap thinking that just because you are a touchy-feely person, your partner is the same. He/she may feel loved when they are praised or told they are loved. Happy couples understand this difference and make a real effort to show their partner they are loved in a way they understand.
In a healthy partnership, winning isn’t about having the last word or being right. It’s about each of you feeling happy with the outcome. When your ego becomes more important than your relationship you’re on a path that will only lead to heartache. It all comes back to communication – truly hearing your partner and understanding what they need is just as important as your own needs. The key is to focus what this means for your partnership and less for you as an individual, from there you work towards a mutually happy outcome.
You can’t be in a relationship when you don’t trust your partner. If your partner displays behaviours that make you suspicious even though you aren’t a jealous person, it won’t work. Equally, if you mistrust your current partner because you’ve been hurt in the past and you’re reading into things, your relationship is going to fail. Trust boils down to respect and healthy boundaries. Identify what a trusting partnership looks like to each of you and communicate this to each other.
“Thank you” and “I’m sorry”
Words almost as hard to utter as “I love you”, but words that can bond and heal. Admitting when you are wrong or showing gratitude for your partner are key factors for any relationship but especially a romantic one. No one is always right and no one likes to be taken for granted. Hearing a sincere “I’m sorry for….” shows maturity, vulnerability and a high degree of self-awareness. On the flipside – forgiveness and gratitude are equally as important.
This means different things to different people. Some couples are in an open relationship whereas others prefer a more traditional approach. Make sure these boundaries clear from the start. Set an expectation early on before you get too invested. Honesty and authenticity are integral to building a solid foundation for your partnership.
Follow this advice and you’ll be sure on your way to a mature and lasting relationship.
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