Let’s be honest, the dating pond is a vast ocean of opportunities and potential matches. It makes sense that you cast your net wide to increase your chances for reeling in the best catch and dating several people at once is simply being efficient.
Even so, seeing more than one person at any one time is a bit of a juggling act and before we share our tips on how make that easier, it’s worth giving some context. When we refer to ‘dating’ we mean ‘looking for a long-term relationship’ not ‘hooking up’ (that’s what our naughty pond is for). 😈
#1 Be honest
Since we all agree that dating more than one person is a good thing, keeping it hidden from the people you are seeing is not. Telling your dates that you are meeting other people is the mature and decent thing to do. Some of you may protest that it might scare some potential dates away. Yes, that may happen, but if someone is put off by that, they are clearly not on the same page and are probably not a suitable match.
#2 Keep it small
As with other things in life, if we take on too much it becomes a struggle. It’s better to date 5 people than 10 for the simple reason that dating can be tiring. It’s also a good idea to spread out your date over several days and give yourself time to reflect and, you know, have a life. You’ll want to be your best self when looking for that special someone so make sure you don’t overdo the dating.
#3 No Ghosting
When you’ve started to realise that it’s not going to work out with one of your dates, please don’t just ghost them. Be fair and tell him/her that it’s not going to go anywhere and let them down gently. Likewise, if you’re getting serious with someone, it’s time to share that you’re off the market. We all deserve to be treated respectfully.
#4 Be Curious
Really push the boat out and increase your odds of finding love by dating a variety of people. Pick someone you wouldn’t normally go out with. Granted, it may be a bit out of your comfort zone but as the old saying goes, ‘opposites attract’. Or they surprise you and you’ll realise you have more in common than you thought. You won’t know until you’ve tried.
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Whilst we may be a generation addicted to selfies and photos, it is safe to say that a well-written quality dating profile will help you stand out in the crowd and catch Mr or Miss Right. The thing is we’re just not very good at selling ourselves, it isn’t in our nature to ‘brag’ about our plus points but in reality this is exactly what you need to do in the world of online dating.
Even if you’re not a budding wordsmith, with a little thought and creativity you can create a knockout dating profile. Still need a guiding hand? Our top tips below will nudge you in the right direction.
Keep it short and sweet
Entice your date with just enough to peak their interest. Here are some good examples:
Sunday fun day 👍🏻 Sunday chill day 👎🏻
Snakes 😍 Moths 😱
Bike ✅ Car ⛔️
Pineapple on pizza > great combo (Perhaps we will be too?)
“She has funny toes.” – My best friend Clare
“Excellent gums. Definitely flosses regularly.” – Sara, my hygienist
“She’s cute, but she snores.” – My mother
“Gentlemen, I wash my hands of this weirdness.” – My ex (actually it was Captain Jack Sparrow in At World’s End but I’m sure my ex would agree)
Kids in your photos
Always a risky one as parents tend to keep their kids off the internet. However, if you are a single parent most of your pictures will contain your kids so a quick disclaimer about who that kid in your photo belongs to are appreciated, but not necessary.
Funny is good. Witty is better.
Unless you’re a natural comedian it will pay dividends to spend some time researching other profiles and taking inspiration from them. Be original and please don’t copy and paste from other profiles.
Must we really say it? Online dating is not the platform to promote your views on your views on mindfulness or inner peace, so please stay clear of inspirational quotes (unless you can turn them into something funny or use it as a topic of why you think it stinks).
I’m this tall…
Gents, refrain from adding your height to your dating bio. Whilst there may be shallow girls out there that open with this question, most of us are better than that!
Lads, contrary to what many of you (90%) may believe, posting shirtless pics can mean on average 25% fewer matches. More than half of the women who’ve been asked said that posting shirtless pics implies a lack of maturity and self-awareness.
Regardless of whether you’re a young professional or one of the many over 40’s daters, making the right first impression is key and a good dating bio can be a great way to introduce yourself.
If you’re looking for a potential date what are the things you look for in a good profile? We’d love for you to share with us your profile ‘deal breakers’.
When you’ve been in the dating pool a while and/or you’ve reached a certain age it’s very likely you’ll date someone who’s had a failed marriage or long-term relationship. But that doesn’t mean that person won’t be a great partner. There are, however, some warning signs to look out for when dating a divorced man.
Separated, not divorced
The first red flag is whether he describes himself as separated rather than divorced. Many women get sucked into a relationship (rebound anyone?) with a separated man, only to find out that he’s still married and actually working on his relationship or that he’s going to remain married, but still separated for the foreseeable future and he never has any plans on getting remarried. So anytime you hear the word separated, translate that into, ‘I’m not available for anything serious’.
Going too fast
The second warning sign is how fast he jumps into a very serious relationship. Oftentimes divorced men are only comfortable with relationships that become very serious, very quickly. They are putt off by the dating process of getting to know the other person and it’s important you slow things down. Even if he is keen to spend a lot of time with you or goes as far as suggesting moving in together, slowing down will give you both time to really get to know each other and see if you are actually compatible in the long run.
Having a negative attitude towards love or being emotionally unavailable is also a red flag. Granted, going through a divorce is one of the most traumatic things a person has to deal with, and it can leave that person bitter and closed off to love. So, if he’s still in a place where he can’t see himself to ever get married again – believe him. He’s not yet moved on and is still reeling from that experience. Let him go, he’s not ready.
Red flag number four is whether he’s depressed or has low self-esteem. As we said earlier divorce is traumatic and it can really take a toll on a person’s mental state and destroy their self-esteem. Divorce has the potential to make you feel like you are not worthy of a relationship, especially if you’ve been cheated on. But remember, it’s not your job to fix him, it’s not your job to try and bring him to a healthy place in his love life. He will need to find that path on his own. Please avoid wasting too much time trying to rehabilitate him when you could be keeping your options open to other people.
Check the ex
If his ex-wife is still a huge part of his life that’s another warning sign you shouldn’t ignore. Now, we get it if he has children with her, they will need to make sure they have an active relationship and maybe even a friendship. But if you’re finding that she’s still a constant part of his life, he’s texting her on a constant basis, always seeing her more than probably would be appropriate, then keep your eyes wide open. There’s still a possibility he might want to win her back.
Kids but no kids
Speaking of children. How’s his relationship with his kids? If he has zero custody of his children doesn’t necessarily mean that there’s a major problem. Nonetheless, it’s a red flag. Typically, the relationship that someone has with their children is very coherent with the relationship they’ll have with other people in their life, but divorces are complicated and messy, so you really want to find out what actually went to get a clearer picture of him.
Now those are the biggest red flags we really want you to be looking for when you’re dating a divorced man, and if you don’t see any of those red flags, then great, go for it! Just because a man was divorced doesn’t mean he’s damaged goods. On the contrary, he actually may have learned a lot from that first marriage and be at a point in his life where he has more clarity about what he wants in a relationship and in a woman.
Ready to find your next date? Check out our divorced singles pond and start chatting to other divorced singles today.
If you’ve been online and swimming in our naughty pond for a while, you’re probably acquainted with the do’s and don’ts our members expect on the site. If you’re new to online dating, especially naughty dating, there are some important things you need to consider so you don’t come off looking like a newbie, or worse, a weirdo. So, here’s a handy guide for all you ‘freshlings’ thinking of frolicking in the deeper waters.
Get ready to date
Naughty singles come to the site to meet lots of like-minded people to have fun and sex with, so you better be prepared actually to go out on a date with people! What’s the point of joining if you have no intention of hooking up and having a bit of fun? Also, be prepared for rejection. Our singles know what they want and aren’t afraid to show it. Importantly, don’t be disheartened if not everyone falls for your fleshy assets right away. As we always say, ‘there’s plenty more fish in the sea’!
When you join a naughty dating site like Plentymorefish.com it’s worth remembering that you’re not here to find a long-term relationship. This sexy pool is full of singles looking for excitement, adventure and no-strings attached sex. If you’re looking for fairy tales and romance, then the casual dating scene is not for you. Check out our regular singles pond instead.
I guess we all want to fuck someone who looks like a movie star, but you could be missing out on the romp of your life. Instead look for sexual compatibility, likes and dislikes etc. Ask questions and find out how they tick and what fantasies you share. There’s nothing worse than hooking up with someone who looks like a lumber jack but doesn’t know how to use his tools.
Beware of feelings
You’ve been hooking up, having a whale of a time and suddenly those pesky feelings are getting their hooks into you. You start to crave more. It happens, it’s ok. Make sure you talk to the subject of your newly caught feelings and tell them openly. They may reject you so no drama please. We’re all grownups here.
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The world’s population is getting older year on year. The UK now has an average life expectancy of 81 years, meaning that finding love is no longer limited to people in their 20s, 30s and 40s. More and more mature singles find themselves diving into the dating pool and often for the first time in a long time. That can be a daunting experience. But don’t worry, we’re here to help you navigate your new and fun dating journey.
Here are our top tips to finding love again in your later years:
- Try something new
Think you can’t teach an old dog new tricks? Think again! Not only is taking up a new hobby good for your brain and mental health, it’s also an excellent way to make new friends and meet likeminded singles. We’re certain there’s always been something you’ve been wanting to try out – choir singing, a cooking class or perhaps learning to tango? The possibilities are endless.
- Get moving
Physical exercise is a great way to improve many aspects of your life – mood, energy and self-esteem! Whether it’s dancing, walking, yoga or swimming, all are set to keep you young and in great shape. There are literally hundreds of clubs and classes looking to welcome you. Why not try something new every week to get you started until you find ‘The One’ you really like?
- Go shopping
Stuck in a rut when it comes to fashion? Now’s the time to ditch the old look and go for something new and fresh! One of the best ways to explore new looks is to get some help from a personal stylist. Many department stores now offer this service and it’s not as expensive as you think. Go on! Invest in yourself – you are worth it.
- Try online dating
If you haven’t tried online dating yet, you are missing out. The beauty of dating apps is that you get to speak to a lot of singles before you meet them. There are many dating sites now catering for mature singles looking to connect and find love – like our Silver Pond.
- Book that trip
It’s time to go on an adventure! Many travel companies now offer solo travellers the opportunity to join likeminded people on a group holiday. Not only will you see amazing new sights, but you’re bound to make new friends and maybe even have a little holiday romance. There’s no excuse not to go on that trip you’ve always dreamt about doing. Which brings us to…
- Be open to possibilities
In other words – start saying yes. Key to meeting new people and finding love is breaking out of your comfort zone and allowing yourself to be open to new opportunities. Much like trying something new – it can feel a little scary at first – but soon you’ll realise that trying new things is fun. It’s time to embrace the possibilities again.
If you’re single and interested in meeting like-minded people, join the Silver Pond over at Plentymorefish.com.
Let’s be honest, a ‘friends with benefits’ deal is super fun, carefree and oh so sexy. All of the sex and none of the snooze. Sign me up!
As fun as FWB situationships are though, they can be just as tricky to navigate if there are no established ground rules. “But”, I hear you say, “what about the no-strings?”
Well my friend, I hate to burst your bubble but there’s not really a no-strings-deal. As with anything in life, love and horny hookups there are do’s and don’ts. Can you tell people you two are shagging or should you keep it to yourself? Can you bring a third person to the party or is it just you two? What if one of you wants to get more serious and start having a relationship i.e. catches feelings?
When lines start to get blurry your once fun and carefree relationship can quickly turn sour and no one wants that. So, don’t play fast and loose with peoples’ feelings and make sure you set some rules and boundaries right from the start to avoid heartbreak, drama and disappointments.
So, here’s what you should address if you want to keep it fun and light:
Be open and honest
Open communication is probably the most important factor in having a successful FWB relationship. Both of you need to be crystal clear about your intentions and expectations and you both need to be on board with them. It’s no use agreeing to something and hoping it will change later down the line or assuming that your friend will know what you meant when you described your relationship as casual. Clearly define what that means.
Is this REALLY for you?
On the subject of being honest…are you being honest with yourself? Have you considered if this is really for you? Can you handle the uncertainty that this type of relationship brings? Are you mature enough to separate sex and feelings? If the answer is no to any of the above, it’s advisable to stay clear and look for someone who wants the same things.
Think unwanted pregnancy. Think STDs. Whatever you do, please always practice safe sex – ALWAYS!!! Insist on condoms – no exceptions. It’s not worth the risk.
Check your expectations
A friends with benefits relationship is quite different from a romantic relationship. Don’t confuse the two and adjust your expectations – it’s boink and go. If you are looking for flowers, presents and deep conversations, you’re on the wrong path my friend.
Avoid doing things couples do
You know this is a temporary arrangement so don’t complicate matters by introducing them to your inner circle like family. Also, stay clear of couple-y behaviour like cuddling after sex, going shopping together and staying for breakfast if you want to keep it casual.
Don’t get jealous
Remember, this is casual and should come without strings so don’t turn into the green-eyed monster when they find someone else to hookup with. It’s not cheating and you’re both allowed to meet other people. If this wasn’t clear you haven’t set or discussed those crucial ground rules.
Above all, a no strings attached relationship is meant to be fun!
If you are ready to start dating open-minded singles check out our naughty singles pond.
Thanks to Covid we’ve all had to adjust our lives and behaviours and meeting new people is no exception. Video dates have now become the norm and many singles now face the added worry of not coming across as well as they would in person.
One survey showed that 59 percent of adults are more self-conscious on camera than in real life.
It’s easy to see why! Most of the time you only see a person’s face during the video call so many of the non-verbal cues that tell if someone’s attracted to you are hidden for example mirroring the other person’s posture. But not only that, since you can see yourself in the video you may be tempted to look at yourself rather than your date.
Luckily, there are some tips that will help you feel more comfortable during video dates.
- Do a trial run or two
Did you hear the story of a boss who turned herself into a speaking potato during a Zoom call? To avoid mishaps like this one practice and try any new tech / app before your video date so you have familiarised yourself with it. This will help you feel more in control and you make sure you have point 2 & 3 covered. Bonus tip: If you live in a noisy household or area it’s best to use your headphones during the call to reduce any of the background noise.
- Check your appearance
Whilst many will tell you video dating is way more relaxed please don’t rock up in your jammies – first impressions still matter! Find a comfy place to sit or stand for a long period of time and charge any devices or have the chargers ready in case your battery gets low. Have a cuppa or glass of water ready, too.
- Position your camera
While you check yourself out during a test run (How you doin’?) pay attention to the positioning of your camera. Check lighting, facing a window is great, and scan what’s visible in the background. Remove any items (hey there dildo!) you’d want to keep private and make sure your camera is positioned at eye level. Most of us look down at our phones and no one looks good from that angle. Likewise, don’t lie down…unless it’s a booty call then get that sex toy back out. 😉
- Get in the right mindset
One way to calm pre-date jitters it through visualisation. Imagine really clicking with the other person, really feel those feelings of attraction, picture yourself having an amazing time. This might sound woo-woo but visualisation has been proven to trick your mind – it simply cannot tell if what you’re imagining is real or not. So instead of thinking doom and gloom – think happy thoughts! It will come across during your video.
- And, breathe….
Another way to tackle nervousness is breathing. Paying attention to your breathing before a call can really help you relax and is the quickest way to reduce any anxiety. Try this exercise: Look at the palm of your left hand (if you are right-handed) and place the index finger of your right hand at the bottom of your thumb where it meets your wrist. Now breathe in slowly and trace your finger up to the tip of your thumb and down the other side on the exhale. Then up your left index finger and down again. Travel along all your fingers breathing in and out slowly and when you’ve reached the outside of your hand, go in reverse. Repeat this as long as you need to feel calm.
And there you have it. Now all you need is a lovely single person to video chat with so hop on over to Plentymorefish.com now!
PS: If video dates make you really uncomfortable it’s ok to say no and just have a regular phone conversation until you do.
In recent years kink and BDSM have gained mainstream popularity and are no longer viewed as activities for the perverted few. And for good reasons. The world of Kink/BDSM (Bondage, Discipline/Domination, Sadism, Masochism) is as vast as there are forms of human sexual desires so there is something for everyone looking to get their rocks off. When practiced safely, BDSM can be hugely liberating, empowering and OH-SO-GOOD.
But whilst getting kinky is certainly fun, it can also do some real harm. Before you get all kinds of fifty shades, it is important to discuss any fantasies and activities before you try them, always get explicit consent from your partner and always set clear rules.
Ok, now that we got that important titbit out of the way, let’s add some zesty zing to that vanilla sex life of yours. Here are some safe kinks for you to try before expanding your ‘sexpertoire’ to more advanced levels.
Definitely high on the list of fantasies for many, light spanking is a great way to get going with kink play. Start slowly using your hands and work your way up in intensity and choice of spanking tool (paddle, belt, whip). Don’t restrict your spanking to the buttock either, loads of people like to have their private parts spanked.
Pain and pleasure centres are closely connected and pulling a woman’s hair activates the nerve endings at the back of her neck, increasing the sensation she feels, especially during arousal. Combine this with naughty whispers and she’ll be writhing with pleasure.
Speaking of naughty whispers… discussing which words are ok (and not ok) to use during sex which includes name calling are all part of the consent parcel that should be agreed on before jumping in. Also consider which safe words you’ll use to let your partner know when it’s ok to keep going (green), when to slow down (yellow) and when to stop (red).
If being tied up gets you going, start with a tie or a scarf at first. These are soft materials and are less likely to hurt or leave marks before you graduate to more serious kit like ropes and cuffs. Always make sure that blood circulation isn’t cut off (two fingers space between scarf and skin). Adding a blindfold to your play is going to bring focus to your other senses and the lack of control.
Another form of bondage is restraining. Tying your partner to the bed while having your wicked way with them is a real turn on for many. If you are thinking of adding restraints to your routine, there are great options available online that are safe to use and great for beginners (check for quick release features).
Through biting (and clamps) you get to explore the world of arousal through pain. Much like hair pulling, biting is an amazingly simple, yet effective, stimulus. Use your safe words to control the intensity and try all the different body parts. Some people really like to have their nipples bitten, whilst others prefer their neck area.
When you first start exploring a sub/dom dynamic define what each role means to you – there are so many possible interpretations and it’s important to be clear. A great way to apply this is through role play like student and teacher or queen and butler. Another simple tool to create a sub/dom scenario is the use of ‘master’ and ‘mistress’ during kink play time or being tied up whilst giving oral.
As we said before – there is something for everyone and these are obviously only a few ideas to get your kinky appetite going. Hop online for more salacious inspiration and and if you’re still looking for someone to explore your frisky fantasies with, check out our naughty dating pond.
So here you are again, back with the ex. Up and down you go… rehashing the same problems, breaking up time and again, only to get back together shortly after.
If your relationship feels more like the rinse and repeat cycle of your washing machine rather than the healthy, grownup partnership it should be, it’s time to break that rollercoaster cycle once and for all.
Don’t worry – you’re not alone or weird for having such a complicated relationship. Many people find themselves in an on-again/off-again relationship at some point in their lives. The first step to finding answers is becoming aware that it’s not all that great. Realising the relationship is actually making you pretty miserable is key to seeing the behavioural patterns that are keeping you stuck. If you can’t see the patterns, ask a trusted friend whom you can trust to be honest with you. Identify them and you can start to tackle them.
Many couples who find themselves in this type of yo-yo relationship often fail to realise the reasons why they broke up in the first place. They keep coming back to the same issues and simply don’t communicate effectively to resolve them. Instead they keep repeating the same behaviour and see breaking up as a solution rather than part of the toxic cycle. You may not agree on all points but try working towards a mutually beneficial compromise. Effectively communicating your needs as well as listening to your partner are key elements of a healthy, mature relationship.
Another reason why some relationships are stuck on repeat is because they are lacking a sense of closure. For it to be really over, you need a clean break. At least for a while to get the emotional distance to break the cycle and to redefine yourself outside of that relationship. Keeping in contact with your ex is in many cases the real reason why you can’t call it quits.
Don’t underestimate the power of physical attraction. Some couples have really strong chemistry but in reality, are totally incompatible on every other level triggering them to keep coming back for more. This type of relationship can be really addictive and difficult to break because it feels so good when it’s on. Next time this happens – ask a friend to remind you of the many times they had to pick you off the floor after the breakup and ask yourself if it’s worth repeating?
They break up with you.
Their new relationship doesn’t work out.
They’re back with you.
If an ex keeps you as a safety net in between other relationships, it’s often because they are afraid of being alone or simply because it’s convenient. Either way, you are not important enough to them to truly care about how this affects you. Release yourself from this nightmare and send them packing.
Thanks to Hollywood many of us have a warped expectation of romance and relationships. He kisses you in the rain and they lived happily ever after. In reality though, mature relationships take work and commitment – from both parties. If they always fall short on promises or fail to change hurtful behaviour, it’s time to get real. Why would they change this time when they didn’t the previous 25 times? Ask yourself if you truly believe that will change. If there’s any doubt, perhaps it’s time to put an end to this misery.
There are tons of people who want the same so get out there! Everyone deserves to be happy and feel loved.
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The internet is a funny beast – every day there’s a hashtag trend. When it comes to dating there seems to be a never-ending supply of new terms to describe someone’s behaviour or situation. So if you can’t tell your IRL’s from your DTR’s – fear not. We’ve compiled 15 online dating terms you may need to help you navigate dating life in cyberspace.
Remember back in school when you were last to be picked at rounders? This is similar – only you won’t know if someone is benching you. Benching is when you keep contacting a match just enough to keep them engaged whilst having other options open at the same time.
Much like the little mouse that’s led along a breadcrumb trail – if you are receiving messages from someone but it never seems to go anywhere, it’s likely the other person is breadcrumbing you.
Catfishing happens when someone pretends to be someone looking for love but is in actual fact a scammer trying to get you to send them money. They will befriend you, promise you the world and once you trust them, they will ask for funds usually to escape some hardship or for an emergency playing on your empathy.
Catch & Release
Originating from the angling and fishing world, catch and release in dating terms basically means a one-night stand that you have no intentions of following up on.
‘Cuffing Season’ describes a metaphorical handcuffing to someone for the more depressing winter months just so you don’t have to be alone during that time.
Are we a couple or is it just casual? DTR stands for ‘Defining the Relationship’ and marks the time for both parties (willingly or not) to define the relationship status and get clarity on where you are heading.
‘Fielding Season’ happens before cuffing season when it’s time to evaluate your cuffing contenders for the dark winter months ahead.
Pretty much anyone who has ever been dating has experienced this phenomenon. You are seeing this person; everything seems to be going well, when all of a sudden, they go ‘poof’ and vanish. Usually without any explanation, often leaving a ghosted person reeling since they’ve not been given any closure.
Like ghosting, being haunted (otherwise referred to as orbiting or zombie-ing) means your ghost of a date suddenly materialises back into your life – usually by haunting your social posts, letting you know they are still there, still watching. Time to call the Ghostbusters!
An incel (involuntarily celibate) is someone who would like to have sex but for some reason isn’t getting any. Unlike a volcel, meaning voluntarily celibate being someone who chooses to abstain from having sex.
IRL meaning ‘In real life’ refers to the act of meeting your date in person.
Kittenfishing or ‘Catfishing – The Trial Version’ refers to a form of deception without criminal intent. A person who is kittenfishing uses white lies to portray an improved but inaccurate version of themselves in an effort to be more appealing to potential matches. Examples include using photoshopped profile images or fibbing about the things they enjoy doing, their job etc.
If you have ever met up with someone for the first time and then received tons of messages proclaiming their affection or love for you, you’ve been love bombed. This tactic is used as a means to an end (sex, money etc) and once the individual got what they wanted, tend to move on from you quite quickly. Sometimes those types of individuals can turn unpleasant or abusive if rejected.
Formerly known as a ‘player’, a roach is a person who is dating several people at once without being upfront about it. When confronted they often claim they never agreed to or didn’t realise you were being exclusive.
Remember haunting? This is similar but more manipulative. It refers to someone who ghosted you only 3 months ago and is now back in your life pretending like it never happened. Do yourself a favour and let that sub run aground.
Now that you are an expert at dating lingo go forth and find love. Preferably over on Plentymorefish.com of course. 😉