Ladies, how often have you been on a date and have asked yourself what your date is thinking and wondered whether he fancies you or not? How often did you come away from a date and thought he likes you, only to never hear from him again? Frustrating, right? Wouldn’t it be great if you could read the signs better and avoid this type of disappointment?
Well you can! To understand the signs of attraction or the lack of, you will need to delve into the art of reading body language. We all do it on a subconscious level every day and women choose from 52 moves to show men they’re interested, whereas the average man chooses from a maximum of 10 to attract a woman. So us gals have it a lot easier to spot what he’s subconsciously feeling and here are 3 giveaways*:
Watch the eyebrows
Pay close attention to his eyebrows. If he likes you, he’ll raise them for a split second, or more precisely, a fifth of a second. A flash of the eyebrow is a good measure for spotting interest. It’s something we all do, regardless of age, ethnicity or class. But as it’s so subtle, it’s very easy to miss. When you do spot it though, you can use it to your advantage and raise your brows deliberately in response to signal clear interest. It’ll be like a billboard sign flashing the words “I like you”.
Watch the mouth
If his lips part slightly for a moment when your eyes meet, he likes what he sees. He’ll flare his nostrils slightly, his eyes will widen and his body and feet will point towards you. Generally his face and demeanor will appear more ‘open’, more approachable as to closed off.
Watch the movements
Movements such as smoothing down his hair or adjusting his tie are all part of what experts call preening gestures. It’s like the female lip licking, meaning “I want to look my best for you”. Preening happens involuntarily and more often than people think. To check this, excuse yourself as you head to the ladies and casually look over your shoulder, and you may just catch him adjusting his appearance.
So, there you have it. For more tips and tricks on reading body language we can recommend The Definitive Book of Body Language: How to Read Others’ Attitudes by Their Gestures by Allan and Barbara Pease.
*The above paragraphs are guidelines. Circumstances, like the nerves and pressures of a first date, can influence someone’s behaviour. But in case it does turn out, he’s not that into you, remember, there’s plenty more fish in the sea and your perfect catch is out there.