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Our top 6 autumn dating ideas

It’s not always easy to find something to do with your date – especially as the days get shorter. Dinner and a movie are safe and boring. But don’t worry, we got you covered. Why not try one of our favourite dating ideas?

Cream of the crop

One of our favourite dating activities at this time of year is visiting a Harvest Festival. With a huge variety of different festivals happening each week across the country – especially if you are a foodie. Each festival has a different way to celebrate autumn, from gin and pie tasting to craft demonstrations and foraging tours – there’s something for everyone. Check out Country File’s favourite harvest festivals for some inspiration or browse the net for a local listing near you.

Get focused

Autumn is undoubtedly the best season to get out and take some photographs. You and your date can take some really creative and Insta-worthy shots of each other with minimal effort or equipment. Not only will you have tons of fun but you’ll also create lasting memories. #relationshipgoals

Go Go Glamping

As it gets colder it’s also a great time to cosy up. Whilst booking a hotel is nice, it’s also a tad snooze-worthy. But rather than go full-on Bear Grylls on your lover, consider the unusual options of glamping. Stay in a safari tent or a treehouse for a weekend out of the ordinary but with most of the creature comforts. Certainly beats a boring hotel room, right? To get inspired visit Canopy & Stars.

Après-Ciate the slopes

This is for the sporty couples among you. If you haven’t tried skiing yet, you’re missing out on a whole lot of fun. To get started, book some time on an indoor ski slope (just Google ‘ski slopes near me’). Impress your date with your graceful – or not so graceful – moves. And who knows? You might end up booking a winter ski break for two.

Cook up some magic

Cookery classes are as varied as there are culinary tastes. Whether you are an accomplished hobby chef or barely manage not to burn the toast, you’ll be spoilt for choice. And what’s not to like? You get to work together as a team preparing, cooking – and importantly – eating a meal. I mean, food! Right? Regardless of how the meal turns out, you might just learn a thing or two about cooking – or your date!

If you got it, haunt it!

Strong emotions – such as fear – are known to make someone more attractive, so our next idea is set to bring you close than ever – muhahaha! Check out Haunted Happenings for a hooooge offering of mystery and spookiness. Stay at a Haunted Inn or go on a fully-fledged ghost hunt a la Scooby-Doo. Whatever you decide to go with, this type of date activity is guaranteed to send tingles up your spine. We’ll leave it up to you to find out if that’s a good thing or not.

Need a date? Check out Plentymorefish.com where thousands of singles are looking for love.

5 ways of making this next relationship your strongest!

Chemistry alone is not an indicator of a successful long-term relationship. Going the distance takes effort (on both parts) and a real dedication to making it work. Once the honeymoon phase is over and routine kicks in we tend to forget that it’s often the smaller and less obvious things that make or break a relationship.

Happy and healthy relationships are built on fundamental behaviours that ensure both partner’s needs are met, leading to a deeper understanding and strengthened the bond.

Communication

To quote Salt-N-Pepa, “Let’s talk about sex, baby.” Yes, sex is a form of communication. One form. There are so many other ways couples communicate and every person has different needs. Knowing how your partner needs to be shown love – touch, words, gestures, intimacy – will make all the difference. Don’t fall into the trap thinking that just because you are a touchy-feely person, your partner is the same. He/she may feel loved when they are praised or told they are loved. Happy couples understand this difference and make a real effort to show their partner they are loved in a way they understand.

Compromise

In a healthy partnership, winning isn’t about having the last word or being right. It’s about each of you feeling happy with the outcome. When your ego becomes more important than your relationship you’re on a path that will only lead to heartache. It all comes back to communication – truly hearing your partner and understanding what they need is just as important as your own needs. The key is to focus what this means for your partnership and less for you as an individual, from there you work towards a mutually happy outcome.

Trust

You can’t be in a relationship when you don’t trust your partner. If your partner displays behaviours that make you suspicious even though you aren’t a jealous person, it won’t work. Equally, if you mistrust your current partner because you’ve been hurt in the past and you’re reading into things, your relationship is going to fail. Trust boils down to respect and healthy boundaries. Identify what a trusting partnership looks like to each of you and communicate this to each other.

“Thank you” and “I’m sorry”

Words almost as hard to utter as “I love you”, but words that can bond and heal. Admitting when you are wrong or showing gratitude for your partner are key factors for any relationship but especially a romantic one. No one is always right and no one likes to be taken for granted. Hearing a sincere “I’m sorry for….” shows maturity, vulnerability and a high degree of self-awareness. On the flipside – forgiveness and gratitude are equally as important.

Commitment

This means different things to different people. Some couples are in an open relationship whereas others prefer a more traditional approach. Make sure these boundaries clear from the start. Set an expectation early on before you get too invested. Honesty and authenticity are integral to building a solid foundation for your partnership.

Follow this advice and you’ll be sure on your way to a mature and lasting relationship.

Still looking for that special someone to build a future with? Check out Plentymorefish.com where thousands of singles are looking for love.

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Plenty More Naughty Fish – A Dating Guide!

Welcome to Plenty More Naughty Fish! An online dating site dedicated to matching like-minded naughty singles who are looking for no strings attached fun and so much more! 

Are you a naughty single looking to find someone sexy online? Are you looking to dive into the naughty pond and enjoy everything that it has to offer? There’s always plenty more naughty fish and by joining The Naughty Pond you could be on step closer to finding hookups and fun with naughty singles!

Plenty More Naughty Fish is purpose-built to help you message, flirt and match with dirty-minded singles! Our vast and ever-growing database has lots of sexy singles who want to be put through their paces and matched with someone who is fun in the bedroom! No strings attached fun is within reaching distance – all you have to do is become a member!

To join the Naughty Pond and start dating today, all you have to do is register using our 5 step registration form. Within the form we’ll ask you for details like your email address and your date of birth – we’ll need this information to help match you with the right kind of people and to send you emails with our new and sexy members each week!

Once you are a member of the Naughty Pond you’ll be able to create your own profile. This is a perfect opportunity to show off everything amazing and naughty about yourself! In your profile, you should write things about yourself: what makes you tick? What excited you in the bedroom? What sort of person are you looking to get down and dirty with? What gets you off? Do you have any kinks?

Your profile is a window into the best things about you and members will be able to learn more about you before taking the plunge and introducing yourself so make sure you keep it light, happy and completely honest! 

You’ll also be able to add photos to your profile. Add sexy snaps, add saucy snaps and be as naughty as you like – show off everything good about yourself and let people know what you look like!

Once you’re a member in the Naughty Pond you’ll be able to send an introduction message so be honest, be open and be as naughty as you want!

As a member of the Naughty Pond, you’ll be able to use our brilliant and easy to use search features. These can help you search for exactly what you know you like – and avoid what you know just doesn’t do it for you! Search by location for a local fling or for dirty weekends away; search by appearance – looking for a slim Jim or a curvaceous Karen? Search by sexual orientation – a fan of water sport? Can’t get enough of doggy? 

You could be just a few clicks away from matching with a naughty like-minded single and taking it to the next level – so what are you waiting for? Hit this link to dive into the naughty pond now! 

Budget dating ideas that don’t cost a fortune

Let’s call it what it is.

Dating is expensive!

Besides the cost of making yourself look less sasquatchey (pretty sure we’ve financed our beautician’s third salon) and more like the Snapchat Goddess that you are, you have the cost of the date itself – movies, dinners etc., all of which quickly deplete your fun budget. And yes, we always go Dutch!

So before you go and sign up to discount days on various voucher websites check out our date ideas that don’t suck (budget or balls):

In tandem

Most big cities have places where you can hire a tandem bike and which are really affordable (around £40 for the whole day). It’s also also a right hoot and you get to explore your city (and your date’s bottom) more closely. Remember to take a picnic with you to refuel (*wink *wink) at the next park.

Pop-up Wine Bar

Vinery London is hosting another pop-up wine bar this Saturday. Just rock up and sample some delicious wines and pay what you think the night was worth (and based on how much you’ve guzzled away).

Volunteer together

Volunteering together may not be the first thing that pops into your head when you think ‘hot date’ but it can be a really fun and rewarding experience. Head on over to http://www.do-it.org for some ideas and let’s not forget the mayjaaah karma points you score. Who knows, this could be your thing as a couple.

Just have pudding

A girl’s gotta eat, right? So next time you head on to a restaurant, why not ditch the starter and main course and just have one (or four) different desserts to share with your date instead? It will be cheaper and let’s face it, you will have the pudding anyway so you might as well have the brownie, lemon tart and creme brûlée at the same time.

Go to a festival

What’s better than to dance the night away with bae at a festival? Dancing the night away at a free festival of course. Check out this handy guide to find one in your area.

Do you have any other wallet-friendly date ideas you want to share with a fellow dater? Share them in the comments below!

 

3 reasons why you should date a vegetarian (even if you love a good sausage)

Hey meat lovers, it’s #Nationalvegetarianweek so let’s talk about why it’s ok to date a vegetarian.

Many members of the carnivorous persuasion are often put off by the idea of dating someone who doesn’t’ share our love for all things burger, steak and sausage. I mean, it is delicious, right? Anyhoo, let’s look at why dating a veggie may actually be a good idea:

They won’t bite

Pun intended. Believe it or not most vegetarians aren’t out there to recruit you to their way of life like some crazed cult follower. Oftentimes they worry if being veggie may be a problem for you. Seldom are your carnivorous ways a deal breaker for them. Vegetarianism is a personal choice so you won’t have to worry you may have to gnaw your chicken drumsticks in secret.

Your culinary world will open up

Veggies are foodies too and they don’t like to eat boring stuff, so finding restaurants that offer delicious veggie options that go beyond the cheesy pasta dishes or salads can be an exciting adventure, which is sure to open your world to new and exciting dishes.

You won’t have to share your fave food

If you are like me, you don’t particularly like to share your food. Sorry, it’s nothing personal, but you order yours and I’ll have mine, thank you very much. So, hands off my sticky BBQ ribs!

Lastly, when dating a veggie you may inadvertently start to eat healthier without even trying. More veggies = longer life. What’s not to love?

Are you a vegetarian? What advice would you give Meat Lovers? Sound off in the comments below.

So you’ve been ghosted…what do you do?

So you’ve been on more than one date and you seem to have instant chemistry.  You’ve been texting for a few days since your last date, and then, POOF!  Your match has vanished into thin air.

Welcome to the murky world of ghosting.

Ghosting is a term that is becoming more and more frequently heard in the dating circles and so in our latest blog we thought we’d do a little research and find out just how people feel when they’ve been ‘ghosted’ by a date.

After quizzing some friends and asking around on social media these are the statements that came out:-

  • Makes you feel worthless
  • Makes you feel confused
  • Leads to you mistrusting other potential dates
  • Leads to a ‘why do I bother’ mentality
  • You feel disrespected
  • Feeds insecurities

Let’s face it none of those feelings and reactions are positive and dating should be positive, it should be adventure, an opportunity to meet new people, try new things, have new experiences and make lots of memories.

Ghosting sucks, and this article about a girl who was ghosted by a guy she’d been seeing exclusively for six months (!) shows that it’s not just the early day’s relationships that fall prey to this cowardly technique.

So what can you do if this happens to you in the world of online dating?

    • Take a positive attitude – it is not you with the problem. If someone ghosts you it is highly likely they have done it before.  A leopard cannot change its spots remember!

 

    • Don’t be tempted to keep messaging for an answer as to why – you won’t get one, and if you do it will be lies, it would see a classic excuse is for the ghoster to say that someone close to them has died and their life has spiralled out of control.

 

    • Don’t change who you are – remember you shouldn’t change just to fit into someone else’s lifestyle. If they cannot handle all of your AWESOMENESS then they are not worth your time and effort.

 

    • Don’t give up – get back online and start making new connections. Relationships don’t just happen they take effort.  So be dynamic and start something.  Just don’t desperation date (more on this later!)

 

    • Always and most important – remember YOU DIDN’T MESS ANYTHING UP.

Breaking up with someone is never easy to do, but ghosting is really cowardly and more brutal than actually being honest with someone.  Focus on yourself, going out with friends and ultimately holding your own and remembering your manners when everyone around you forgets theirs.

Has ghosting happened to you? How did you cope with it and what tips have you got for others in case in happens to them.

How to survive online dating – be yourself.

We’re all looking for ‘the one’, the ‘perfect partner’, the one who always makes us smile and sometimes when you’re dating it is really easy to lose sight of the simple things that make you unique and what you’re looking for in an ideal partner.

When you start dating you quickly realise that there are timewasters, those who will mess with your head and heart and lead a double life, fly by nights, and those with more drama than a soap opera, but there are also emotionally healthy people who really do want something lasting.

The problem is that we disillusion ourselves into what makes the perfect Mr or Miss Right, and the illusion of enhanced perfection is all too readily purported.

looking for your perfect partner

Many of my female friends have delusions about finding a Tom Hardy or Ryan Reynolds lookalike in their local and will instantly discount any man that attempts to chat them up who doesn’t fit this bill.  Equally, most of my male friends admit that its looks they go for, several of them were more open minded and admitted it would be the way a woman dresses, the way she carries herself and even how much makeup she’s wearing that would determine if they asked her for a date.

Some of them even admitted that for the average Joe it is intimidating at the best of times for them to approach a woman but even more so when she’s dressed up like a cast member from Real Housewives of Cheshire.  Why….because they can’t see who the real person is.

Why….because they can’t workout who the ‘real’ person is that they’re looking or talking to.

This week on First Dates Hotel there was the most adorable guy in Eddie the electrician. He was a real man’s man and got matched with a beautiful girl.  Despite his nervousness his personality shone through.  He made witty jokes, he paid compliments, he was a gentleman, for me he would have been the perfect date.  He told an emotional story and opened up to his date – a brave thing for guys to do.  However, his date for the night felt the need to make him feel uncomfortable by making reference to his nerves, she led him on with flirting, swam in her bikini in front of him and then benched him to the friendzone.  Ouch.

I take my hat off to Eddie – he admitted that the girl was ‘out of his league’ but that he’d love to date her and see her again.  He told her so and although his being honest and open didn’t work for him it was his natural persona that made him so endearing to the viewers.

Hang in there Eddie.

dont-give-up

Don’t get me wrong it is natural to put on a different persona when you go out on a date, to behave a little differently to when you’re at home.  You’re nervous.  There is anticipation. You’ve probably been chatting online for weeks and have heightened expectations of what you want from each other.  There’s the hope that you really want this to be ‘the one’.

On dates you’ll give typical responses during the evening such as ‘it was nice to meet you’ or ‘thanks for a nice night’.  You do this because you put up a wall that says ‘be cool, be casual’ that way you won’t get hurt.

STOP….if you had a really nice time and there was laughter and eye contact and flirting and the awkward moments didn’t last long ask to see that person again!  Be brave, take a chance – if you really want to find someone that’s what you have to do.  Lay yourself bare (not literally as that would be strange and weird) and throw caution to the wind. Sometimes a connection doesn’t happen on the first date.

If you don’t be brave your date will just think you’re not interested and both of you will fade into the night, opportunity missed.

Also, don’t put all your eggs in one basket when you start dating.  You might meet some great dates over the course of a few weeks, be open to going on multiple dates but be upfront if they ask if you’re dating anyone else.  Don’t think dating is now your life….it isn’t.  Organise nights out with friends, if you’re on your own at home enjoy the time to yourself and do things for you.

The saving grace about internet dating is that it’s a sea full of fish and there are a lot of fish to catch. Always though be clear to yourself and your date about who you are and what you are looking for. Compatibility isn’t about being two people being the same it’s about two people just finding one thing that gives them a connection.

It could take one date or fifty to find that connection but the more honest you are to yourself and your date the less exasperating the whole experience will be.

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