Let’s face it, December is an expensive time of year for most of us but your dating life should not have to suffer because of it. So here are our favourite affordable and fun date ideas for this month.
Get your skate one
Remember how much fun you had as a kid whizzing – or crawling – across the ice? Plenty of city centres now have ice rinks at this time of year so there’s really no excuse not to give it a try. Not only is it loads of fun but it is sure you get you very close to your date, especially if they are not as accomplished in the arts of ice skating and will need to hold on to you for balance. Afterwards, you can warm up with a hot toddy and laugh about your sore bottoms.
Have a bake-off
Who doesn’t love the smell of freshly baked Christmas cookies, so why not have a bake-off? Each person picks one recipe and you ask friends and family to judge your efforts. The loser will have to cook the next meal, sing a Christmas carol in front of their family or come up with the next fun date idea. Make it interesting, get creative!
Mix it up
Whilst on the subject of food, we mustn’t forget the impressive art of cocktail making. Mixing your way through different cocktail recipes is another fun way to ‘expand’ your horizons so to speak. You could book one of the many cocktail making classes available, buy a book on the topic or simply Google some recipes to try. You could even create your own signature drink for you both. Wouldn’t that be a cute story to share one day?
Lend a hand
The true meaning of Christmas is to give, so why not spread some cheer and volunteer at a local charity or start a fundraiser to help those less fortunate? You could do a sponsored sleep out, a Santa Fun Run or create a gift-wrapped shoebox full of nice things and send it off to a disadvantaged child. There are so many ways to give (just search ‘Volunteer at Christmas’). It’s sure you make you all warm and fuzzy afterwards. And who knows? This might just be the start of an annual family tradition.
Shake a leg
Hit a local karaoke bar or stay at home to create a playlist with all your favourite Christmas tunes. Have a musical pop quiz or a dance-off in your PJs. You could even write your own nativity play or compose the next Christmas number 1. There are so many ways to have a music-themed date that you’ll be spoilt for choice but you can have some awesome fun. Up the ante and post your creations online for your friends to vote on and spread some cheer. It’s all about having fun!
We hope you like our favourite December date ideas. Have one to share with us? Then drop us a comment!
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As if breaking up wasn’t hard enough already, divorcing or separating after many years can feel devastating and the thought of ever loving someone else may seem impossible at first. Most people will experience a sense of grief and go through these 5 stages. They are:
- Denial and isolation
So how do you know if you are ready to get back out there and start dating again? Here are a few things that you should consider before you get back on that proverbial dating horse:
Accept that it’s over
Seems like an obvious one but this is a vital step helping you be open for something new. First, make sure you’ve come to terms with your marriage/relationship being over and that you have accepted it. Reaching this stage can take a long time – sometimes years – so be patient and allow yourself to heal first.
The ex is dating again
Remember that acceptance we’ve just mentioned? That resolve can be tested when you see your ex with someone new for the first time. Be prepared for this to trigger emotions you thought you’d dealt with. Seeing him/her with another partner can really hurt and trigger feelings of jealousy and undo all the positive steps you’ve taken since the breakup. At this point, it is important to remember that it’s ok to feel those emotions but not allow them to overwhelm you. Remembering that you and your ex may be at different stages in life will help you remain objective. And that you both deserve to be happy – even if it’s with someone else.
Meeting the kids
Sit down with your children and talk to them about this step waaay before you start dating again. Especially if your kids are older. Helping them navigate their own grieving process will allow the family to heal as a whole before they reach the stage of acceptance. So be gentle and give them time to get used to the idea of you dating again. Just don’t put it off altogether – you too deserve to be happy!
Begin to redefine who you are outside of the marriage/relationship by spending quality time on your own. Take yourself out to dinner or the cinema. You’ve always wanted to try Salsa dancing but your partner did not? Go and do that! By rebuilding your own sense of identity you’ll get your confidence back and will begin to see all the exciting opportunities out there.
As they say, “Time is the wisest counsellor of all.” I think we can agree that taking time out from dating after a breakup is a good strategy. One way to find out if the time is right to dip your toe in that dating pond again is to try visualising yourself with someone else. If you feel a sense of excitement – great – you are ready! If however, you struggle to do that, it’s safe to say you need a bit more time and space until you can. It’s ok to take as much time as you need!
Every once in awhile you meet someone you fancy the pants off and the chemistry between you is tangible. It’s like electricity and you feel you have met your soulmate. You fall head over heels for this person and the world turns into a cotton candy coloured bouncy castle with zero gravity. There’s no denying it, you are in love.
The first stages of love are the most wonderful moments a person can experience but the can also cloud your perception of reality. Whilst there may be undeniable physical chemistry between you, it doesn’t necessarily mean you are compatible. And if you are looking for a long term relationship, chemistry will only get you so far.
Once the initial stage of ‘love goggles’ wears off, reality sets in and you start to understand the other person more clearly, their beliefs and values, what makes them happy and what not. When these values and beliefs don’t match up with your own, trouble may be ahead. Successful relationships take work and require effort and commitment on both sides and having the same values in life goes a long way to creating a solid foundation.
- Values – Our values are personal to us and affect us at a deep subconscious level. Everything we do and every decision we make is based on our values. They are our guide to what is important to us and can include concepts like education, effort, equality, honesty, perseverance, loyalty, faithfulness…etc.
- Beliefs – Our beliefs on the other hand are our assumptions we make about the world around us. They are shaped by what we see, hear, experience, read and think about and they apply not only how we see ourselves but also how we see other people. Beliefs can be changed, whereas values are part of who you are.
Your values and beliefs make you unique, if you live your life and relationships in conflict with them you will inevitably end up unhappy. To understand what you need in order to be happy is probably the best advice we can give towards finding lasting love. When you know yourself, you will attract the right person into your life. It’s like wearing the correct prescription glasses; suddenly things become more clear and your focus is sharper.
Why not take some time out for yourself this week and seek to understand your values and beliefs? It will go a long way to help you find happiness and love and you deserve both.
Until next week lovely readers! x
“Mick and I have now been together for about 6 weeks and have just returned from our first holiday together. It was just a wink from me that made Mick look at my profile and see how we think alike. He would have never known but for that wink. After he winked back and we exchanged a couple of messages to each other we arranged our first date. As soon as we met I knew that there was a buzz between us and we held hands all night. Since we met and as we spend more and more time together we realise just how alike we truly are and how luck we have been to meet.”
Mick & Sue
Congratulations to Mick & Sue who met on Plenty More Fish. You look so happy in your picture! Wishing you both a very happy future together. x
We just received this email by Marcella and Jake who met using Plenty More Fish and we’d love to share it with you. So happy for you guys! All of us at Plenty More Fish wish you ever lasting love and happiness! xxx
Our Story – Marcella and Jake
Marcella and I met through the Plenty More Fish site and we thought we would let you know how this came about. I had been on the site for about 3 months on the advice of my son who had met a very suitable lady on there. Marcella had been on the site for some time too.
Marcella and I had previously met a number of people separately through the site, each of which had resulted in one-date meetings, only for both of us to find that that vital spark was not there with the other person and there was no point in pursuing such connections.
Then on Tuesday March 12th this year I received a wink from Marcella. I looked at her profile and liked very much what I read. There was no photo so I responded by asking her for a pic and sending her an extended profile which told her much more about me. I didn’t need to send a photo as my profile already had one and she had obviously seen it. She responded with a pic and an email entitled “Gobsmacked” as she was very surprised but delighted by the amount of detail that I had provided in my extended profile. Her pic showed her to be an extremely attractive lady.
I was working in Devon that week and by Fish-mail I asked Marcella for a date and we exchanged mobile phone numbers and after some texting and a long conversation we arranged to meet up on the Thursday evening two days later, at a very nice bar and bistro in the North West that I know, which puts on lots of gigs, jazz, blues, rock – all sorts – usually on a Thursday evening. I have played there with my own band several times so it was very familiar to me. I was driving back that Thursday evening from Devon to my home in Yorkshire, which is about 40 mins drive from there and Marcella lives not too far away as well, so we were both easily able to get there.
We met outside the bar where I was waiting for Marcella to arrive in a taxi. When she alighted from the taxi and came to me I was immediately and instantly attracted to Marcella and for me it was quite simply love at first sight – she greeted me with such openness and warmth – she has such a beautiful personality. I know that sounds corny but it’s true. She was a little more practical, falling for me (she later confessed) during the evening, when I pulled out a “nit comb” to comb my hair!!!! “I don’t have ‘em” I hastened to tell Marcella, and explained that “it’s just that this kind of comb is very small and neat and fits nicely into my wallet”. Hey, I’m just a practical guy………I was somewhat dishevelled as I had just driven 275 miles to get there – about 5 hours in the car, and having worked in Devon for many weeks I had not had a chance to have my hair trimmed for the date. I think it was my practicality and lack of pretension that hooked her.
We talked and listened to the band and had a really lovely time together, till the gig finished about 1am. By then Marcella was confident enough about me to allow me to drive her home and I dropped her off at her door – but didn’t even get a peck on my cheek for my trouble. The cheek!! – although we did hold hands in the car. The following day I asked Marcella by text for another date and we agreed to meet for lunch the following Tuesday (I was moving house that weekend) at a pub up on the East Lancashire Moors, called “Owd Bett’s”. It’s an old pub, very charming and we spent all afternoon having a lovely lunch, very leisurely, with the place virtually to ourselves. We finished about 5pm, when I had to set off on the 5 hour drive to Devon to my worksite, where I was working for the rest of the week. That evening Marcella had arranged to go out with a group of female friends but she later text’d me to say she had cancelled, as she wanted to stay at home and chill and savour our afternoon together. I text’d back that I had savoured the afternoon all the way down to Devon for 5 hours in the car. Our next date was the Sunday following when Marcella invited me to go swimming with her as a guest at her health club – fortunately I was still reasonably fit and I accepted. That was very pleasant even though I had not done any swimming for a long time.
That first date was exactly 3 months ago and since then we have been inseparable, going to gigs (some of mine), dancing and to gym and swimming whenever possible. Marcella is into keeping fit and has drawn me into this and I have lost 20 lbs without trying and am now much fitter – to our mutual benefit.
I have been with Marcella to her home country in the Far East for a holiday – her parents were Chinese and she was born and raised in a Far East country, but has been resident in UK for many years. There I met all her family and many of her friends from childhood and school, with whom she has stayed in touch. We had a fantastic time, very romantic and exciting – especially for me – not being familiar with the Far East or its culture and customs. I was very blessed as I had a “local” with me as my guide and mentor and she introduced me to all manner of new experiences that most tourists and holidaymakers would not see for lack of local knowledge.
Being Chinese, Marcella is a fan of Astrology and related matters. Some weeks ago we looked up my birth year and determined that in Chinese astrology I am a Dragon. Marcella is a Rat from her birth year and it seems that the best of all possible compatibility matches is a Dragon and a Rat. We also did the same for our Western birth signs Virgo and Pisces – with the same result. That pleased us both greatly…..
We have become totally besotted with each other and can’t bear to be apart. We intend to spend the rest of our lives together and we are very very happy. It seems as if each of us is the person that the other has dreamed of meeting – but has only finally met and each has fallen totally in love with, quite late in life. We did not expect this to happen as we are both mature people – but we had kept an open mind.……. We have both said to each other more than once that it feels too good to be true and it’s really scary – especially the speed with which our relationship has developed ……….. But we are both very confident that we will make it work – it is already working wonderfully well. I am still pinching myself to make sure I am awake and not dreaming!!
As a jazz musician I can and do quote from many romantic songs to express my feelings for Marcella and none expresses them and the way of our meeting better than the words of an old Standard, that I emailed to her recently, called You Stepped out of a Dream. The words go like this……………..
Stepped out of a dream,
Are you too wonderful
To be what you seem?
Could there be eyes like yours?
Could there be lips like yours?
Could there be smiles like yours,
Honest and truly?
Stepped out of a cloud,
I want to take you away
Away from the crowd,
And have you all to myself,
Alone and apart.
Out of a dream……….Safe into my heart.
This is our story and we hope you like it.
Thank you Plenty More Fish for our blissful happiness, without your site we would never have met.
With love from Marcella and Jake x
Afternoon lovely dating folk!
We are currently getting inundated with messages from happy couples who met on Plenty More Fish. Now we don’t want to share this to brag (well, maybe a just little) but to show you that this online dating stuff really works!
So, if you are single, why not give it a try? Registration with Plenty More Fish is completely free and only takes a couple of minutes. Happy Fishin’!
We started talking on your site over two months ago. We started off just talking, finding out about each other.. our likes and dislikes.. and we first met about four weeks ago. We now have just spent our first weekend together. We seem to fit like a glove. I am so grateful for your site for giving me the opportunity to meet and get to know someone whom I feel I have waited my life for… and someone who only lives 3 miles away! Thanks again, Colin & Annie
You are more than welcome guys! Needless to say news like this makes us very giddy indeed.
We hope you have a happy future together!
Plenty More Fish x