You have been single for some time now and regularly go on dates in your attempt to find Mr/Miss Right. Yet, somehow it’s not happening and you are slowly beginning lose hope that you will ever find that special person. This is natural and it happened to me too. I was single for almost 2 years and each time I went on a date, I kept thinking to myself, “Gosh, I hope he’s The One!” Needless to say that my high expectations were dashed each time.
So, what’s changed? I told a friend about my situation, and true to her straight shooting character, she bluntly told me to, “just chill”. I was hurt and miffed at first. Didn’t she know how important this was? How serious?
Recalling my most recent dates, I was embarrassed to think of my behaviour, realising I had been trying way too hard and as a result I had scared them all away.
That’s when it hit me. I had turned into Datezilla!
Once my perspective had shifted though, I was able to see dates for what they are, a great opportunity to meet interesting people and I started to make the most of them. I began to have fun and paid attention to the person I was with, rather than analysing each and every word, movement or signal. I began to relax and so did my dates. And it wasn’t long before that special someone popped into my life without me even trying. Funny how these things work out.
So, my dating advice to you singles out there is:
- Listen more, talk less
- Have more fun
- Stop trying so hard
- Be yourself
That’s all you can do. Dating should be fun, not a chore. So, in the words of my (brutally honest) friend, “Just chill.”
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We feel it’s of huge importance to meet the demands of all our customers and with many of you having increasingly busy lifestyles, it often leaves you with very limited time to find dates. Online dating is a great way round this and with mobile it can be even easier. We want to give you what you’re looking for – a great dating experience on your phone. This is why *……..drum roll………* we’ve just totally rebuilt our great dating sites and making it even more easy for you to access Plenty More Fish on your mobile.
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All your friends are taken, acquaintances all seem to be settled, even your slightly odd neighbour seems to have found Mr Right. In fact, from looking around it feels as if the only singleton about is you.
Ever felt like this? Everyone has at some point.
For some, being in this position creates tremendous amount pressure to find a partner quickly. You crave what you think everyone has: “The Perfect Partner.” However, it’s important to take into account that the relationships of your friends are probably entirely different to what you see. External appearances can be deceitful! Just because they have a partner it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ve got it all!
It’s not worth dating Mr or Ms. Wrong for dating’s sake and neither is it good to enter a relationship merely because someone has shown a large amount of interest in you. If you do this, you may find you’re constantly entering relationships below your standards. This will, in turn, increase your insecurity and cause you to think negatively about dating. Settling for Mr or Ms. Wrong isn’t a good move for this reason.
It’s not fair to ‘make do’ with someone just because you want a relationship. You will find yourself trying to mould them around what you want them to be. You should never try and change someone. If you feel yourself trying to do this then it’s fair to say – they’re not the right one for you.
Our advice to you would be, make sure you’re happy in yourself before going into a relationship. There are so many singletons out there, there’s absolutely no need to rush. Rather than rushing into anything and settling for mediocre, decide what you want from your next relationship. You don’t have to match your future partner with everything on your list but at least it’ll point you towards the right kind of person for you!
Hi fellow daters!
Just received an email of Wendy. She met her Phil on Plenty More Fish and we think that’s pretty fab, right? So here’s a big cyber kiss :-* from us to Wendy for sharing their story and we hope you guys the best and happiest future together! x
Phil mentioned that he was on Plenty More Fish and I thought that I’d give it a try. We saw each others profiles and made contact online. We’d met previously, but it was fun having a chat and interesting to read what interested the both of us. We got to know one another and the friendship developed; we met at our local modern jive group, as we both enjoy dancing and have very similar interests. When we danced, our eyes met and it was as if the rest of the world vanished. We now see each other every day, were inseperable!
Thank you P.M.F, you helped to bring us two together. We’ll have to see whats in store for us now, but we ll keep you up to date!
Wendy & Phil
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We are not going to say much as we’d rather let Carol tell you how she and Stephen met on Plenty More Fish. But we will say this:
We are so THRILLED for you both and wish you a long and happy future together! xxxx
“We started to talk via website towards the end of February 2013 and hit it off straight away. We talked for hours and hours and both realised that we had both been seriously hurt in previous relationships and were now ready to trust again.
We made arrangements to meet on 3rd March, he took me out for lunch and we were both smitten at first site. We went out for lunch to a lovely country pub where we had a lovely lunch and chatted for hours, we finally left and chatted even more at home and realised how much we had in common and what we both wanted out of life.
From that moment on we have been inseparable. When we can’t see one another due to work etc, we chat via email or phone one another all the time. We have been away for a weekend together, he has met my children and I have been to meet his and his grand-daughter. When we are not working we spend all our time together.
Due to go away on holiday in July to meet his parents, which we are both looking forward to, it will be our first official holiday away together. We are now making plans on our return from holiday to move in together and plan the rest of our lives together.
Thank you so much, our lives are now complete.”
Carol & Stephen
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That’s little happy squeaks coming from Plenty More Towers, as we have just received another wonderful success story, this time it’s from Jodlin and Keith, who wrote to us to share how they found love and happiness through online dating. This is their experience:
Keith sent a very tongue in cheek ‘icebreaker’, and I replied not really expecting anything. We got chatting and agreed to meet for our first date on Valentine’s Day. We were both like two nervous teenagers on the morning of the date. We have had a number of dates since then and are now introducing each other to our respective families. We are two halves of a jigsaw of many pieces that together make a complete picture, it’s just wonderful. We wish success to other couples and hope they can find their dream partner and share in the love that we found.
Joldin & Keith
Congrats you guys and a very happy future from us all here at Plenty More Fish! xxx
Remember last Tuesday when we posted Tim & Sherrie’s story? Well, that was Tim’s version of events, and now it’s time to share Sherrie’s.
I really thought going on a date site wasn’t for me. All I can say is I have met the most amazing man and I haven’t been so happy for many years. I started speaking to Tim just after new years day. Tim would wink and I would do the same. After a few weeks I gave up, then out of the blue, Tim asked me if I wanted to meet. A week later we met at London Bridge 27 Jan 13 at midday, Tim wanted the day to be special. We went on to Covent garden, well the day was special. We were like kids again, I have not felt so comfortable in a long time, it was magic. After spending 10 hours together, we text the next day and been together ever since.
We are going on holiday soon, I’ve meet the parents and Tim’s kids. We plan to go to the North East soon, so Tim can meet my family. Tim has also been invited to my sister’s wedding next years, so fingers crossed we might be next [Maz: keeping our fingers firmly crossed for you two].
I’m not a person to fall in love, but when we met a London Bridge, it was magic. For the first time in my life, I’m really happy.
Thank You, Sherrie and Tim xx
We love that both took the time to write in and share their story will us all. We are thrilled for you both and wish you a wonderful time and long and happy future.
Your Plenty More Fish team xxx
Time to spread the luurve and share another success story with you. Say ‘Hi’ to Tim and Sherrie who met on Plenty More Fish!
I decided that I was at the stage in my life where I felt ready to move on, my wife passed away late 2010. I posted up to date photos, a totally honest profile and used the sites messaging service to begin with, trying to be interesting but also interested in the people I was talking to. Luckily I seemed to hit it off with one person in particular (Sherrie). Within a week we had swapped phone numbers and were talking most nights. We agreed to meet and went for lunch in Covent Garden. We had a great time and actually spent the whole afternoon and evening together! We have been in regular contact since.
Tim & Sherrie
We love Tim’s positive attitude toward dating and it looks like it paid off. We hope you guys have a great future together.
Maz & Plenty More Fish Team x
Easter bank holiday is just around the corner (can we get a YAY?) and we hope all of you lovely peeps have a date lined up. Perhaps you are still looking for some things to do? Fret not fellow daters, your Plenty More Fish Team has been busy researching the wibbly wobbly web and found these cracking date suggestions for you:
Brighton, Bristol, London and Oxford
What better way to spend a date than to treat your sweet to some sweet treats? During the Easter weekend Brighton, Bristol, London and Oxford are all throwing their own Chocolate Festivals. Each event will be host to dozens of stalls showcasing artisan produced chocolate made from pure ingredients. You and your date will find everything from hot chocolate to chocolate cakes, chocolate churros to chocolate pretzels, chocolate chilli to chocolate cocktails. Total chocolate heaven if you ask us.
But that’s not all. If you want to combine pleasure with knowledge, you can also learn about the goodness of real chocolate, take lessons on how to create your own chocolate or drop in at a Masterclass cookery demonstration and pick up recipes to turn your next dinner date into a dark and delicious delight. Sweet!
For a theatrical and musical feast, head over to Birmingham, where Cameron Mackintosh’s spectacular new production of Andrew Lloyd Webber’s The Phantom of the Opera is currently showing at the Birmingham Hippodrome. It’s a story of mystery and unrequited love and a real treat for the eyes and ears. Add a little extra and indulge in mouth-watering canapés and Champagne, served at your own reserved foyer table either pre-show or during the interval. Click here for pricing and to book tickets. To get more details on the show specials click this link.
If you prefer sampling the malty delights of real beers and ales, then Manchester is the place to be. Running through the Easter weekend, The Fisherman’s Retreat is host to the Beer Festival, giving you an opportunity to enjoy the taste of 40 local real ales as well as beers in wooden casks plus entertainment. The entertainment on Friday and Saturday is priced at £12 and £6 on Sunday, so perfect for the more money conscious dater. Featured bands are:
Friday: Phil Lyons and his New Vintage Band
Saturday: NorthWest 12 – 12 piece soul band
Sunday: Quadrille Ceilidh Band
To book tickets, call 01706 825314 or visit www.fishermansretreat.com.
For a dose of cultural history and a romantic stroll in breathtaking scenery, visit Yorkshire’s Castle Howard. This magnificent 18th-century mansion is set within 1,000 acres of stunning landscaping which are located in the Howardian Hills, an area of outstanding natural beauty. And during the bank holiday the grounds will be home to the Easter Fair offering vintage rides, sweet stalls and sheep racing.
Castle Howard is also a very popular wedding destination, which may come in handy some day. I wouldn’t necessarily mention that to your date though 😉
Ramp up the dating fun factor and head over to Ocean Beach Pleasure Park, home to Urban Wave, a new all year round sports activity that can simulate popular boarding such as surfing, wake-boarding, body-boarding and snow-boarding without getting wet! Shaped like a wave, a rotating special surface of 6 meters wide and 9 meters long, gives you enough space to ride and do tricks and is bound to have you both laughing your head off. The cool thing is up to two people can use Urban Wave at the same time, making it perfect for a date. So go ahead and be totally boglius (which is surf lingo for cool and awesome).
We hope you found our suggestions useful and we wish you a hoppy bank holiday weekend.
Maz and the Plenty More Fish Team x