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Friends with Benefits – The Do’s and Don’ts for No-Strings Attached Relationships

Let’s be honest, a ‘friends with benefits’ deal is super fun, carefree and oh so sexy. All of the sex and none of the snooze. Sign me up!

As fun as FWB situationships are though, they can be just as tricky to navigate if there are no established ground rules. “But”, I hear you say, “what about the no-strings?”

Well my friend, I hate to burst your bubble but there’s not really a no-strings-deal. As with anything in life, love and horny hookups there are do’s and don’ts. Can you tell people you two are shagging or should you keep it to yourself? Can you bring a third person to the party or is it just you two? What if one of you wants to get more serious and start having a relationship i.e. catches feelings?

When lines start to get blurry your once fun and carefree relationship can quickly turn sour and no one wants that. So, don’t play fast and loose with peoples’ feelings and make sure you set some rules and boundaries right from the start to avoid heartbreak, drama and disappointments.

So, here’s what you should address if you want to keep it fun and light:

Be open and honest

Open communication is probably the most important factor in having a successful FWB relationship. Both of you need to be crystal clear about your intentions and expectations and you both need to be on board with them. It’s no use agreeing to something and hoping it will change later down the line or assuming that your friend will know what you meant when you described your relationship as casual. Clearly define what that means.

Is this REALLY for you?

On the subject of being honest…are you being honest with yourself? Have you considered if this is really for you? Can you handle the uncertainty that this type of relationship brings? Are you mature enough to separate sex and feelings? If the answer is no to any of the above, it’s advisable to stay clear and look for someone who wants the same things.

Protect Yourself

Think unwanted pregnancy. Think STDs. Whatever you do, please always practice safe sex – ALWAYS!!! Insist on condoms – no exceptions. It’s not worth the risk.

Check your expectations

A friends with benefits relationship is quite different from a romantic relationship. Don’t confuse the two and adjust your expectations – it’s boink and go. If you are looking for flowers, presents and deep conversations, you’re on the wrong path my friend.

Avoid doing things couples do

You know this is a temporary arrangement so don’t complicate matters by introducing them to your inner circle like family. Also, stay clear of couple-y behaviour like cuddling after sex, going shopping together and staying for breakfast if you want to keep it casual.

Don’t get jealous

Remember, this is casual and should come without strings so don’t turn into the green-eyed monster when they find someone else to hookup with. It’s not cheating and you’re both allowed to meet other people. If this wasn’t clear you haven’t set or discussed those crucial ground rules.

Above all, a no strings attached relationship is meant to be fun!

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Five tips for feeling more confident during a video date

Thanks to Covid we’ve all had to adjust our lives and behaviours and meeting new people is no exception. Video dates have now become the norm and many singles now face the added worry of not coming across as well as they would in person.

One survey showed that 59 percent of adults are more self-conscious on camera than in real life.

It’s easy to see why! Most of the time you only see a person’s face during the video call so many of the non-verbal cues that tell if someone’s attracted to you are hidden for example mirroring the other person’s posture. But not only that, since you can see yourself in the video you may be tempted to look at yourself rather than your date.

Luckily, there are some tips that will help you feel more comfortable during video dates.

  1. Do a trial run or two

Did you hear the story of a boss who turned herself into a speaking potato during a Zoom call? To avoid mishaps like this one practice and try any new tech / app before your video date so you have familiarised yourself with it. This will help you feel more in control and you make sure you have point 2 & 3 covered. Bonus tip: If you live in a noisy household or area it’s best to use your headphones during the call to reduce any of the background noise.

  1. Check your appearance

Whilst many will tell you video dating is way more relaxed please don’t rock up in your jammies – first impressions still matter! Find a comfy place to sit or stand for a long period of time and charge any devices or have the chargers ready in case your battery gets low. Have a cuppa or glass of water ready, too.

  1. Position your camera

While you check yourself out during a test run (How you doin’?) pay attention to the positioning of your camera. Check lighting, facing a window is great, and scan what’s visible in the background. Remove any items (hey there dildo!) you’d want to keep private and make sure your camera is positioned at eye level. Most of us look down at our phones and no one looks good from that angle. Likewise, don’t lie down…unless it’s a booty call then get that sex toy back out. 😉

  1. Get in the right mindset

One way to calm pre-date jitters it through visualisation. Imagine really clicking with the other person, really feel those feelings of attraction, picture yourself having an amazing time. This might sound woo-woo but visualisation has been proven to trick your mind – it simply cannot tell if what you’re imagining is real or not. So instead of thinking doom and gloom – think happy thoughts! It will come across during your video.

  1. And, breathe….

Another way to tackle nervousness is breathing. Paying attention to your breathing before a call can really help you relax and is the quickest way to reduce any anxiety. Try this exercise: Look at the palm of your left hand (if you are right-handed) and place the index finger of your right hand at the bottom of your thumb where it meets your wrist. Now breathe in slowly and trace your finger up to the tip of your thumb and down the other side on the exhale. Then up your left index finger and down again. Travel along all your fingers breathing in and out slowly and when you’ve reached the outside of your hand, go in reverse. Repeat this as long as you need to feel calm.

And there you have it. Now all you need is a lovely single person to video chat with so hop on over to Plentymorefish.com now!

PS: If video dates make you really uncomfortable it’s ok to say no and just have a regular phone conversation until you do.

Ready to get your kink on?

In recent years kink and BDSM have gained mainstream popularity and are no longer viewed as activities for the perverted few. And for good reasons. The world of Kink/BDSM (Bondage, Discipline/Domination, Sadism, Masochism) is as vast as there are forms of human sexual desires so there is something for everyone looking to get their rocks off. When practiced safely, BDSM can be hugely liberating, empowering and OH-SO-GOOD.

But whilst getting kinky is certainly fun, it can also do some real harm. Before you get all kinds of fifty shades, it is important to discuss any fantasies and activities before you try them, always get explicit consent from your partner and always set clear rules.

Ok, now that we got that important titbit out of the way, let’s add some zesty zing to that vanilla sex life of yours. Here are some safe kinks for you to try before expanding your ‘sexpertoire’ to more advanced levels.

Spanking

Definitely high on the list of fantasies for many, light spanking is a great way to get going with kink play. Start slowly using your hands and work your way up in intensity and choice of spanking tool (paddle, belt, whip). Don’t restrict your spanking to the buttock either, loads of people like to have their private parts spanked.

Hair Pulling

Pain and pleasure centres are closely connected and pulling a woman’s hair activates the nerve endings at the back of her neck, increasing the sensation she feels, especially during arousal. Combine this with naughty whispers and she’ll be writhing with pleasure.

Dirty Talk

Speaking of naughty whispers… discussing which words are ok (and not ok) to use during sex which includes name calling are all part of the consent parcel that should be agreed on before jumping in. Also consider which safe words you’ll use to let your partner know when it’s ok to keep going (green), when to slow down (yellow) and when to stop (red).

Light Bondage

If being tied up gets you going, start with a tie or a scarf at first. These are soft materials and are less likely to hurt or leave marks before you graduate to more serious kit like ropes and cuffs. Always make sure that blood circulation isn’t cut off (two fingers space between scarf and skin). Adding a blindfold to your play is going to bring focus to your other senses and the lack of control.

Restraints

Another form of bondage is restraining. Tying your partner to the bed while having your wicked way with them is a real turn on for many. If you are thinking of adding restraints to your routine, there are great options available online that are safe to use and great for beginners (check for quick release features).

Biting

Through biting (and clamps) you get to explore the world of arousal through pain. Much like hair pulling, biting is an amazingly simple, yet effective, stimulus. Use your safe words to control the intensity and try all the different body parts. Some people really like to have their nipples bitten, whilst others prefer their neck area.

Dominance/Submission

When you first start exploring a sub/dom dynamic define what each role means to you – there are so many possible interpretations and it’s important to be clear. A great way to apply this is through role play like student and teacher or queen and butler. Another simple tool to create a sub/dom scenario is the use of ‘master’ and ‘mistress’ during kink play time or being tied up whilst giving oral.

As we said before – there is something for everyone and these are obviously only a few ideas to get your kinky appetite going. Hop online for more salacious inspiration and and if you’re still looking for someone to explore your frisky fantasies with, check out our naughty dating pond.

Stuck on date, break up, repeat?

So here you are again, back with the ex. Up and down you go… rehashing the same problems, breaking up time and again, only to get back together shortly after.

If your relationship feels more like the rinse and repeat cycle of your washing machine rather than the healthy, grownup partnership it should be, it’s time to break that rollercoaster cycle once and for all.

Awareness

Don’t worry – you’re not alone or weird for having such a complicated relationship. Many people find themselves in an on-again/off-again relationship at some point in their lives. The first step to finding answers is becoming aware that it’s not all that great. Realising the relationship is actually making you pretty miserable is key to seeing the behavioural patterns that are keeping you stuck. If you can’t see the patterns, ask a trusted friend whom you can trust to be honest with you. Identify them and you can start to tackle them.

Communication

Many couples who find themselves in this type of yo-yo relationship often fail to realise the reasons why they broke up in the first place. They keep coming back to the same issues and simply don’t communicate effectively to resolve them. Instead they keep repeating the same behaviour and see breaking up as a solution rather than part of the toxic cycle. You may not agree on all points but try working towards a mutually beneficial compromise. Effectively communicating your needs as well as listening to your partner are key elements of a healthy, mature relationship.

Closure

Another reason why some relationships are stuck on repeat is because they are lacking a sense of closure. For it to be really over, you need a clean break. At least for a while to get the emotional distance to break the cycle and to redefine yourself outside of that relationship. Keeping in contact with your ex is in many cases the real reason why you can’t call it quits.

Attraction

Don’t underestimate the power of physical attraction. Some couples have really strong chemistry but in reality, are totally incompatible on every other level triggering them to keep coming back for more. This type of relationship can be really addictive and difficult to break because it feels so good when it’s on. Next time this happens – ask a friend to remind you of the many times they had to pick you off the floor after the breakup and ask yourself if it’s worth repeating?

Familiarity

They break up with you.

Their new relationship doesn’t work out.

They’re back with you.

If an ex keeps you as a safety net in between other relationships, it’s often because they are afraid of being alone or simply because it’s convenient. Either way, you are not important enough to them to truly care about how this affects you. Release yourself from this nightmare and send them packing.

Be realistic

Thanks to Hollywood many of us have a warped expectation of romance and relationships. He kisses you in the rain and they lived happily ever after. In reality though, mature relationships take work and commitment – from both parties. If they always fall short on promises or fail to change hurtful behaviour, it’s time to get real. Why would they change this time when they didn’t the previous 25 times? Ask yourself if you truly believe that will change. If there’s any doubt, perhaps it’s time to put an end to this misery.

There are tons of people who want the same so get out there! Everyone deserves to be happy and feel loved.


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From IRL to DTR – 15 Dating Slang Terms You Need to Know

The internet is a funny beast – every day there’s a hashtag trend. When it comes to dating there seems to be a never-ending supply of new terms to describe someone’s behaviour or situation. So if you can’t tell your IRL’s from your DTR’s – fear not. We’ve compiled 15 online dating terms you may need to help you navigate dating life in cyberspace.

Benching

Remember back in school when you were last to be picked at rounders? This is similar – only you won’t know if someone is benching you. Benching is when you keep contacting a match just enough to keep them engaged whilst having other options open at the same time.

Breadcrumbing

Much like the little mouse that’s led along a breadcrumb trail – if you are receiving messages from someone but it never seems to go anywhere, it’s likely the other person is breadcrumbing you.

Catfishing

Catfishing happens when someone pretends to be someone looking for love but is in actual fact a scammer trying to get you to send them money. They will befriend you, promise you the world and once you trust them, they will ask for funds usually to escape some hardship or for an emergency playing on your empathy.

Catch & Release

Originating from the angling and fishing world, catch and release in dating terms basically means a one-night stand that you have no intentions of following up on.

Cuffing Season

‘Cuffing Season’ describes a metaphorical handcuffing to someone for the more depressing winter months just so you don’t have to be alone during that time.

DTR

Are we a couple or is it just casual? DTR stands for ‘Defining the Relationship’ and marks the time for both parties (willingly or not) to define the relationship status and get clarity on where you are heading.

Fielding Season

‘Fielding Season’ happens before cuffing season when it’s time to evaluate your cuffing contenders for the dark winter months ahead.

Ghosting

Pretty much anyone who has ever been dating has experienced this phenomenon. You are seeing this person; everything seems to be going well, when all of a sudden, they go ‘poof’ and vanish. Usually without any explanation, often leaving a ghosted person reeling since they’ve not been given any closure.

Haunting

Like ghosting, being haunted (otherwise referred to as orbiting or zombie-ing) means your ghost of a date suddenly materialises back into your life – usually by haunting your social posts, letting you know they are still there, still watching. Time to call the Ghostbusters!

Incel

An incel (involuntarily celibate) is someone who would like to have sex but for some reason isn’t getting any. Unlike a volcel, meaning voluntarily celibate being someone who chooses to abstain from having sex.

IRL

IRL meaning ‘In real life’ refers to the act of meeting your date in person.

Kittenfishing

Kittenfishing or ‘Catfishing – The Trial Version’ refers to a form of deception without criminal intent. A person who is kittenfishing uses white lies to portray an improved but inaccurate version of themselves in an effort to be more appealing to potential matches. Examples include using photoshopped profile images or fibbing about the things they enjoy doing, their job etc.

Love Bombing

If you have ever met up with someone for the first time and then received tons of messages proclaiming their affection or love for you, you’ve been love bombed. This tactic is used as a means to an end (sex, money etc) and once the individual got what they wanted, tend to move on from you quite quickly. Sometimes those types of individuals can turn unpleasant or abusive if rejected.

Roaching

Formerly known as a ‘player’, a roach is a person who is dating several people at once without being upfront about it. When confronted they often claim they never agreed to or didn’t realise you were being exclusive.

Submarining

Remember haunting? This is similar but more manipulative. It refers to someone who ghosted you only 3 months ago and is now back in your life pretending like it never happened. Do yourself a favour and let that sub run aground.

Now that you are an expert at dating lingo go forth and find love. Preferably over on Plentymorefish.com of course. 😉

Video Dating Using Zoom

Zoom is a video app that has gained massive popularity during the Covid-19 Lockdown. Anyone can get Zoom for free and it’s available to use on your Phone & Tablet plus Desktop & Laptop providing you have a webcam attached which makes it absolutely ideal for a Video Date.

The main benefit of using Zoom for video dating over other video apps is that you don’t have to give out any personal information at all. No emails, no mobile numbers, no Facebook info, nothing. You set up the video date and then invite others to join you.

So how do you use Zoom for video dating?
Firstly you need to sign up for a free account, you can do this via their website https://zoom.us or by downloading the Zoom app for you mobile device from the Apple App Store or Google Play for Android.

Video dating is not for everyone that’s why it’s always advisable to let someone know that you are up for video dating as they may not be. In reality you will already be chatting via Plentymorefish and be ready to ‘Video Meet’ to take the next step.

NB: Do not send video invites as an introduction! Don’t let your very first message be “Hey, join me for a video date” as the recipient will most likely just ignore you.

Once you’ve established that your date is willing to chat on video it’s time to set a time for your video date. Hit ‘Schedule

  1. Set the topic as something like “Hey, Wendy would you like to join me for a video date?” providing it’s Wendy you’re inviting obviously!
  2. Select a time and duration. We’d suggest an hour at most
  3. Set meeting ID to generate automatically
  4. Set the host & participants video to ‘ON’
  5. Set Audio to Telephone & Computer Audio
  6. Set calendar to other calendars

Starting May 9, 2020, all meetings for Free or Basic accounts, including previously scheduled meetings, new meetings, and meetings started or scheduled using Personal Meeting IDs will require a password. If your participants join by clicking a meeting link with a password embedded, there will be no change to their joining experience. For participants who join by manually entering a Meeting ID, they will need to enter a password to access the meeting, including participants who join via telephone.

Don’t worry about advanced options. They will be set to ‘Allow waiting room’ and ‘Allow join before host’ this means that if your date gets there before that’s OK. They will be placed in a virtual waiting room and you will see on your display, as the host, that you then have to click ‘Accept’ to allow them into your video date.

Once your Video Date is scheduled it will appear in your meeting diary in the app as above and by clicking on the three dots you will have the option to copy the invitation and paste that into  your chat with the person you want to video date.

After you have pasted the invite into your chat it’s probably best to delete everything in the very business-like invite except the URL and write a much more personalised message.

It will start life like this:

Tom Single is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting.

Topic: Hey, Wendy would you like to join me for a video date?

Time: May 1, 2020 20:00 PM London

Join Zoom Meeting

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83090026835

 

You could turn it into something like:

Hi it’s Tom, I’ve arranged a Video Date for us via Zoom at 8pm tonight as discussed.

Look forward to video meeting you, click this link to join the meeting:

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83090026835

See you later x

Your prospective date will not have to download and install Zoom to join your meeting; however it makes it so much easier if they do. They can do this in advance and this is an ideal opportunity to offer some assistance if they need it.

Once it’s all arranged you both simply join the meeting at the arranged time.

For more detail on how you can use ZOOM visit their quick start section click here.

See our blog on Tips for Video Dating to learn more.

Put some Zoom into your dating

It’s undeniable that Zoom – a video meeting app – has had a bit of surge since COVID took charge of, well, everything. And because we’re all doing the responsible thing of staying at home the way we meet other singles has changed along with it. Since the lockdown many people have started to utilise tech to up their dating game and ‘match vetting’ via FaceTime and Zoom has become very popular and for good reasons.

These are a few reasons why video dates make dating better:

It keeps things relaxed

Going on a date IRL can be stressful – so much to think about. Where to go, what to do, what to wear. On a video date, expectations tend to be more relaxed and matches are less likely to judge each other on appearance. No need to spend hours getting groomed and ready. Just be your comfy self!

It’s much cheaper

Everyone knows that dating can be a costly affair. You meet for drinks, go for meals, nights out etc only to realise that your match is everything but a match. No more wasting money on pricey cocktails while thinking of polite reasons to leave.

It’s efficient

Yes, we know…efficiency and love shouldn’t be a thing but hear us out. Video vetting your dates can be a really quick way to find out if you have chemistry and if it’s worth both of your time and effort to take it to the next level. Why would you want to waste time meeting with someone who doesn’t really rock your boat?

It’s a safe way to meet
For many women safety is in the back of their minds – especially when meeting someone new. Video chats are a great way to get to know your match in a safe and secure environment until you’re ready to meet in person.

It slows things down

…but in a good way. Hook-up culture is liberating on many levels, but it can also have a negative effect on those looking for more than the next shag. By having the time to get to know each other before something physical happens you get to test how you connect on an emotional level and whether you have things in common – the foundations of any good relationship. It’s worth spending time to woo each other a bit longer.

Who knows? This trend may continue when life returns to normal, so might as well give it a go, right? Hop on over to www.plentymorefish.com and start flirting with other singles today.

Is social anxiety keeping you from finding love?

Social anxiety is a debilitating disorder that goes beyond simple shyness. It’s an intense feeling of fear that doesn’t go away and affects many everyday activities such as finding a romantic partner.

When meeting someone new it is completely normal to have first date jitters but someone with social anxiety (SAD) disorder often feels extremely worried before, during and after meeting a date causing them to avoid social interactions. This leaves them feeling isolated and with a sense of hopelessness of ever finding love.

If you are feeling this way – you are not alone. Mixed anxiety & depression is the most common mental disorder in Britain, with 7.8% of people meeting criteria for diagnosis.

The good news is that there are steps you can take to help you overcome SAD.

Fear of being judged

One of the reasons many people with social anxiety don’t share much about themselves is that they fear being judged negatively. This is often the root of the anxiety disorder and is amplified during a date setting. The disorder is warping their perception of how badly they are being judged by a date and causes them to act nervously or withdraw further validating their fears. When in reality the situation is not as they perceive it.  The truth is – everyone is scared to be judged.

One way to deal with the fear of being judged is to pay close attention to your date. Focus on their tone of voice, their body language and actively listen to what they are saying. You’ll notice subtle signs like fast speech or fidgeting in their seat. You’ll soon realise that they are just as nervous as you. By focussing on the other person instead of your fears, you rob them of their hold over you.

Reframing
If the first strategy doesn’t work there is a second way to approach fear of judgment which is called ‘reframing’. Social anxiety disorder can cause the person to have catastrophic thoughts hijacking their behaviour. An effective strategy is to notice, point out and contradict these dooming thoughts that often sound like this, “I’ll never find someone” or “that was a complete disaster”. When this happens gently remind yourself that your anxiety has taken the reigns and it is the disorder that is exaggerating your thoughts and feelings – not you. Look for evidence to confirm why they are not accurate. For example: “I’ll never find someone.’ Never? With nearly 7.5 billion people on this Earth? The possibility of finding someone is infinitely higher than not. Take that as evidence that it will happen, and it will help quell those gloomy predictions of disaster that can be so devastating to the process of finding love.

Share what matters to you

People with social anxiety disorder are less likely to engage with others out of fear of being judged or rejected. So when there’s a lack of communication, there is often a lack of connection since real relationships are built on shared experiences, thoughts and feelings. Sharing something might include letting your date know about a recent event or a person that is special to you, or by complimenting them on how great they look. Let them see what matters to you and start connecting on a deeper level.

Practice Mindfulness

Anxiety thrives by focusing on the future and the past, by worrying about what has gone and will go wrong. To tackle worry, practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is a conscious effort to focus on the present moment, the here-and-now. By connecting to the present moment with acceptance rather than judgment you will feel greater emotional awareness within.

Social anxiety disorder can be hard on the person dealing with it, but it is possible to overcome. If you are struggling you can find tons of free resources, help and advice online – it’s ok to ask for help!

How To Save Your Naughty Relationship During Lockdown

Lockdown in the UK has been extended for a minimum of three more weeks and the likeliness of getting out to see your hot match before the end of April is looking slimmer by the day. Whether your naughty relationship is on firm ground or you’ve been just keeping things casual before lockdown, being separated from your match can be tough. It can really take its toll on any relationship – casual, romantic, old and new. Here at the Naughty Pond, we’ve put together some helpful tips to help you save your naughty relationship during lockdown!

Use your space 

This might sound silly in the middle of a pandemic when all you have is space away from each other, but space is important. If you are all over each other too much you can start to feel suffocated. Space is good, space is healthy and as the old saying goes, absence really does make the heart grow fonder.

This is especially important when considering your own state of mind. If you are feeling a wave of negativity, hopelessness and anger coming towards you like a tsunami, take yourself away, let your hot match know that you need some time and make sure they don’t get washed away in your distress.

No doubt your match will be having similar episodes that will leave them feeling lost, scared and panicked. 

Space during this time is key – for your own mind and for your naughty relationship!

Keep things exciting

If, like many of the readers of this blog, you met your match in the Naughty Pond, you will know a thing or two about keeping things exciting. Excitement and anticipation are the foundations of your hot and sexy relationship! But with time and distance hanging between you like an uncrossable canyon, the excitement can wear off.

Why not set each other some exciting tasks that will get the heart pumping and the anticipation back?

Why not send your naughty match a sexy message during the day when you know they’ll be working and trying to concentrate? How about leaving them a suggestive voice note or voice message asking them to call you as soon as possible? You could even send a naughty picture to let them know what they’re missing!

Send each other gifts

Is there anything better, during this awful time, than opening your front door to see a gift on your doorstep? Be it a bunch of flowers, some washing up liquid or a naughty toy to keep you busy, gifts are the only thing getting us through! 

So why not send your naughty match something that will make them smile – along with something that will make them moan!

Put together a sex bucket list

Sex is important in any relationship. But for a purely casual, hot relationship sex is a huge part of what makes you tick! So, why not spend some time during lockdown putting together a sex bucket list that is filled with fantasies and naughty ideas on what you’d like to do (and be done to you) when you’re free!

It can include stuff like:

  • play dress up
  • sex in public
  • fun with food
  • sex where you know you’ll get caught
  • pillow fort in the living room sex
  • tying each other up

and so much more…

If you want to find someone sexy to have no strings attached flirting and fun with, why not join the Naughty Pond

5 Simple Ways to Avoid Bad Dates

Everyone who’s ever been on a date has had a bad one or two. You know those where your date shows up and looks nothing like their profile pic, is rude or makes bad jokes. Sadly, it’s all part of the dating game … how else would you recognise a good date, right? But if your dating life is nothing but a string of bad rom coms it may be time to assess your approach and here are some tips on how to avoid bad dates in future (once we’re all allowed back out again).

Get to know your dates beforehand

This may seem like a no brainer but spending a little more time getting to know your date online and by phone can reveal a lot of useful info about them beyond what they are sharing on their dating profile. Ask open-ended questions that match your interests to see if you are compatible like, “tell me about your last trip. What was your favourite part about it?”. It’s also important to consider whether your date can keep a conversation and whether they return texts or emails in a timely manner or call when they say they will. If you are struggling to connect offline, it’s unlikely you’ll hit it off IRL.

Request more photos

This needs to be approached carefully to avoid offending your date or coming across as a creepy psycho. It’s no good saying “I’m not feeling your profile pics, can you send a recent one?” It’s better to share a few of yourself and inspire them to reciprocate. Maybe start off by sharing a photo or two from your last BBQ with friends or a concert you went to and encourage them to share what fun things they’ve been up to recently and then see what comes back. Just don’t be too pushy, keep it playful like “walking by the river sounds fun. I’d love to see your smile. Feel free to send me a pic.”

Keep in mind that not everyone loves to take selfies or might be a little shy so don’t worry too much if you don’t get much back. If however, something feels off it’s always good to go with your gut.

Pick the right meeting spot

Make sure the place you chose for your first date is somewhere cosy and relaxed and it’s easy to have a conversation without shouting or try an activity like miniature golf which is fun and you can test working as a team. Picking the right venue can make turn awkward date into a fun one.

Ask good questions

You wouldn’t rock up at a job interview unprepared so why do that on a date? Taking some time to consider a few questions can be fun and helps to ease first date nerves – just don’t turn it into the Spanish Inquisition. Keep it natural, ask a follow-up question to keep a conversation flowing, for example, “What was it about XYZ you liked?” or “what was your favourite part?”.

Try to relax

Sometimes things happen – he turns up late or the restaurant you’ve picked is rubbish. The conversation doesn’t flow and you’re quite frankly bored. It’s easy to get hung up on the things that don’t work but try to relax and don’t set your expectations too high. Sometimes it’s easiest to just go with the flow. At worst case, you’ve got to go out and enjoyed a drink with someone new.

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