Friends with Benefits – The Do’s and Don’ts for No-Strings Attached Relationships
Let’s be honest, a ‘friends with benefits’ deal is super fun, carefree and oh so sexy. All of the sex and none of the snooze. Sign me up!
As fun as FWB situationships are though, they can be just as tricky to navigate if there are no established ground rules. “But”, I hear you say, “what about the no-strings?”
Well my friend, I hate to burst your bubble but there’s not really a no-strings-deal. As with anything in life, love and horny hookups there are do’s and don’ts. Can you tell people you two are shagging or should you keep it to yourself? Can you bring a third person to the party or is it just you two? What if one of you wants to get more serious and start having a relationship i.e. catches feelings?
When lines start to get blurry your once fun and carefree relationship can quickly turn sour and no one wants that. So, don’t play fast and loose with peoples’ feelings and make sure you set some rules and boundaries right from the start to avoid heartbreak, drama and disappointments.
So, here’s what you should address if you want to keep it fun and light:
Be open and honest
Open communication is probably the most important factor in having a successful FWB relationship. Both of you need to be crystal clear about your intentions and expectations and you both need to be on board with them. It’s no use agreeing to something and hoping it will change later down the line or assuming that your friend will know what you meant when you described your relationship as casual. Clearly define what that means.
Is this REALLY for you?
On the subject of being honest…are you being honest with yourself? Have you considered if this is really for you? Can you handle the uncertainty that this type of relationship brings? Are you mature enough to separate sex and feelings? If the answer is no to any of the above, it’s advisable to stay clear and look for someone who wants the same things.
Protect Yourself
Think unwanted pregnancy. Think STDs. Whatever you do, please always practice safe sex – ALWAYS!!! Insist on condoms – no exceptions. It’s not worth the risk.
Check your expectations
A friends with benefits relationship is quite different from a romantic relationship. Don’t confuse the two and adjust your expectations – it’s boink and go. If you are looking for flowers, presents and deep conversations, you’re on the wrong path my friend.
Avoid doing things couples do
You know this is a temporary arrangement so don’t complicate matters by introducing them to your inner circle like family. Also, stay clear of couple-y behaviour like cuddling after sex, going shopping together and staying for breakfast if you want to keep it casual.
Don’t get jealous
Remember, this is casual and should come without strings so don’t turn into the green-eyed monster when they find someone else to hookup with. It’s not cheating and you’re both allowed to meet other people. If this wasn’t clear you haven’t set or discussed those crucial ground rules.
Above all, a no strings attached relationship is meant to be fun!
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Ready to get your kink on?
In recent years kink and BDSM have gained mainstream popularity and are no longer viewed as activities for the perverted few. And for good reasons. The world of Kink/BDSM (Bondage, Discipline/Domination, Sadism, Masochism) is as vast as there are forms of human sexual desires so there is something for everyone looking to get their rocks off. When practiced safely, BDSM can be hugely liberating, empowering and OH-SO-GOOD.
But whilst getting kinky is certainly fun, it can also do some real harm. Before you get all kinds of fifty shades, it is important to discuss any fantasies and activities before you try them, always get explicit consent from your partner and always set clear rules.
Ok, now that we got that important titbit out of the way, let’s add some zesty zing to that vanilla sex life of yours. Here are some safe kinks for you to try before expanding your ‘sexpertoire’ to more advanced levels.
Spanking
Definitely high on the list of fantasies for many, light spanking is a great way to get going with kink play. Start slowly using your hands and work your way up in intensity and choice of spanking tool (paddle, belt, whip). Don’t restrict your spanking to the buttock either, loads of people like to have their private parts spanked.
Hair Pulling
Pain and pleasure centres are closely connected and pulling a woman’s hair activates the nerve endings at the back of her neck, increasing the sensation she feels, especially during arousal. Combine this with naughty whispers and she’ll be writhing with pleasure.
Dirty Talk
Speaking of naughty whispers… discussing which words are ok (and not ok) to use during sex which includes name calling are all part of the consent parcel that should be agreed on before jumping in. Also consider which safe words you’ll use to let your partner know when it’s ok to keep going (green), when to slow down (yellow) and when to stop (red).
Light Bondage
If being tied up gets you going, start with a tie or a scarf at first. These are soft materials and are less likely to hurt or leave marks before you graduate to more serious kit like ropes and cuffs. Always make sure that blood circulation isn’t cut off (two fingers space between scarf and skin). Adding a blindfold to your play is going to bring focus to your other senses and the lack of control.
Restraints
Another form of bondage is restraining. Tying your partner to the bed while having your wicked way with them is a real turn on for many. If you are thinking of adding restraints to your routine, there are great options available online that are safe to use and great for beginners (check for quick release features).
Biting
Through biting (and clamps) you get to explore the world of arousal through pain. Much like hair pulling, biting is an amazingly simple, yet effective, stimulus. Use your safe words to control the intensity and try all the different body parts. Some people really like to have their nipples bitten, whilst others prefer their neck area.
Dominance/Submission
When you first start exploring a sub/dom dynamic define what each role means to you – there are so many possible interpretations and it’s important to be clear. A great way to apply this is through role play like student and teacher or queen and butler. Another simple tool to create a sub/dom scenario is the use of ‘master’ and ‘mistress’ during kink play time or being tied up whilst giving oral.
As we said before – there is something for everyone and these are obviously only a few ideas to get your kinky appetite going. Hop online for more salacious inspiration and and if you’re still looking for someone to explore your frisky fantasies with, check out our naughty dating pond.
How To Save Your Naughty Relationship During Lockdown
Lockdown in the UK has been extended for a minimum of three more weeks and the likeliness of getting out to see your hot match before the end of April is looking slimmer by the day. Whether your naughty relationship is on firm ground or you’ve been just keeping things casual before lockdown, being separated from your match can be tough. It can really take its toll on any relationship – casual, romantic, old and new. Here at the Naughty Pond, we’ve put together some helpful tips to help you save your naughty relationship during lockdown!
Use your space
This might sound silly in the middle of a pandemic when all you have is space away from each other, but space is important. If you are all over each other too much you can start to feel suffocated. Space is good, space is healthy and as the old saying goes, absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
This is especially important when considering your own state of mind. If you are feeling a wave of negativity, hopelessness and anger coming towards you like a tsunami, take yourself away, let your hot match know that you need some time and make sure they don’t get washed away in your distress.
No doubt your match will be having similar episodes that will leave them feeling lost, scared and panicked.
Space during this time is key – for your own mind and for your naughty relationship!
Keep things exciting
If, like many of the readers of this blog, you met your match in the Naughty Pond, you will know a thing or two about keeping things exciting. Excitement and anticipation are the foundations of your hot and sexy relationship! But with time and distance hanging between you like an uncrossable canyon, the excitement can wear off.
Why not set each other some exciting tasks that will get the heart pumping and the anticipation back?
Why not send your naughty match a sexy message during the day when you know they’ll be working and trying to concentrate? How about leaving them a suggestive voice note or voice message asking them to call you as soon as possible? You could even send a naughty picture to let them know what they’re missing!
Send each other gifts
Is there anything better, during this awful time, than opening your front door to see a gift on your doorstep? Be it a bunch of flowers, some washing up liquid or a naughty toy to keep you busy, gifts are the only thing getting us through!
So why not send your naughty match something that will make them smile – along with something that will make them moan!
Put together a sex bucket list
Sex is important in any relationship. But for a purely casual, hot relationship sex is a huge part of what makes you tick! So, why not spend some time during lockdown putting together a sex bucket list that is filled with fantasies and naughty ideas on what you’d like to do (and be done to you) when you’re free!
It can include stuff like:
- play dress up
- sex in public
- fun with food
- sex where you know you’ll get caught
- pillow fort in the living room sex
- tying each other up
and so much more…
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Naughty Dating Lockdown Slang
Lockdown doesn’t have to be a complete turn-off, right? Naughty dating is thriving now that people are stuck at home with no hotties to go out and see and the lockdown has brought about some brilliant new dating terms, guides and ideas!
Here is a rundown of the newest naughty dating lockdown slang!
Quarantine & Chill
Remember Netflix & Chill? Well now that we’re stuck in quarantine and locked down, there’s no better way to waste your days watching the Tiger King, vegging out together and hooking up – a lot! If you’re a fairly new couple, make sure you are safe to hop over to each other’s places and stay for the long haul!
Hamstering
Remember back at the start of the Corona outbreak when people went mental and started panic buying and hoarding stuff? What a crazy time. Well in naughty dating, there are singles who are Hamstering. You know how a hamster stuffs everything into their cheeks to save for later? Well, hamstering in naughty dating is when you hoard all of your naughty contacts ready for when you’re set free. Lining up your shags while in lockdown. Genius.
Corona Clinger
Much like the dreaded post-Summer singledom and Cuffing, the Corona Clinger is someone who is desperate not to be lonely while on lockdown and self-isolating. A Corona Clinger isn’t always a positive thing and the feeling of being constantly attached at the hip, or the phone can be off-putting but Cuffing works for many.
Corona Cabin Fever
So, we’re some way into lockdown now and things are getting desperate. Corona Cabin Fever is where you will settle for any kind of action – be it your housemate, your foreign exchange hotty next door and anything else in between!
We get it, you’re desperate to get it out of your system, no judgement here guys!
Past Rona
We’re all ready for this to be over now right? Well if you’re already planning your life Past Rona, you’re not alone. Many singles looking for a naughty hook up are planning romantic dates, hot hookups and naughty fun!
What Corona slang are you guilty of?
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Wave Goodbye To Selfish Lovers With The Naughty Pond
Let’s talk about buzzkills, shall we? Is there anything worse than a selfish lover? I mean, of course there is, there’s bad breath, terrible in-laws and even the alarm on a Monday morning but a selfish lover or someone that is only after one goal in the bedroom has got to be up there, doesn’t it?
We’ve all been there – male or female. We’ve all had at least one encounter with someone who talks the talk but when you get them back to your bed are basically a surfboard. We all know someone who thinks that they are the best for giving oral but when it comes to crunch time they just don’t fancy it anymore. And it’s rubbish.
All of that is without even mentioning those sneaky ones that get us into bed and then self serve, get what they need and then roll off to sleep, to shower or to leave.
Selfish lovers are just the worst. You may think that this is just something that happens when you find someone you take to bed or hook up with but it doesn’t have to be this way!
With the many sexy and kinky members on Plenty More Naughty Fish, you can find someone that is not only not selfish in the bedroom but gets off on getting you off!
The Naughy Pond is an online dating site that is packed with sexy singles looking for one thing and one thing only – hookups and no-strings, casual fun! Our members only want casual one-night stands and naughty rendezvous. They are all about the excitement and sex is the top of their list when it comes to making matches.
With the Naughty Pond, you don’t have to worry about getting to know all about someone’s nan, dog or job – you can hop, skip and jump over that bore fest and get straight to the fun of naughty adult dating!
You can find matches by their kinks while exploring your own! If you want to find someone who is selfless and loves oral, simply give them a search. If you fancy yourself with someone who is experimental with things like food in the bedroom and water sports, you can search for them! You may want to be brave and try something completely new and out of your comfort zone with them – like anal or toys!
The main aim of the members of the Naughty Pond is to find someone who will get their heart racing, blood pumping and hot under the collar. Many members in the Naughty Pond like to be selfless with their sexual endeavours and want to experiment and try new things!
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Lockdown Hookups
How is lockdown working out for you? Are you loving being stuck at home or are you over it? It looks like it might be a long old slog until we’re all allowed out of the house and into the sunshine but when it finally happens it’ll be amazing. However, being on lockdown doesn’t mean that your naughty appetite is stopped and your want for hot hookups isn’t there. In fact, being stuck inside day and night can often stoke the fires of the horn and make you want hot hookups more.
Here at the Naughty Pond we’ve got some lockdown hookup tips and advice that could help you release the beast and warm up for a summer (hopefully) of fun!
Naughty Pond Hookups
You’re working from home now, right? If you’re lucky enough to be able to do this, you’ll be on your laptop, phone or tablet all day. This means that you can spend time between emails and conference calls to find local singles online that are horny and looking to hook up. Online dating is buzzing while everyone’s stuck at home and the conventional hours of chatting, sexting and planning hookups have gone out of the window – people are now sitting on their laptops at 11am tweaking their online profile and uploading sexy selfies. They no longer wait until the late hours to chat to hot singles, they’re doing it between lunch and afternoon meetings.
With The Naughty Pond you can find loads of naughty singles and chat easily to those looking to get flirty all day and all night long. The Naughty Pond makes hooking up easy and accessible whenever you need it! It’s easy to use and you can filter your horny search by things like favourite sex position and appearance. We’ve made hooking up easier in lockdown, that’s for sure!
Sext Hookups
Who doesn’t love a good sext? Sending sexy and flirty messages is a great way to get fires burning and get juices flowing. You can sext naughty singles easily all day while you’re stuck at home. You can plan your real-life hookup and tease each other with messages, photos and even videos. You can size up what your long, hot summer will look like from your bed!
Video Hookups
We’re all chatting and communicating via video chat now. Whether you’re planning a Friday night House Party session with your pals or you’re FaceTiming your parents to get some normality, video-enabled chat is the way forward for lockdown. There are plenty of apps and programmes out there built to bring you closer to those you miss. Why not use this software to hook up? You can plan screen time together and play on video to each other. It’s a sure-fire way to get you hot and steamy for your real-life hookup! It’s also a good way to size up what’s waiting for you!
Social Media Hookups
We don’t know about you but the screen time notification on our Iphones have shown a huge increase since we’ve been stuck at home – people are finding themselves scrolling mindlessly through Insta and Snapchat all day long. But this could be another way to hookup this lockdown! If you see hot selfies and videos, why not give them a double-tap and slide into their DMs. You could be hooking up virtually in no time if the feeling is mutual.
There are loads of ways to hookup in this new virtual world – and with the Naughty Pond you can easily line up real-life hookups for when we’re free. The Naughty Pond is an easy and fun way to chat and connect with hot singles who are looking for no strings attached fun, it’s a hookup no brainer!
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Plenty More Naughty Messaging & Sexting Tips!
Adult dating in the Naughty Pond is easy and so much fun; Plenty More Naughty Fish is an online dating site created to bring together sexy singles who want nothing more than naughty hookups and no strings attached fun! If you’re a member of the Naughty Pond, you’ll know that it’s easy to search, connect and message the sexy members – but what if your sexting talents are naff? Lucky for you, we’ve got some sexting and messaging top tips to get your phone buzzing like an old fridge!
As a member of the Naughty Pond, you’ll probably be receiving saucy messages a lot so initiating them probably won’t be a problem for you. If you’re shy, anxious or new to adult dating, this can make you feel at ease straight away. One thing our members aren’t is shy – they love to recruit new friends with benefits and if you fit their sexy search criteria then you could be receiving naughty messages left, right and centre.
However, if you do want to initiate a sexy message session with an absolute worldie, just remember to stay cool and be confident! Keep your opening lines just that – open! Don’t commit to anything massive, keep it bright and breezey. Start with something like “I’ve been dreaming about someone like you all my life..” – get them laughing and you’re onto a winner! Always be complimentary and positive. You could go for less cheese with something like “I can’t stop thinking about you from your pics!” – and then just sit and wait for the responses!
It’s always best to cut your teeth with naughty messaging with sexts that are short and sweet – let’s be honest, no one gets off reading something as long as War and Peace! It’s also good to pace yourself, sexting and naughty messaging in the Naughty Pond should be treated like foreplay – slowly building the temptation, anticipation and horniness until it’s time to blow!
Don’t take it too seriously! The members in the Naughty Pond are game for a laugh and they want hookups and sexy fun – they’re not looking for matches because they want to catch feelings and end with a mortgage and commitment. By keeping your sexy messages light and silly, you avoid any awkwardness or turn offs!
Keep it humorous – so many women say that they’ve been ‘laughed into bed’, and they mean it! If you’re a Jack-the-Lad and love nothing more than flirty banter or taking the mick, let that shine through in your sexy messages and sexts. Sexy and funny go hand in hand!
Make sure you don’t ask yes or no questions… have your match waiting on every message and have them anticipating what’s next with questions that aren’t closed. You want to get to know more about them, what makes them tick and what gets them excited, use naughty messaging to tease the details out of them that you wouldn’t get from vanilla messaging!
Our last piece of advice would be to leave a little something to the imagination! You are sending loads of sexy messages, you’re getting on like a house on fire so don’t feel like you have to rush it by giving it all away. Imagine how hot and steamy your first meet up will be with all of that anticipation and sexual tension flying around!
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Fun Things To Do In Self-Isolation
So, the world has gone a bit mad, hasn’t it!? Corona Virus has forced us to lockdown, the majority of people are now self-isolating and working from home and there’s just no fun, is there? The idea of working from home sounds great but you still actually have to work. It’s not yet warm enough to escape into the sunshine of your garden and your local supermarket might as well be a scene out of The Walking Dead.
But there are loads of fun naughty things to do while you’re in self-isolation.
Here are some fun ideas on what you can do to entertain yourself while on lockdown!
- Go through your little black book of matches. We’ve all got one that is filled with weekend flings, regular hookups and the odd worldie. Now that you’re stuck at home, there’s no better time to order your little black book of hotties and warm them up with your chat while you wait for this all to blow over.
- Get sexy ready. Being at home all day and all night can mean one of two things: you eat all of your quarantine snacks in one big binge and put on weight. OR, you get fitter for when we’re finally allowed out for summer. Why not go for option number two? Use this time to slim down, beef up and look as fit as hell for the summer!
- Take some naughty selfies. It’s the perfect time to really get that selfie just right. You’ve got all the time in the world to get the best poses down, dress up if you want to and turn yourself on!
- Online shop – for sex toys! There’s literally no better time to fill your basket and your boots with naughty goodies and keep practising while you’re on lockdown!
- Start naughty online dating. Why not join the Naughty Pond while it’s quiet out there and see what all the fuss is about? There are more members than ever enjoying the features of the Naughty Pond – because we’re all in the same boat!
If you’re bored at home and you don’t know what to do with yourself, online dating in the Naughty Pond is the way forward!
You can find loads of naughty singles looking to chat, flirt and talk dirty with!
Naughty Dating & Corona Virus
No matter where you go, online or offline, you can’t avoid hearing or reading about Corona Virus. It’s something that has literally swept the nation and it’s made people crazy; your local supermarket has been ransacked and people are trying to flog hand sanitizer for £25. The world has gone nuts. But, if you’re one of the lucky ones that have been told to self-isolate and crowd-distance it’s best you stay at home and not to come into work then the world is your oyster.
Corona Virus doesn’t have to affect how naughty you get! It’s the perfect opportunity to fine-tune your online dating profile, take naughty snaps, share them and message new hotties that are also on house arrest!
If you’re not infected and fancy getting naughty, there’s nothing stopping you from organising a mid-afternoon romp with your favourite friend-with-benefits or planning a midweek meetup at home with someone who’s caught your eye online!
Let’s face it, there are going to be more people than ever online right now looking to get out their kinks and take the edge off house arrest – there has literally never been a better time to find loads of people to flirt, message and chat with. Your inbox could be filling up as you read this.
People are going to be feeling cooped up and struck with cabin fever – why not be there for them with your best naughty chat up lines, best sexting and naughtiest selfies? It’s a no brainer – you’re stuck at home and frustrated and so are so many sexy singles!
So, what are you waiting for? Organise that naughty afternoon romp between conference calls, spruce yourself before a midweek hook-up and clean yourself top to toe for someone on one contact!
If you’ve not yet got a Corona Virus friend with benefits, why not join the Naughty Pond now! It’s free to join and easy to find exactly what you’re looking for!
Easy ways to heat up your naughty romance
Your relationship started hot and heavy, right? There were naughty messages flying around and dirty weekends were every weekend! You thought the fun would never end and you were sure you’d found your perfect match – for a long term relationship and in the bedroom!
But, as with all relationships, things settle down, a new normal rhythm is found and the naughty times are a distant memory. But those early, sex-filled memories still get you hot under the collar and it’s the only thing missing from your perfect relationship.
Now you’re wondering, what can be done to heat up this once very naughty relationship?
Do not fear! There is so much that can be done to spice up any relationship, no matter how deep into it you are! Some ideas include:
- Have a night in – make it naughty! No, we don’t mean a takeaway and falling asleep in front of the TV like every other night in – we mean a night in where the rules are strict and the sex is sensual!
- Make some rules:
> no clothes on in the bedroom
> drinking games and stripping games ONLY
> no mention of work, the kids, the bills – all of the usual turn-offs And get naughty – lock yourself in the bedroom, get a babysitter or simply do it in the dead of night – a night with must-happen hot sex is on! - Go on a date – and wear no underwear! We’re serious! Get dressed up in your best gear, dress to the nines and then before you go out, show each other the underwear you “forgot” to put on – it’ll get your juices flowing before the taxi even arrives! Keep it kinky with regular feels and check-ups to see how each other are coping through a painfully slow dinner date!
- Get adventurous! Do you have any fantasies or forgotten fantasies? Go wild, dress up, commit to the part and let your fantasies be real. It doesn’t have to be too elaborate if it’s simply being tied up and controlled, get creative! Take it one step further by adding costumes!
- Resurrect your sexy underwear draw – more for the ladies than the men but my God will your man be gagging for it! Throw out your old fail-safe knickers and that holey bra that you usually get into bed with. Treat yourself to some new, well-fitting and naughty knickers – go crotchless, why not!? You deserve new sexy bras – the high street is full of sexy balconette bras, hide and seek sets and hold-ups for every shape and size! You’ll be feeling excitement just trying naughtily putting them through till hoping not to be seen!
- Go away for the night. Remember that thrill of planning a dirty weekend away? Being oh so careful about what to pack, what to wear, what not to wear. The anticipation of packing and driving there was almost enough to tip you over the edge. Well, why not plan your next dirty weekend to spice up your naughty life? It doesn’t have to be far-flung or even super-posh – for what you’ve got planned, all you’ll need is a bed, bathroom and plenty of peace and quiet and privacy!
If you need more help on how to spice up your relationship, stay tuned for more!
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