Happy New Year everyone!
We know January is often a tight month budget-wise but fear not! Your dating game doesn’t have to suffer, so we’ve compiled a list of our favourite wallet-friendly dating ideas for all you lovelies in the Brum area.
Jazz it up, baby!
If you love the sound of the jazz and blues get yourself down to the Hare and Hounds in King’s Heath who are hosting several dedicated nights starting January 11th. Take your date and enjoy fantastic live music from some of the country’s premier jazz and blues musicians. Entry is free!
The Great Escape
A locked room and a race against the clock.
You and your teammates have just 60 minutes to solve a series of amazing and puzzling challenges and escape the evil Japanese Warlord, find Blackbeard’s treasure or defeat the Nazis. The choice – and thrill – is yours! Are you up to the challenge? Tickets start from £20 pp for 4-6 players.
This one is for the carnivorous foodies among you (sorry vegetarians/vegans!). If you haven’t tried Polish cuisine, you’ll be in for a pleasant surprise and The Karczma in Digbeth serves up a feast! The menu contains numerous Polish classics including Pierogi (stuffed dumplings), Berszcz (Beetroot soup), Pickled Herring, Zurek (Pickled Rye Flour Soup) served from a hollowed-out loaf of bread, as well as a whole host of grilled meats and fish. Pricewise it’s also very reasonable.
Did you know that darts is very often a couples or dating event in Japan? Many men bring a ‘date’ to play darts as it’s considered ‘user-friendly’ for all types of people and players. So why not visit Birmingham’s Flight Club in Temple Street? Their team reinvented darts for the modern world offering a whole new level of fun with fast-paced, multi-player games.
Add to that a mouth-watering food menu, a signature slushie and delicious cocktails and you have the perfect date night mix.
We hope you enjoyed our suggestions! Let us know your best kept dating tip in your area.
Still looking for that special someone? Hop on over to Plentymorefish.com and find singles in your area today!
Let’s be honest, dating is not all rainbows and puppy dogs. It takes time and patience and there can be disappointments and rejections along the way. And it’s those rejections we’d like to address to help you navigate them more easily.
Don’t take it personally
You have no idea what reasons the other person has for not getting back in touch, so fretting about it does more harm than good. We know it’s not always that simple, especially if you have dated the person for a while. Think about it this way, if they don’t share your feelings about the relationship, isn’t it best if you move on?
No one likes to be rejected and it’s perfectly normal to feel upset and hurt at first. And if you’ve been dropped without any explanation it can hit you especially hard. It’s important, however, to practice self-kindness, as blaming yourself will only hurt you further. Unless you’ve been given a very clear reason why it’s not worked out, avoid jumping to conclusions as to why it didn’t last. There may be many reasons why he/she decided to break it off and they don’t have to be your fault.
Avoid a victim mindset
On the flipside of blaming yourself is blaming the other party. After a rejection, it can be very easy to slip into a victim mentality by generalising behaviour (ie. all men/woman are…). This may feel good at first, and it certainly feels easier than looking in the mirror, but in the long-term, this mindset will sabotage any real chances at finding new love and keep you feeling stuck and powerless. Again, acknowledge your feelings but don’t dwell.
After a rejection, especially when we listen to our critical inner voice, it’s easy for self-doubt and insecurities to raise their ugly heads and can leave us feeling less sure of ourselves. When we’ve been left by someone, we may find ourselves feeling out of place. It may become difficult to visit certain places, see certain people, or partake in activities for a while. However, this situation presents an opportunity to really connect with our individuality, your own needs. What is it that you enjoy doing? Who are you outside of a relationship? Focussing on defining yourself anew again, can get you out of heartbreak-mode much faster. Realising that you have a whole life outside of whatever rejection you’ve experienced, and that life will go on.
The UK has the longest working hours in Europe with a culture of coming to work early and staying late. Although this is not something you can change without moving countries, you can alter the way you manage your time. Fortunately, online dating sites like Plenty More Fish can help busy people get back onto the dating scene.
Online you could be chatting to 12 singles in a week, in real life however, meeting 12 people would be more difficult. Internet dating is a great way to help people with limited time on their hands open their eyes to the huge amount of errr…..plenty more fish out there!
So, what are you waiting for? You too could be meeting lots of lovely singles in your area. Registration on Plenty More Fish is free and only takes a couple of minutes.
Did you know?
If PlentyMoreFish were a country, it would be larger than The Cook Islands!
…and it’s growing…tremendously. The number of PMF visitors overtook the population of Anguilla only last week.
So what would a plentymorefish.com naked meetup look like? (I hear you ask!)
If daily PMF visitors were to meet up…in the nude, it would look a little bit like this. However, we don’t recommend you doing it as you may get yourself into a spot of bother…probably with the police. 😐
Oh and by the way, this would actually set a new world record!
There we are then. The answers to the two questions I know you were all dying to ask 🙂
*Figures based on daily visitors.
We just received this email by Marcella and Jake who met using Plenty More Fish and we’d love to share it with you. So happy for you guys! All of us at Plenty More Fish wish you ever lasting love and happiness! xxx
Our Story – Marcella and Jake
Marcella and I met through the Plenty More Fish site and we thought we would let you know how this came about. I had been on the site for about 3 months on the advice of my son who had met a very suitable lady on there. Marcella had been on the site for some time too.
Marcella and I had previously met a number of people separately through the site, each of which had resulted in one-date meetings, only for both of us to find that that vital spark was not there with the other person and there was no point in pursuing such connections.
Then on Tuesday March 12th this year I received a wink from Marcella. I looked at her profile and liked very much what I read. There was no photo so I responded by asking her for a pic and sending her an extended profile which told her much more about me. I didn’t need to send a photo as my profile already had one and she had obviously seen it. She responded with a pic and an email entitled “Gobsmacked” as she was very surprised but delighted by the amount of detail that I had provided in my extended profile. Her pic showed her to be an extremely attractive lady.
I was working in Devon that week and by Fish-mail I asked Marcella for a date and we exchanged mobile phone numbers and after some texting and a long conversation we arranged to meet up on the Thursday evening two days later, at a very nice bar and bistro in the North West that I know, which puts on lots of gigs, jazz, blues, rock – all sorts – usually on a Thursday evening. I have played there with my own band several times so it was very familiar to me. I was driving back that Thursday evening from Devon to my home in Yorkshire, which is about 40 mins drive from there and Marcella lives not too far away as well, so we were both easily able to get there.
We met outside the bar where I was waiting for Marcella to arrive in a taxi. When she alighted from the taxi and came to me I was immediately and instantly attracted to Marcella and for me it was quite simply love at first sight – she greeted me with such openness and warmth – she has such a beautiful personality. I know that sounds corny but it’s true. She was a little more practical, falling for me (she later confessed) during the evening, when I pulled out a “nit comb” to comb my hair!!!! “I don’t have ‘em” I hastened to tell Marcella, and explained that “it’s just that this kind of comb is very small and neat and fits nicely into my wallet”. Hey, I’m just a practical guy………I was somewhat dishevelled as I had just driven 275 miles to get there – about 5 hours in the car, and having worked in Devon for many weeks I had not had a chance to have my hair trimmed for the date. I think it was my practicality and lack of pretension that hooked her.
We talked and listened to the band and had a really lovely time together, till the gig finished about 1am. By then Marcella was confident enough about me to allow me to drive her home and I dropped her off at her door – but didn’t even get a peck on my cheek for my trouble. The cheek!! – although we did hold hands in the car. The following day I asked Marcella by text for another date and we agreed to meet for lunch the following Tuesday (I was moving house that weekend) at a pub up on the East Lancashire Moors, called “Owd Bett’s”. It’s an old pub, very charming and we spent all afternoon having a lovely lunch, very leisurely, with the place virtually to ourselves. We finished about 5pm, when I had to set off on the 5 hour drive to Devon to my worksite, where I was working for the rest of the week. That evening Marcella had arranged to go out with a group of female friends but she later text’d me to say she had cancelled, as she wanted to stay at home and chill and savour our afternoon together. I text’d back that I had savoured the afternoon all the way down to Devon for 5 hours in the car. Our next date was the Sunday following when Marcella invited me to go swimming with her as a guest at her health club – fortunately I was still reasonably fit and I accepted. That was very pleasant even though I had not done any swimming for a long time.
That first date was exactly 3 months ago and since then we have been inseparable, going to gigs (some of mine), dancing and to gym and swimming whenever possible. Marcella is into keeping fit and has drawn me into this and I have lost 20 lbs without trying and am now much fitter – to our mutual benefit.
I have been with Marcella to her home country in the Far East for a holiday – her parents were Chinese and she was born and raised in a Far East country, but has been resident in UK for many years. There I met all her family and many of her friends from childhood and school, with whom she has stayed in touch. We had a fantastic time, very romantic and exciting – especially for me – not being familiar with the Far East or its culture and customs. I was very blessed as I had a “local” with me as my guide and mentor and she introduced me to all manner of new experiences that most tourists and holidaymakers would not see for lack of local knowledge.
Being Chinese, Marcella is a fan of Astrology and related matters. Some weeks ago we looked up my birth year and determined that in Chinese astrology I am a Dragon. Marcella is a Rat from her birth year and it seems that the best of all possible compatibility matches is a Dragon and a Rat. We also did the same for our Western birth signs Virgo and Pisces – with the same result. That pleased us both greatly…..
We have become totally besotted with each other and can’t bear to be apart. We intend to spend the rest of our lives together and we are very very happy. It seems as if each of us is the person that the other has dreamed of meeting – but has only finally met and each has fallen totally in love with, quite late in life. We did not expect this to happen as we are both mature people – but we had kept an open mind.……. We have both said to each other more than once that it feels too good to be true and it’s really scary – especially the speed with which our relationship has developed ……….. But we are both very confident that we will make it work – it is already working wonderfully well. I am still pinching myself to make sure I am awake and not dreaming!!
As a jazz musician I can and do quote from many romantic songs to express my feelings for Marcella and none expresses them and the way of our meeting better than the words of an old Standard, that I emailed to her recently, called You Stepped out of a Dream. The words go like this……………..
Stepped out of a dream,
Are you too wonderful
To be what you seem?
Could there be eyes like yours?
Could there be lips like yours?
Could there be smiles like yours,
Honest and truly?
Stepped out of a cloud,
I want to take you away
Away from the crowd,
And have you all to myself,
Alone and apart.
Out of a dream……….Safe into my heart.
This is our story and we hope you like it.
Thank you Plenty More Fish for our blissful happiness, without your site we would never have met.
With love from Marcella and Jake x
Remember last Tuesday when we posted Tim & Sherrie’s story? Well, that was Tim’s version of events, and now it’s time to share Sherrie’s.
I really thought going on a date site wasn’t for me. All I can say is I have met the most amazing man and I haven’t been so happy for many years. I started speaking to Tim just after new years day. Tim would wink and I would do the same. After a few weeks I gave up, then out of the blue, Tim asked me if I wanted to meet. A week later we met at London Bridge 27 Jan 13 at midday, Tim wanted the day to be special. We went on to Covent garden, well the day was special. We were like kids again, I have not felt so comfortable in a long time, it was magic. After spending 10 hours together, we text the next day and been together ever since.
We are going on holiday soon, I’ve meet the parents and Tim’s kids. We plan to go to the North East soon, so Tim can meet my family. Tim has also been invited to my sister’s wedding next years, so fingers crossed we might be next [Maz: keeping our fingers firmly crossed for you two].
I’m not a person to fall in love, but when we met a London Bridge, it was magic. For the first time in my life, I’m really happy.
Thank You, Sherrie and Tim xx
We love that both took the time to write in and share their story will us all. We are thrilled for you both and wish you a wonderful time and long and happy future.
Your Plenty More Fish team xxx
Like most days, today started with the usual skimming of the metro on the train. This time however, I came across an interesting piece which I thought I should share with our plenty more fish members!
According to the article, we are pretty demanding when choosing a partner. Here are the 15 dating demands that were picked up on.
(Dating demands not views of plenty more fish!)
- 82% of women aged 25-50 said it was very important for their boyfriend to have a responsible, well-paid job.
- 79% of men aged 25-50 said they prefer a girl to be at least three inches shorter than them
- 48% won’t date anyone with a weird voice….. (I don’t know whether they mean squeeky, high-pitched, deep…strange demand!)
- 47% would run a mile with an overly loud laugh
- 42% said a plus was a date who was green/environmentally conscious
- 16% of men aged 25-50 asked that the woman not pick her feet in front of him
- 15% of women say they do not want to see the words “bottle of wine” and “DVD” in a man’s profile
- 13% said good shoes are essential
- 11% of men asked that their date loves superman movies
- 11% of men said a gum-chewing women was a deal breaker
- 10% of women would get a cab home if their date can’t dance
- 6% of women aged 25-50 said their man must never eat peanut butter
- 5% of women say their man must hate Marmite
- 4% of men did not want a woman who plucked out her eyebrows and then drew on them
- 3% of women asked that their man not eat leftover pizza the next morning