7 signs you are in a healthy relationship
You don’t keep secrets
Happy couples know that keeping secrets will only hurt their partner, and their relationship so they are open and honest with each other.
You have fun
In a healthy relationship you can be yourself and that includes being able to make a fool of yourself. When you are comfortable with one another, you are more willing to open up and show your silly side.
You share responsibilities
When one person spends Saturday morning cleaning and doing the laundry while the other one chills out in front of the TV, it’s not an even share of responsibilities. Divvying up the work is a sign of an equal and healthy partnership that is based on mutual respect. You are a team in all aspects of life.
You spend time on your own
In a healthy relationship you can and are both encouraged to have your own life, circle of friends and interests. There’s no jealousy or constant checking up on the other person.
You appreciate each other
As you get comfy in your relationship, routine sets and you could start to take each other for granted. However happy couples continue to make an effort and remain appreciative of each other. They remember why they fell in love in the first place.
Open communication is the cornerstone to a happy and healthy relationship. Expressing of and listening to feelings without the fear of being judged or criticised is a sign of emotional maturity and encourages trust between two people.
You are intimate
Sex is another form of communication and couples who have sex on a regular basis are often happier than couples who don’t.
Dealing with Dating Doldrums
We all have different expectations when it comes to dating online and offline. Some may want to date casually, whilst others are looking to find a partner for life. For those of you who fall into the latter category, dating can become frustrating at times, especially when you have been on the market for a while. Sadly, no matter how great you are at dating, there are simply no guarantees that you will find that perfect catch right away.
While questionnaires and personality tests can help narrow down your search, they can only get you so far. You may be perfect for each other on paper but when you meet in person, there may not be any chemistry. So at times, you may feel like giving up and resigning yourself to eternal singledom. If that’s the case, you may be suffering from what we call the dreaded Dating Doldrums.
When suffering from Dating Doldrums, you may adopt a negative mindset and could even cause you to make bad decisions about who you date, how often you date, and how you respond to potential dates. The key to kick the DD’s in the Bum-Bum is to focus on having fun again. When you treat each new date is an opportunity to meet someone interesting and as an opportunity to have fun, socialise or to simply enjoy life, the whole process takes on a different flavour. So why put pressure on yourself?
The more you live in the moment, the more enjoyable your life and dating life will become. I hope this post has got you thinking and I shall leave you with a quote that I feel we should all live by:
My advice for life: dance and sing your song while the party is still on. ~ Rasheed Ogunlaru
Here at Plenty More Fish we firmly believe that dating should be fun. So we ask you: “When was the last time you went on a date simply with the intention of enjoying yourself?”
Body Talks – Is your date attracted to you?
Ladies, how often have you been on a date and have asked yourself what your date is thinking and wondered whether he fancies you or not? How often did you come away from a date and thought he likes you, only to never hear from him again? Frustrating, right? Wouldn’t it be great if you could read the signs better and avoid this type of disappointment?
Well you can! To understand the signs of attraction or the lack of, you will need to delve into the art of reading body language. We all do it on a subconscious level every day and women choose from 52 moves to show men they’re interested, whereas the average man chooses from a maximum of 10 to attract a woman. So us gals have it a lot easier to spot what he’s subconsciously feeling and here are 3 giveaways*:
Watch the eyebrows
Pay close attention to his eyebrows. If he likes you, he’ll raise them for a split second, or more precisely, a fifth of a second. A flash of the eyebrow is a good measure for spotting interest. It’s something we all do, regardless of age, ethnicity or class. But as it’s so subtle, it’s very easy to miss. When you do spot it though, you can use it to your advantage and raise your brows deliberately in response to signal clear interest. It’ll be like a billboard sign flashing the words “I like you”.
Watch the mouth
If his lips part slightly for a moment when your eyes meet, he likes what he sees. He’ll flare his nostrils slightly, his eyes will widen and his body and feet will point towards you. Generally his face and demeanor will appear more ‘open’, more approachable as to closed off.
Watch the movements
Movements such as smoothing down his hair or adjusting his tie are all part of what experts call preening gestures. It’s like the female lip licking, meaning “I want to look my best for you”. Preening happens involuntarily and more often than people think. To check this, excuse yourself as you head to the ladies and casually look over your shoulder, and you may just catch him adjusting his appearance.
So, there you have it. For more tips and tricks on reading body language we can recommend The Definitive Book of Body Language: How to Read Others’ Attitudes by Their Gestures by Allan and Barbara Pease.
*The above paragraphs are guidelines. Circumstances, like the nerves and pressures of a first date, can influence someone’s behaviour. But in case it does turn out, he’s not that into you, remember, there’s plenty more fish in the sea and your perfect catch is out there.
6 reasons to try online dating
Evidence suggests that the stigma associated with dating online is continuously crumbling. It is no longer a place for the “cyber geeks” to hang out but a place for people like you to have fun, date and perhaps even meet the man / woman of your dreams!
So here I propose to you our top reasons for jumping on the online dating bandwagon:
There’s a HUGE pool of potential dates
We have over 1.5 million members to search through and this is constantly growing.
You can find dates in your PJ’s
I think this has got to be one of my favourite reasons to give the online dating world a go. You can get into your pyjamas, pour yourself a cheeky glass of wine and sift through all the people matching your search preferences.
You can filter out unsuitable dates through the search options
By doing this, you can view members that match your search preferences based on things like age, whether they have a profile picture or not and their location. So no awkward questions – perfect! There are also always new faces to see and meet and you can find these easily by searching for our new members
There are Niche sites out there to suit your preferences
At PlentyMoreFish we currently have 3 ponds: The Single Pond, The Silver Pond and The Naughty Pond.
Logging on to find winks and messages from fellow members is a very exciting experience and can give you a great confidence boost.
Paid dating sites are usually moderated
If you are paying for membership on a site, there are usually people behind the scenes checking out each and every member. This is why paid dating sites like us are much safer than the free sites. We work hard to ensure scammers are eradicated and that only genuine people can join our site.
So, what are you waiting for? Get fishing, get dating!
Hello, my name is Datezilla
You have been single for some time now and regularly go on dates in your attempt to find Mr/Miss Right. Yet, somehow it’s not happening and you are slowly beginning lose hope that you will ever find that special person. This is natural and it happened to me too. I was single for almost 2 years and each time I went on a date, I kept thinking to myself, “Gosh, I hope he’s The One!” Needless to say that my high expectations were dashed each time.
So, what’s changed? I told a friend about my situation, and true to her straight shooting character, she bluntly told me to, “just chill”. I was hurt and miffed at first. Didn’t she know how important this was? How serious?
Recalling my most recent dates, I was embarrassed to think of my behaviour, realising I had been trying way too hard and as a result I had scared them all away.
That’s when it hit me. I had turned into Datezilla!
Once my perspective had shifted though, I was able to see dates for what they are, a great opportunity to meet interesting people and I started to make the most of them. I began to have fun and paid attention to the person I was with, rather than analysing each and every word, movement or signal. I began to relax and so did my dates. And it wasn’t long before that special someone popped into my life without me even trying. Funny how these things work out.
So, my dating advice to you singles out there is:
- Listen more, talk less
- Have more fun
- Stop trying so hard
- Be yourself
That’s all you can do. Dating should be fun, not a chore. So, in the words of my (brutally honest) friend, “Just chill.”
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No, after you! Is chivalry really dead?
Once upon a time there was a damsel in distress. She wailed and cried for her prince to rescue her from the evil entrapment of the king troll. Look! There he comes! Brave and courageous, he slays the troll’s army of fire spitting dragons and after he defeats them, he climbs to the top of the tower to rescue the beautiful princess. Then, on the back of his trusty steed, they ride into the sunset and live Happily Ever After.
Fast forward to the 21st century.
Modern day woman no longer wants to be seen as a helpless creature waiting to be rescued. And right she is! Women want to be seen and treated as the strong and independent beings they are, but if we are being honest with ourselves, women paradoxically ALSO want a manly knight to sweep us off our feet.
But what does this mean for chivalry?
Now cue the poor man who has to figure it all out. “When does she want me to open the door or pay the bill and when not?” No wonder men think we are mysterious creatures from another planet. Why can’t we just say what we want? Men don’t seem to have a problem with that. Or does that kill the romance?
Personally, I love it if a man to opens doors for me or helps me into my coat. That doesn’t mean I’m not equal. I think it’s nice if a man treats me respectfully. It’s all part of making a good impression, part of our courtship. If he’d treat me like one of his mates, I would think he’s not that interested. But that’s me.
Ladies, how do you feel about chivalry? Do you like it or would you rather not have it?
Gents, what are your thoughts? Do you want to be chivalrous and are you afraid to offend a woman? Or do you feel equality should mean equality?
Did you know?
If PlentyMoreFish were a country, it would be larger than The Cook Islands!
…and it’s growing…tremendously. The number of PMF visitors overtook the population of Anguilla only last week.
So what would a plentymorefish.com naked meetup look like? (I hear you ask!)
If daily PMF visitors were to meet up…in the nude, it would look a little bit like this. However, we don’t recommend you doing it as you may get yourself into a spot of bother…probably with the police. 😐
Oh and by the way, this would actually set a new world record!
There we are then. The answers to the two questions I know you were all dying to ask 🙂
*Figures based on daily visitors.
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We just received this email by Marcella and Jake who met using Plenty More Fish and we’d love to share it with you. So happy for you guys! All of us at Plenty More Fish wish you ever lasting love and happiness! xxx
Our Story – Marcella and Jake
Marcella and I met through the Plenty More Fish site and we thought we would let you know how this came about. I had been on the site for about 3 months on the advice of my son who had met a very suitable lady on there. Marcella had been on the site for some time too.
Marcella and I had previously met a number of people separately through the site, each of which had resulted in one-date meetings, only for both of us to find that that vital spark was not there with the other person and there was no point in pursuing such connections.
Then on Tuesday March 12th this year I received a wink from Marcella. I looked at her profile and liked very much what I read. There was no photo so I responded by asking her for a pic and sending her an extended profile which told her much more about me. I didn’t need to send a photo as my profile already had one and she had obviously seen it. She responded with a pic and an email entitled “Gobsmacked” as she was very surprised but delighted by the amount of detail that I had provided in my extended profile. Her pic showed her to be an extremely attractive lady.
I was working in Devon that week and by Fish-mail I asked Marcella for a date and we exchanged mobile phone numbers and after some texting and a long conversation we arranged to meet up on the Thursday evening two days later, at a very nice bar and bistro in the North West that I know, which puts on lots of gigs, jazz, blues, rock – all sorts – usually on a Thursday evening. I have played there with my own band several times so it was very familiar to me. I was driving back that Thursday evening from Devon to my home in Yorkshire, which is about 40 mins drive from there and Marcella lives not too far away as well, so we were both easily able to get there.
We met outside the bar where I was waiting for Marcella to arrive in a taxi. When she alighted from the taxi and came to me I was immediately and instantly attracted to Marcella and for me it was quite simply love at first sight – she greeted me with such openness and warmth – she has such a beautiful personality. I know that sounds corny but it’s true. She was a little more practical, falling for me (she later confessed) during the evening, when I pulled out a “nit comb” to comb my hair!!!! “I don’t have ‘em” I hastened to tell Marcella, and explained that “it’s just that this kind of comb is very small and neat and fits nicely into my wallet”. Hey, I’m just a practical guy………I was somewhat dishevelled as I had just driven 275 miles to get there – about 5 hours in the car, and having worked in Devon for many weeks I had not had a chance to have my hair trimmed for the date. I think it was my practicality and lack of pretension that hooked her.
We talked and listened to the band and had a really lovely time together, till the gig finished about 1am. By then Marcella was confident enough about me to allow me to drive her home and I dropped her off at her door – but didn’t even get a peck on my cheek for my trouble. The cheek!! – although we did hold hands in the car. The following day I asked Marcella by text for another date and we agreed to meet for lunch the following Tuesday (I was moving house that weekend) at a pub up on the East Lancashire Moors, called “Owd Bett’s”. It’s an old pub, very charming and we spent all afternoon having a lovely lunch, very leisurely, with the place virtually to ourselves. We finished about 5pm, when I had to set off on the 5 hour drive to Devon to my worksite, where I was working for the rest of the week. That evening Marcella had arranged to go out with a group of female friends but she later text’d me to say she had cancelled, as she wanted to stay at home and chill and savour our afternoon together. I text’d back that I had savoured the afternoon all the way down to Devon for 5 hours in the car. Our next date was the Sunday following when Marcella invited me to go swimming with her as a guest at her health club – fortunately I was still reasonably fit and I accepted. That was very pleasant even though I had not done any swimming for a long time.
That first date was exactly 3 months ago and since then we have been inseparable, going to gigs (some of mine), dancing and to gym and swimming whenever possible. Marcella is into keeping fit and has drawn me into this and I have lost 20 lbs without trying and am now much fitter – to our mutual benefit.
I have been with Marcella to her home country in the Far East for a holiday – her parents were Chinese and she was born and raised in a Far East country, but has been resident in UK for many years. There I met all her family and many of her friends from childhood and school, with whom she has stayed in touch. We had a fantastic time, very romantic and exciting – especially for me – not being familiar with the Far East or its culture and customs. I was very blessed as I had a “local” with me as my guide and mentor and she introduced me to all manner of new experiences that most tourists and holidaymakers would not see for lack of local knowledge.
Being Chinese, Marcella is a fan of Astrology and related matters. Some weeks ago we looked up my birth year and determined that in Chinese astrology I am a Dragon. Marcella is a Rat from her birth year and it seems that the best of all possible compatibility matches is a Dragon and a Rat. We also did the same for our Western birth signs Virgo and Pisces – with the same result. That pleased us both greatly…..
We have become totally besotted with each other and can’t bear to be apart. We intend to spend the rest of our lives together and we are very very happy. It seems as if each of us is the person that the other has dreamed of meeting – but has only finally met and each has fallen totally in love with, quite late in life. We did not expect this to happen as we are both mature people – but we had kept an open mind.……. We have both said to each other more than once that it feels too good to be true and it’s really scary – especially the speed with which our relationship has developed ……….. But we are both very confident that we will make it work – it is already working wonderfully well. I am still pinching myself to make sure I am awake and not dreaming!!
As a jazz musician I can and do quote from many romantic songs to express my feelings for Marcella and none expresses them and the way of our meeting better than the words of an old Standard, that I emailed to her recently, called You Stepped out of a Dream. The words go like this……………..
Stepped out of a dream,
Are you too wonderful
To be what you seem?
Could there be eyes like yours?
Could there be lips like yours?
Could there be smiles like yours,
Honest and truly?
Stepped out of a cloud,
I want to take you away
Away from the crowd,
And have you all to myself,
Alone and apart.
Out of a dream……….Safe into my heart.
This is our story and we hope you like it.
Thank you Plenty More Fish for our blissful happiness, without your site we would never have met.
With love from Marcella and Jake x
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Hi fellow daters!
Just received an email of Wendy. She met her Phil on Plenty More Fish and we think that’s pretty fab, right? So here’s a big cyber kiss :-* from us to Wendy for sharing their story and we hope you guys the best and happiest future together! x
Phil mentioned that he was on Plenty More Fish and I thought that I’d give it a try. We saw each others profiles and made contact online. We’d met previously, but it was fun having a chat and interesting to read what interested the both of us. We got to know one another and the friendship developed; we met at our local modern jive group, as we both enjoy dancing and have very similar interests. When we danced, our eyes met and it was as if the rest of the world vanished. We now see each other every day, were inseperable!
Thank you P.M.F, you helped to bring us two together. We’ll have to see whats in store for us now, but we ll keep you up to date!
Wendy & Phil
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Dating Inspiration of the Month
Here at Plenty More Fish we are firm believers that dating should be fun. And our date inspiration for this month certainly adds big ol’ tick in the fun category.
Add a little Bounce to your evening and check out the capitol’s latest craze – Ping Pong.
Bounce is the home of Ping Pong. It boasts the latest equipment and their attentive staff will not only deliver your drinks but also scoop up errant balls in a net (so no need to go fetching after the little suckers). For sustenance, which you’ll need once your competitiveness starts kicking in, there’s a casual and very tasty pizzeria at the back.
And if you or your date really don’t want to have a go, just have a giggle watching the other couples. Either way, here’s a little trivia for you, so you can show off to your date on the night. You’re welcome!
The game originated in England during the 1880s. It has been suggested that the game was first developed by British military officers in India or South Africa who brought it back with them. Incidentally it was originally played on the cleared dining table using cigar box lids as paddles, a champagne cork as the ball and was originally called wiff waff.
Be sure to book early though – Bounce is popular every night.
Happy Ping Pong-ing!
PS: What ever you do though – avoid wearing this type of outfit!