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How long is too long without sex in a relationship?

It’s a common question that comes up, particularly once the honeymoon period is over. The truth is, every relationship is different. We all have different sex lives and libidos. It can be difficult to go from an often exciting and adventurous sex life to one that is once in a while and a bit ‘same old’. 

The key to navigating dry sex spells within your relationship is by not comparing it to others. In the bedroom, we’re told there are so many standards we need to meet, and it’s hard to avoid comparing your sex life with others. There are no rules when it comes to how frequently you and your partner should be getting intimate. 

Dry spells don’t necessarily mean something is wrong, but it’s important to talk to your partner about how you feel if you’re going through one. There may be times when you or your partner feel as though your needs aren’t being met and this is where communication is crucial. 

It can feel awkward to bring it up, particularly if this is the first time this issue has occurred, but don’t think it up too much in your head. Get yourself into a calm and non-defensive state and remember not to take things personally. Generally we want to feel understood and accepted by our partners, so if your partner feels as though their needs aren’t being met then reassure them, rather than taking it personally.  

Why are we going through a dry sex spell?

So many things can affect our libido. It can be as simple as work stresses or as complicated as a hormone imbalance. So it’s important that once you’ve noticed your sex life has taken a hit to look at all those potential contributing factors. Have you had a bad experience recently? Are you taking any medication? Are you in a good mental state? The sooner you recognise what could be affecting your libido the sooner you can start to take action on it. 

So, how do we get our sex life back?

Now that you’ve taken the time to acknowledge it, you can start looking at bringing back that spark and intimacy. So where do you start? Firstly, you want to get rid of the idea that sex is spontaneous and it shouldn’t be planned. 

You should both decide on an ideal time to get intimate. When will you both be able to actually relax rather than thinking about other factors in your life? And after you’ve decided that then look forward to it, start feeling the anticipation rather than seeing it as a scheduled chore. 

Remember that sex doesn’t just have to be penetrative and in the bedroom, make it exciting and change it up. Maybe get naughty in a different part of the house, or a different time of the day, or even focus on foreplay. 

If you want more tips on how to boost your sex drive then check out our previous blog post here, you’ll find some tips and tricks to get your libido going again.

If you’re wanting to get naughty between the sheets then head over to our naughty pond where you’ll find fellow sexy singles.

Erogenous zones you shouldn’t ignore on your woman

When you’re getting naughty in the sheets, it’s easy to let your feelings of excitement take over and you skip over a few important spots that could’ve potentially made the experience even more pleasurable. Knowing these areas will benefit your time in between the sheets and it’ll most definitely pleasure your partner. So, take a look and next time you find yourself getting frisky, try to remember a couple of these zones.

Inner Thighs

This area can quite quickly be skipped over in the moment, rather than using this area to tease your partner and build up to the big event some people forget about it altogether. A teasing motion can make this area super sensitive to touch, slowly building the pleasure for your partner. You could slowly trace shapes on your partners thighs or even lightly peck them.


This one is a super obvious one, most people know that the nipples are an incredibly sensitive area. Using light touch and your mouth, you can easily turn this into an erogenous zone. Exploring this zone during foreplay is a great way to build anticipation for the main event 😉


The ears are so important in the early stages of foreplay. Try lightly kissing, licking, or nibbling at the earlobes, it can be pleasurable for your partner and is a great way to increase their sensitiveness to touch.


Along with the ears, the neck is a great place to start in foreplay as well. Even a slight touch of your lips or fingertips against your partners neck can make their body tingle. You can make your way to their lips or down their body towards the nipples and stomach.


It’s the most under-appreciated erogenous zone yet arguably the most important.

Did you know? The clitoris has 8000 nerve endings so it’s no surprise it’s sensitive to touch.

Because of this it’s probably a good idea to use gentle stimulation like a tongue or sex toy as a starting point and to figure out what pressure is pleasurable for your partner. Every woman will have a different pressure point, so it’s down to the individual what is pleasing to them. Remember to communicate and ask your partner what feels good/doesn’t feel right.

You’re probably looking at the list above and nodding your head, telling yourself that you know all of these areas already but sometimes we need a gentle reminder. The best thing about this is there’s a zone for every level of foreplay. Start at the ears and neck, moving towards the nipples, down to the thighs and finishing with the clitoris.

If you want to explore a little more, head over to our Naughty Pond where you’ll find other naughty singles ready for some fun.

New to naughty dating? Here are 3 tips for novices.

Always wanted to take a walk on the wild side? If you are new to naughty dating or have been perusing a few dating sites for a while but haven’t yet had the gumption to sign up, keep reading! Our naughty pond allows fun singles to mingle for some no-strings-attached sex and you get to experience what it’s like to casually date whilst also maybe being able to play out a few fantasies.

Before you press ‘sign up’, there might be a few things you’d like to consider and to help, we’ve put together 3 simple top tips you can use before joining the naughty dating world.

Keep realistic expectations

It’s great to have expectations, because then we’re not settling for just anybody but remember to keep them realistic in the world of naughty dating. Whether that’s any expectations you may have in terms of what your date looks like or what will come out of ‘naughty dating’.

If you’re secretly hoping that a hook-up with a hottie will turn into a long-term romantic relationship, you’ve probably got the whole naughty dating thing wrong and you’re fishing in the wrong pond. To find singles looking for love check out our Singles Pond.

Pro Tip: if you’re wanting to attract a certain type of person, then look and act like that person. For example, if you’re looking for your hottie, make sure the photos you’re uploading are of you looking your best and feeling confident.

Never be too available

Regardless of whether you’re wanting a romantic relationship or a one-time fling between the sheets, you want to make sure you’re not making yourself too available. Keep it fun and exciting by keeping them on their toes, even when naughty dating.

Many people make the mistake of making themselves too available, not only in terms of seeing the other person but also with communication. Why don’t you leave their message unread for a couple of hours and go and do your thing. Just make sure you don’t wait too long; you don’t want them to lose interest.  

Think about the future

If you’re wanting a bit more of a long-term commitment, then naughty dating probably isn’t for you. Before joining the site, sit down and think about what you want to get from joining. If it’s a little bit of fun, a cheeky fling here and there you’re after, then check out our naughty pond. But make sure you figure out what you want, it will save any disappointment in the long run.

Although these tips may seem basic or obvious, they’re key to making sure that joining a naughty date site is the right thing for you. If you’re still interested in getting to meet others for some fun, no-strings-attached sex then head over to our naughty pond.

What is expected of you as a submissive?

You’ve most likely heard of the word Submissive or Submission, particularly if you’ve read our Guide to BDSM post. But if you’re not too sure we’ll run over it quickly for you. Submission is surrendering to the control of the dominant, typically this is a relationship formed between two people where one person has authority over another in consensual terms. BDSM is not a requirement for a D/S (Dominant/Submissive) relationship, but if you like things kinky in the bedroom you could add in elements of it.

But what is expected of you exactly as a submissive?

You need to be accepting

Being in a D/S relationship can be challenging, particularly if it’s your first experience of one. So being accepting of the other person is important in making them feel comfortable.

You need to be honest

Honesty is so important, particularly in a submissive role as your dominant needs to get to know every intimate detail about you before and after engaging in the relationship. This is so that they clearly know your boundaries and what you enjoy.

You need to be trusting

A huge part of engaging in a D/S relationship is trust. Like any relationship if it’s not there then the relationship will struggle. You need to trust your dominant that they’re looking out for you in all ways.

You are going to have sacrifice some things

In a ‘normal’ sexual relationship, you pretty much have control of everything like your pleasure etc. But as a submissive, you consensually hand over the power to your dominant so things like sexual gratification, pleasure and pride become a privilege. Establishing your safe words are crucial for times like these, as you want to be able to express your discomfort at any point.

You need to be patient

Mistakes are bound to happen, by both yourself and your dominant. But learning more about each other takes time and patience, you may want things from your dominant now, but you need to think of the relationship in the long run. This also goes for if it’s someone’s first experience of a D/S relationship, they may be a different type of dominant to what you’re used to, so be patient with them.

So next time you’re wanting to explore the world of submission, remember these are the things you need to expect for a great time. Have fun and get comfortable with this new and exciting relationship.

If you’re looking for fellow sexy singles to get naughty with then head over to our naughty pond where you will find plenty to keep you entertained.

Beginners Guide to Bondage

Bondage is a great way to introduce a bit of fun and play into the bedroom. It’s typically enjoyed between consenting adults for the purpose of pleasure by their movements being partially or completely restricted. If you choose to be bound you are putting your trust into your partner whilst you’re in a vulnerable position, and the other enjoys being in the position of control.

Why is it a turn on?

For some people, someone having control over them is a huge turn on. If both parties consent and trust each other at their most vulnerable, then it can dial up the psychological sensations. It has tease and denial elements which make it highly arousing, as you’re not able to stop the other person or pleasure yourself sexually. Do remember this all must be consensual and communicated before you start.

Where do we start?

Consent is a crucial element. You want to be certain that you or your partner want to participate in bondage and are still happy throughout. It’s important to remember that whilst someone may consent before, they can decide they no longer want to participate at any point during the act.

Once that’s established, you’re going to want to look at accessories to use. There are many types of common bondage accessories, like ankle and wrist cuffs, bondage tape, bondage rope, spreader bars, the list goes on. But if you’re not into investing in these accessories, you can opt for the simpler option that you may find around your house like a belt or a tie. If you find you and your partner both enjoy bondage, you can invest in a bondage kit, or maybe try using a different accessory like a rope.

A bit more on rope bondage

The great thing about bondage rope is that it’s easy to store. You can keep it in a draw or a wardrobe, under your bed or anywhere that’s going to be easily accessible for you. You don’t need any other accessories to make it work, you just need to know what knots to tie and how to always keep everyone safe. Focus on the physical sensation of the rope being tied, this is what gives you pleasure.

Rope by itself seems innocent until you know how to handle it, you can use it to create rope harnesses or different types of restraints. A rope harness can symbolise submission so you might find it being used in a dominant and submissive relationship or BDSM.

A few tips for you…

1. If you’re thinking of trying bondage but you want to keep it in the bedroom, then consider purchasing under-mattress restraints. You can have the tethers underneath your mattress and cuffs can be placed at each end. Then you’ve got yourself some bondage fun whenever you and your partner would like.

2. Take your time. Patience is key here; you want to make sure you’re feeling comfortable at all times and so is your partner. Get to know what your partner likes, there may be certain bondage accessories they prefer, so give them time to figure that out and to communicate that with you.

3. Establish safe words and most importantly use them if you’re feeling uncomfortable, do not fear them. You’re not appearing weak, or it isn’t a ‘fail’ by using a safe word, they’re there to establish boundaries which is a sign of a healthy sexual relationship. Make sure communication is top priority for both you and your partner.

If you’re looking to spice up your sex life, head over to our Naughty Pond to find your next fun adventure.

Your Guide to Audio Porn

Audio porn has seen a huge surge in popularity in recent years. No longer are your typical porn sites cutting it, after all visual porn doesn’t always work for everyone. Some people prefer audio porn as arousal is heightened since they’re able to use their own imagination more freely. It’s easy to see why; you’re able to close your eyes and visualise the scene yourself as well as your partner, so you know every person’s scene is going to be different. You could even sit down with your partner and listen to some of these stories, it could be the first step in rekindling a spark in the bedroom or even just spicing up your sex life.

If you’re new to audio porn and maybe a little intrigued into how great it can be, we’ve put together a list of sites for you to try. Use these as starting points, they’re easy to navigate and provide a wide range of different stories and sexual wellness audio that you can use.


This site has one main intention and that’s to celebrate healthy sexuality, that’s safe, positive, and full of healthy boundary setting. It provides wellness content that connects you to your sexuality and desires. If you like your porn with a plot, then the stories on this site are great for guiding you through, with plenty of character stories to choose from. As well as fictional stories, they also provide guided erotic sessions and how to’s, so you can get to learn more about yourself and what you enjoy.


It’s said to be the YouTube of audio porn. There’s such a wide range of audio to listen to, you can search by category and narrow down by gender or sexuality and then even specify kinks. Users can upload their own clips, stories, and guided sessions so you’ll find audio not only from experts but also those new in the field. This site particularly specialises in non-visual porn for women, it’s not to say that if you are a man, you can’t get turned on by the audio, but it does provide more to empower women.


The site releases audio themselves, which means that you know what you’re about to listen to is created by those that are experienced in the field. These stories are great for those who want to cut to the chase pretty quickly and who prefer being able to put themselves in the stories, rather than it being about someone else. They’re inclusive of all kinks and provide kink-positive, realistic stories.

These are just a few of the many audio porn sites we’ve found out there. If you’re wanting to go out and try sites for yourself, remember to only join sites that are safe spaces and provide comfortable experiences. You want to feel relaxed and immersed into the story when listening to them, so if you’re finding yourself getting distracted or uncomfortable it might be best to try another.

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Three new sex positions to try tonight

Maybe you’re after a bit of a change up in your sex life, you’re thinking you want to vary the positions and try something new. Well, we’ve done a bit of research and found some positions you could give a go tonight to spice up your sex life. Sometimes it’s easy to slip into the same old positions and you might be getting bored of it, so try these out and who knows, maybe you’ll find your new favourite position.

“The Bear Hug”

The receiving person stands and raises one leg in a bent position, it’s probably a good idea to make sure you’re near a wall or your bed for support. The giving partner then positions themselves behind the receiving partner in a tight hug, holding onto their waist to pull them in closer.

This position is great if you like the flexibility to choose the intensity and depth, as you can easily tailor it to your needs depending at the angles you and your partner position yourself in.

“The Sofa Surfer”

The receiving partner sits on the armrest of the sofa (first make sure your sofa isn’t flimsy and there’s nothing around you could injure yourself on) and then lowers the upper part of their body onto the seat, so they’re lying at an angle, with their legs straight and raised. The giving partner should then stand in front of the armrest and receiving partner and place their legs on their shoulders and grabbing their thighs.

This position is great if the giving partner is a little more dominant with the pace. It is sure to hit all of the deep penetrative spots that can create the mind-blowing orgasm and since you don’t have to use your hands, they are free to stimulate other parts of the body, like the nipples etc.

“The Cradle”

You both must be sitting facing each other to start with, the receiving partner then moves closer and wraps their legs around the giving partner and the giving partner does the same. The receiving partner then should shuffle forwards. This position requires more patience and it is deeply intimate.

As it’s a low intensity position it can take longer to build to an orgasm, but it done right it can be a connective experience for both partners. It might be one to try if you’ve got a bit of history with your partner, probably not the best for the first date.

There are plenty of other sex positions out there to try, but these are just a few that have the potential to spice up your sex life.

If you’re wanting someone to get steamy in the bedroom with then head over to our Naughty Pond where you can find fellow singles ready for no-strings-attached sex.

When your partner has a sexual fetish

A fetish is a sexual attraction to an object or material, whether that’s the thought of using it on somebody else or just the object itself. There are plenty of fabulous fetishes out there, and it’s likely you’ve bumped into a few people who had a fetish or two. Thanks to the internet and more a more progressive dating culture, fetishes are more widely discussed and shared. For some who have a fetish the worry whether or not to reveal their desires remains though. Many still fear that the person without the fetish, may not understand or reject them because of it.

So, what do you do if someone tells you they have a fetish?

If a person with a fetish tells you about their fetish, it’s important to remember that they’re quite clearly comfortable enough with you to be open and honest about their personal sexual attractions, which is amazing. So before making a run for it, talk to your date about the fetish itself. Giving them the opportunity to share its significance, the role it place in expressing their sexuality and satisfaction, can turn what may be weird at first into something deeply intimate. Sometimes, we hear fetish and panic thinking that they’re all extreme and it can make you feel uncomfortable when it’s no reason to.

If, after you’ve had the conversation, you’re still not keen on the idea or the fetish is a dealbreaker for you, then it may be time to part ways. As harsh as it sounds, ultimately, you are doing both of you a favour since both of you desire something the other one can’t give, so it’s better to call it quits instead of trying to supress who you are and the needs you have

If are ready to give it a try and you want to incorporate it into the bedroom make sure you’re both ready to do so. Just because someone has opened up to you about their sexual attractions, it may not mean they want to try it straight away. They may still be nervous that it will push you away. Some fetishes may not be so straight forward, so go slow. Afterwards, make sure you talk to your partner about how they felt during sex, whether they enjoyed it or not and whether they’d be open to trying it again.

Not liking your partners fetishes is completely normal, not everyone likes to experiment in the bedroom and particularly when it’s something they may not completely understand. Some relationships carry on completely normal, but if your partner proceeds to make you feel uncomfortable about having a fetish or vice versa, then it might be worth looking at the value of your relationship. There is a difference between not liking something and demeaning someone for having those fetishes.

Are you looking to explore more in the bedroom? Then head over to our Naughty Pond to find like-minded singles.

How to become a pro cowgirl😉

“Do you want to get on top?” The question some women dread to hear. You were having a great time but now you’re just worrying about how you look or how you’re moving. It’s not always as easy as it looks, as much as you all want to channel your inner cowgirl sometimes a little guidance might help, so we’ve put a list of tips and tricks together that may help you out in your next rodeo.

First things first, being on top gives you a lot more control than you realise, you control the speed, angles, the intensity, and you also set the rhythm so it’s easier to stick to something that feels good for you.

Don’t go too fast

It’s not about speed. Great sex is about rhythm and motion, so if you don’t feel in sync with your partner then to try to reconnect with them. If you’re moving too fast, it can be more difficult for your partner to keep up and you fall out of rhythm with each other. You’ll also tire out much faster – take it slow and savour it.

Tie your hair up

You’ve probably heard someone say, ‘she means business’ after you tie your hair up. That’s because you really do. It can get steamy and sweaty during your time in the bedroom and the last thing you want to happen is for your hair to get caught or stuck to your face or neck and annoy you. It’s also ready for the cowboy to give it a little tug or pull.

Talk dirty

Get close and personal with your partner, try whispering something dirty in their ear and see how much it turns you on. Just let go and be in the heat of the moment, letting your imagination run wild.

The Coconut Trick

According to the web spelling out the word coconut using your hips is the most exciting way to go ride your naughty bronco. Going at a medium pace and allowing you and your partner feel each letter can leave you and your partner wanting more.

Don’t jump between motions quickly

You might be excited to try all of the different motions you can think of, or maybe you’re just bored of the one you’re doing already but try not to swap and change the motions too much, it can be difficult for you and your partner to be in sync and connect with each other.

Are you wanting to try out these tips and tricks? 😉 Head over to our Naughty Pond to find fellow singles ready to have some fun.

How to feel more ‘in the moment’ during sex

It’s not unusual to hear that many people feel they aren’t entirely in the moment during their sexcapades. A study by Ferly (a sexual wellness app) found that 92% of women don’t feel present during sex meaning yes, it is a common experience and no, there’s nothing wrong with you. 

It’s no surprise that we all get so easily distracted during sex, we have things like phones that ping with every notification leaving you wondering who texted you or what meme your best friend tagged you in this time. Not only this, but we all have over-active minds consumed by work, relationships, family and what we’re going to eat for dinner tomorrow night. But thinking about something else can completely knock you off course for a pleasurable experience. What was meant to be a fun 30 minutes upstairs, can instead be taken over by our endless mind chatter. 

It’s not only our thoughts that can be our worst enemy in the bedroom, ideas of how we’re perceived by our partners can also be distracting. Do I look sexy enough? Am I shaven/not shaven enough for their liking? I’m sure you’ve found yourself wondering about something to do with your appearance at one point during sex. If so, you’ll know how distracting and insecure it can feel at times. 

Feeling more present during sex is so important to having a pleasurable experience, any distractions and you can most possibly count out the probability of having an orgasm unless you get your head back into the (bed)room. Next time try these quick tips: 

A digital detox

Hide your phone away from the bedroom, leave it downstairs on the sofa or put away on silent in your bedside table. This way you’ll find that when your phone buzzes you won’t even know, and you can worry about responding to the WhatsApp group chat after. The more you do this, the more you’ll allow yourself to fully be present during sex.

Focus on touch 

When you feel yourself getting distracted, bring yourself back to what you feel. Focusing on how YOU feel is so essential to derive pleasure from sex. If it helps close your eyes and just concentrate on the feeling. Then bring back all the senses individually, listening to what your partner is whispering in your ear, start talking dirty and you’ll find by this point any distractions have disappeared. 

Make eye contact

If you’re feeling that focusing on solely how you feel is not working, then try making eye contact with your partner. This can help to create a connection and to be honest, eye contact is pretty sexy as it is. 

Make requests. 

Asking for what you want during sex is a great way to keep your mind in the game. Don’t focus on what your partner isn’t doing, instead focus on what would make you feel better. If you look at it that way then you’ll find yourself searching more for the pleasurable feeling than the disappointing feeling, and by searching for a pleasurable feeling you’re less likely to get distracted. 

Sexy time can change and differ, sometimes you may find you are completely excited by them, and you lose track of time and other times you may just pray and think of England, praying for it to be over soon.

Above all try to have fun and you’ll soon feel yourself relaxing and enjoying the experience.

If you’re looking for fun, sexy singles to help warm up your bed then check out the Naughty Pond. It might just be your lucky day😉

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