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What to do when the sex just isn’t that great.

Picture this, you’ve got yourself a hot date, you’re about to take it to the next level and you’re readying for a mind-blowing experience because there is most definitely a connection between you both. Only for you to get into the bedroom and be a tad disappointed that it hasn’t quite lived up to your expectations. But it’s not all doom and gloom. We’ve put together a few tips and tricks you could use to encourage a more positive experience in the bedroom.

Don’t fake it

You need to ask yourself why you’re faking it in the first place. Are you trying to get it over with so you can get out of there fast? Or are you trying to pet your date’s ego a little? The simple tip for faking it is don’t. It’s an opportunity to let your date know what turns you on in the bedroom, which is particularly important if it’s the first time you’re both taking it to the next level. If you’re not sure what you like, then you should take the time out to find out. Spend a little bit more time getting to know your body.

Give them feedback

Communication in the bedroom is key. You don’t have to give them an instruction manual, but the small comments like “to the left” or “a little lower” can massively help. Again, this is a part of getting to know your sexual partner and being expressive about what you like/dislike. If you don’t feel quite confident enough to say anything yet, then you can adjust their body yourself. Remember to phrase any comments kindly and keep it sexy by whispering it in their ear.

Try new things

It can be daunting trying new things with a new sexual partner, but it could be a great way of testing the chemistry and finding out a little more about your date’s fantasies and turn-on’s. The more open you are as a pair the more rewarding the experience will be. You don’t have to go crazy, but simply trying a new position out or introducing your sex toy could change things up in the bedroom. It might be a good idea to even mention something you’ve been intrigued to try, which could be a great way of gauging your partner’s interests and what they feel comfortable doing.

Talk about it afterwards

Instead of making a beeline for the door, stay and chat about the experience. It doesn’t need to be a serious “we need to talk” chat but more of a relaxed conversation, starting on a positive note about something they did. You may feel awkward at first, but it will certainly help if you want to give it another go or even in building your confidence to express your opinions in the bedroom. You want to suggest rather than critique, that way they’ll be more open to change and adjusting their techniques.

Bad sex doesn’t always mean zero sexual compatibility. Sometimes, a little guidance and communication can be all you need to turn it around.

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Sex Toys for Beginners – Where to start.

If you’re curious about sex toys and how they increase your satisfaction in the bedroom, then read on we’re about to introduce you to some of the best sex toys for beginners and how to take your experience to new heights. It may be that you (and your partner) have reached a stale point in your sex life, or maybe you’re just curious in how you can intensify your experience.

Buying your first sex toy can be daunting, there are such a wide variety of toys out there and for a beginner knowing where to start can be a challenge. The most important thing to consider when buying your sex toy is that you want to feel comfortable when using it, so don’t add it to your basket if it looks intimidating to use. It’s recommended by sex therapist Ian Kerner, to look for a sex toy which provides clitoral stimulation, as it’s easier for most women to reach an orgasm this way.

So, let’s talk about the different types of sex toys that are out there. We’ll start with what they call a magic wand style vibrator. It’s a classic style with a wide variety of versions of it on the web. This is a great toy to use if you’re wanting to explore different speeds and areas to use it on. It’s also a great way to get your partner involved in the bedroom, maybe you want to try something different. Well, this allows you to spark a conversation on what feels good and what doesn’t hit the (G)spot.

Rabbit style is the next one up. This sex toy is great if you’re feeling a little greedy and you want the best of both worlds both clitoral stimulation and penetration. It is designed to give more intense sensations than a solo dildo or vibrator. Like anything, it’s probably best to spend a little bit more to get the better-quality sex toys.

Vibrating Eggs otherwise known as Bullets are fun pocket-sized vibrators and are easy to hide if you’re wanting to be discreet about your sex toys. Alternatively, they’re great to travel with as you can hide them sneakily in your case without worrying someone will pull a pair of shorts out your bag and your toys come with it. They’re a great toy to use if you want to learn more about precise stimulation and knowing exactly where you get the most enjoyment.

To finish, we’ll end with a basic. The Dildo. Most people will have already heard and have a perception of a dildo, so it won’t take a lot of explanation. But this sex toy is great for those of you who enjoy penetration more than clitoral stimulation. They’re slightly curved purposely to stimulate the G-spot and they can be made from lots of different materials like silicone, rubber, plastic etc. so you can figure out which you feel most comfortable using.

There are lots of other different sex toys out there, far too many to sit here and list but those are the basics for anyone who is curious in increasing their toy collection. Remember that this is a great way to explore more of what is pleasurable for you, so only do what makes you feel comfortable.

You can gain a newfound self-confidence by finding out more about yourself, so get out there and give it a go if you’re intrigued. You could even head over to our Naughty Pond, where you’ll find fellow singles to join the fun.

How to Nail Talking Dirty

Talking dirty seems to be an aspect of sex we either shy away from or delve into. We get too worried about saying the wrong thing or embarrassing ourselves that sometimes talking dirty can become unnatural and awkward, when really it is simple. If you find it difficult to talk dirty or you just want to feel more confident doing so, then we’ve got a few tips for you to use that will soon make you a pro.

Set the scene

It may sound cliché but setting the scene can help dirty talk flow easier. It requires mental preparation; you want to think about what you want to say. Particularly if you’re looking at divulging into your fantasies, you need to think about how you’re going to bring it up, so it doesn’t become too forward or brash. The confidence you will exude by communicating with your partner will make you look sexier.

Not only can you prepare mentally, but you can also set the room. Maybe light a few candles or simply turn down the light a little. It’s been said that creating ambience in the room can make you and your love more open to experimenting.

Start with a question

Most people get stuck about what to say when talking dirty, there’s this perception that it has to sound like an erotic novel or trash talk, otherwise you’re not doing it right. But that’s not the case. You can simply start by asking a question about what you’re doing to your partner. “Do you like the way I’m…”. Then ask another question which could allow a more erotic response, more open ended. “What else would you…”. By asking your lover what they enjoy doing and/or receiving during sex can be very empowering for both of you.

Tell them what you’re going to do

If you don’t feel like asking questions, then take the reigns and tell your partner what you’re going to do to them. You could then ask a question after to see what else they would like you to do. This one is a win-win because both sides get to see what their lover really likes and gets turned on by. You may find that your lover may get turned on by dominance, you telling them what you’re going to do to them

Talk about what you see

Visual stimuli during sex is a major turn on for some. You can make comments about how great your partner’s body looks or how good it feels when they touch you. By focussing the attention on the physical actions that are happening and the body, your partner also gets an idea of what you like. Seeing you enjoy their actions, could turn them on further.

Talk about what you want

The key with asking for what you want is not coming across as though you’re complaining or being whiny. You should remain calm, cool and sexy, not demanding. If it’s done right, your partner will love the extra help in satisfying your needs. Asking for what you like can come across as a confident move and therefore making you sexier in the bedroom.

Talk Lightly

Talking softly into your partner’s ear can get them excited, after all whispering is sultry and sexy. A simple phrase like “I want you” or “I need you” can turn on your partner, leaving them wanting you to say more. Knowing that someone else wants you is a sexually gratifying statement, which can help with confidence in the bedroom.

Read Erotica

Although we did mention that talking dirty doesn’t have to be like an Erotica novel, it certainly helps to read them. If you’re really looking at stepping up your game, it might be a good idea to delve into the world of erotica. The whole point of dirty talk is to use phrases that turn you on, by reading erotica you’re wanting to find that phrases that do that exact thing to you. Maybe there’s a sentence that makes you flutter or maybe just how they describe an action. But pay attention to how your body reacts to the erotica and see how you could work it into the bedroom.

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What does your favourite sex position say about you?

A gorgeous blonde model dressed as a cowgirl enjoying the outdoo

The positions we choose to have in the bedroom can be telling of the type of people we are and which go a lot deeper than just simple attributes like you are ‘adventurous’ or ‘predictable’. They can signify how we see our sexual selves and how we must satisfy our own needs. We’ve compiled a list of the most common sex positions to see what they say about you.

Missionary

It’s a classic position, known for its simplicity. It can be a sign that you enjoy communication as it’s a close face-to-face position, but it can also signal predictability and a lack of spontaneity. For ladies, it can be a signal that they are looking for intimacy. Those who are insecure about their weight or looks may opt for this position, as most of their body is hidden away. If you find he is persistent on going at it in this position, it could mean that your sexual needs are not a priority for him, as he’s running the show.

Doggy

Doggy is a position of deep pleasure; out of all the positions it is most likely to stimulate a woman’s G-spot. However, it is impersonal and acts on animalistic instincts of men craving to be the dominant. It is a position driven by lust, not love. If you find yourself choosing doggy often, then it can be a sign of your lack of desire for intimacy. It’s a position rarely chosen by those who are insecure, as nothing is hidden from your lover’s eyes.

If you’re looking to delve into your fantasies in the bedroom then doggy can allow for that, as there is little eye contact meaning you can fantasise about who and what you please. It’s also a great position for hook-ups, as you can avoid the intimate parts of sex – like eye contact or cuddling – but that may not tick the boxes for you.

Cowgirl

The woman on top can signify a confident dynamic between two people. It shows that the woman is strong-minded and isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants. It is typically only done by women who are self-assured in their body image and exude sexual confidence. For a man, it could mean two things. One, they are confident in being submissive and likely wish to just please their lover. Or two, they are hyper-visual.

Spooning

We’ve all been there – it’s morning time, you’re feeling aroused, you don’t particularly want to move, and you’ve got breath that could knock out a skunk. So, what’s the best position you may ask? Spooning. It’s ideal, you’re not facing each other, it’s minimal movement in comparison to other positions and yet it’s still enjoyable. It’s a go-to for all the men with a soft spot who desire a bit of intimacy.

Spooning is great for slow sex and it has lots of body contact. However, it lacks the intensity that positions like Doggy and Missionary can provide, so it typically occurs when the passion between two people is scarce. It’s a go-to position for someone who wouldn’t refuse sex but would also not be upset if it didn’t happen.

Standing

Sex standing up offers flexibility – technically not always physical – but in terms of location and position. The beauty of it is that you can incorporate different positions into your sexy time whilst standing up. Can’t decide between Doggy or Standing? That’s alright, put them both together and bend them over a table, surely that’s a win-win. Standing sex gives off a sense of adventure and it shows you’re often turned on by the idea of being naughty. It also shows that you’re one to seize the moment and you can be unpredictable.

Reverse Cowgirl

Reverse Cowgirl is popular amongst the women as it is a position of pleasure. It shows that the personal needs of a woman trumps all, as she wants to get off but has a desire to turn on her partner. As a result she’s both physically and mentally stimulated. Again, the woman has the most control and appears to be the dominant one, who shows sexual confidence in her assertiveness. It’s a bare-all position so it is appealing towards the men who are driven by lust and visually get turned on.

Who knew sex positions could be so telling of someone’s personality and their desires? Do you want to find other confident, sexy singles to get adventurous with? If so, head over to the Naughty Pond and start your journey there.

Myths About Submission

Submission can easily be misconstrued with their representation of it through movies and books, but we’ve busted some myths to help you get a better understanding of what being a Submissive really means.

Submissives = Masochists 

Masochism is the act of receiving sexual gratification from pain. It is a misconception to associate submission with a desire for pain. In fact, the whole idea of submission is to gain pleasure from the act of submitting to your partner. Doms can also be masochists and demand their Subs to inflict pain, there are a whole world of combinations when it comes to Dom/Sub relations. But the main thing to take away is that pain and pleasure do not have to go hand in hand in order for you to be submissive.

They have No Responsibility

Responsibility in a Dominant/Submissive relationship is easily misunderstood. It can be seen that the responsibility is passed to the Dominant lover and that the Sub is longing to be looked after. Certain basic responsibilities which are important for both parties in the bedroom go unnoticed by outsiders. Every individual who partakes in submissive acts has a responsibility for their own actions and words. In relation to your dominant lover, these words and actions are important, they involve being open and honest about expressing your desires and how you handle them. Yes, the dominant may hold the most responsibility in terms of dealing directly with the control of their partner, they have to know their Subs better than anyone else. But the Sub is responsible for communicating their boundaries within the relationship. 

They shouldn’t have their own opinions 

If Subs want to be controlled, they shouldn’t be allowed to have opinions of their own, Right? Wrong. How are submissive partners supposed to have fun in the bedroom if they can’t share their opinions about what they enjoy? If they are supposed to be comfortable in the bedroom, then they need to be able to express what they like and what they don’t enjoy so much. Being submissive is all about being adaptable, so someone who is opinionated and strong-willed in their everyday life could well be a submissive behind closed doors. 

They are Weak Individuals

We touched on this a little bit in our “A Beginners Guide to BDSM” post. Being submissive in the bedroom does not reveal their personality to be the same outside of it. In fact, the most dominant individuals can in fact cave in for the desire to be submissive. To allow someone to take control of the situation takes a lot more courage than people think. Think back to a time in your sex life where you felt shy or vulnerable lying there naked in front of someone else. Now, imagine doing that but allowing them to be the dominant partner, dishing out the commands and taking control. It takes more strength than you would believe, to feel comfortable and confident enough in your own skin and in the situation.

Submission is always Sexual 

Depending on the type of relationship you have with a Dom, depends on the different acts you may perform for them. But it is important to highlight that not all Dom/Sub relationships are sexual. There can be acts where, as a Sub, you don’t experience sexual pleasure and it may not turn you on, but it is still a submissive act and you do it because you want to please your Dom. Service submission is an act that is overlooked when looking at submission, this could be anything from organising their day-to-day business to being a domestic servant for them.

Remember that submission is all about adventure and pleasure, the more comfortable you are the more fulfilment you will feel in the bedroom. Establish your boundaries and affirm them with your lover. But most of all, just have fun. Don’t put pressure on yourself to match the ‘ideal’ of Dom/Sub.

So what are you waiting for? If submission intrigues you head over to the Naughty Pond, where we have adventurous horny singles ready to join you between the sheets. 

Beginner’s Guide to BDSM

The first association people make with BDSM is Fifty Shades of Grey. The truth is Mr Grey is considered rather cringeworthy within the BDSM community. It is in fact completely different to how people perceive the kink. To give people a better idea of what it is, we’ve decided to do some research for you and debunk some myths surrounding BDSM.

The term ‘BDSM’ is short for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission. A big thing to address, is that it doesn’t have to involve sex at all, neither does it have to involve whips and chains, like movies and porn make it out to be. The important thing to remember is that ensuring that both you and your lover are comfortable at all times during BDSM, for this reason we recommend avoiding taking part in this after you’ve consumed alcohol or drugs.

Communication is a key part of BDSM, talking to each other about what you both would like to try helps to create a comfortable, fun environment. Putting safe words in place can help with this. Stay away from a simple yes/no, as you may be in roles where you have to use these words during intimacy. The BDSM community use two acronyms about safety; SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) and RACK (Risk, Aware, Consensual, Kink.) Don’t rush the moment, have fun with it and enjoy it by taking your time. It not only reassures your lover, but it also is a way to tease them to an even greater excitement. You have to remember if you want to divulge into BDSM, you are looking to have fun with your sexual desires, so it’s best to be relaxed around your partner and always be respectful.

Another thing to consider is starting off small and simple, you don’t need to buy a whole sex shop of toys to experiment with. Try starting off with sensory deprivation, you can purchase some restraints (Leather or Neoprene are the comfiest) or a blindfold. Trying each component on its own will give you a better idea of what your sexual preferences are, too much too soon can be rather overwhelming.

Bondage and Discipline

The first part of BDSM focuses on using toys as a way to control your lover. Discipline relates to both the physical and mental aspects of intimacy, these could be spanking with a hand, or denying/prolonging an orgasm (otherwise known as edging). By controlling it, it can give your partner a more intense, toe curling orgasm. Blindfolds also count as bondage and if you’re using restraints as a beginner, lightweight cuffs are the best choice.

If you’re using whips it is important to practice flogging before trying it on your lover. The key is to aim for the butt/back of the thighs as they have the most flesh on the body. It should be pointed out that whilst flogging, you should avoid organs or vulnerable flesh. When practicing flogging with longer whips it’s a good idea to try it on a pillow first so that you can practice your aim.

Dominance and Submission

This part of BDSM doesn’t have to necessarily involve Bondage and Discipline. It typically involves mental restraint and power games which can be arousing for yourself or your partner.

A dominant sexual partner will be typically known as a ‘top’, they are the ones who control the submissive by using power. They dish out any physical sexual acts like spanking, bondage, clamping or whipping. Although they are typically known as tops, they could also be the bottom in some cases, by demanding the top to perform certain acts.

A submissive sexual partner has to be in a position of trust and learning. They essentially give the power to their mind and body away to their partner, allowing them to take control. As a submissive you should always expect a level of balance in terms of your sexual boundaries and you should not be expected to exceed them. A submissive lover may not always appear as a quiet individual outside of the bedroom, it is common for confident and socially dominant individuals to act on their submissive fantasies in the bedroom.

The main thing to remember is to communicate clear boundaries so you can both have safe fun.

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Love bites: Delicious dishes for a sexy night in

Who doesn’t like scrumptious food to set the scene for a steamy sex sesh afterwards?

Aphrodisiacs have been used for hundreds of years as part of the seduction due to their stimulating effects on the body and food is a great way to captivate the senses leaving you and your date hungry for the carnal dessert.

To help you out, we’ve compiled a list of dishes we think will hit the spot and have you fuelled up and ready for your next love-a-thon. Bon Appétit!

APERITIF

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To set the mood you’ll have to start with something boozy – naturally. As we all know alcohol can make you feel more relaxed and lower your inhibitions. So mix up this Pink Pussy Cocktail which is sure to spread all sorts of warm feelings down in your nether regions.

STARTER

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Legend has it that eating a fresh fig while naked in front of a woman is one of the world’s most erotic acts. As the story goes, when a fig is split and held in your palm, the pink flesh is said to resemble a woman’s honeypot, making these honey-roasted figs with limoncello crème fraîche a super sexy way to start a meal.

MAIN COURSE

According to studies, steak could boost female arousal as it increases levels dopamine and norepinephrine. Steaks are also packed full of zinc, making them a potential aphrodisiac for men as well which is why we picked this Steak & sticky red wine shallots recipe for our main course.

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If you or your lover are veggie/vegan you can’t go wrong with this Vegan Mushroom and Asparagus Risotto. Mushrooms are bursting with minerals such as zinc, potassium, magnesium, copper to name but a few. Zinc is crucial to blood flow and without that you’ll have trouble climaxing. If this isn’t a great incentive to eat your veggies, we don’t know what is.

DESSERT

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No meal would be complete without a dessert and this scrumptious plate of Rose Syllabub Sugared Strawberries is going to create your culinary climax. The Romans revered these little heart shaped fruits as a symbol of Venus, the Goddess of love, sex and beauty. And in the French countryside, there was once a tradition of serving newlyweds cold strawberry soup to help promote the aphrodisiac of honeymoon romance. Oh là là!

Now all that’s left is to get cracking in the kitchen while only wearing an apron… yum yum.

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Lost your lust? Here are 5 ways to reigniting your desires

Does the idea of a naughty roll in the hay leave you feeling a bit ‘meh’ these days? Maybe you are having a bit of a dry spell or you haven’t been feeling like the hungry sex kitten that you are. If that’s the case, it’s time to take action! Here are 5 ways to get yourself out of that funk and back on top (or under) of your next conquest.

Getting your sexy back takes a little effort but it will be ‘oh yes’ so worth it. Reconnect with your body, fantasies and desires. Here are our top 5 tips to get you all hot and bothered again.

Slip into something sexy
Been living in your yoga pants lately? We get it, comfort is life, but we’re here to get your libido purring again so it’s time to slip into something with a bit more ‘MEOW’. Whilst you don’t have to don the fishnets and heels every night, update your wardrobe with a few items that make you feel sexy for when you’re just relaxing. Perhaps something silky or a cute babydoll assemble to make you feel all naughty and girly.

Practice daydreaming
The mind is your biggest sex organ so put it to good use. Try thinking about the last time you had really great sex or fantasise about new and exciting scenarios. Really visualise the erotic encounter in your head and you’re guaranteed to whet your appetite for more. Think about what makes you feel sexy and discover yourself during pleasure play.

Watch a sensual movie
We’re visual beings so why not feast your eyes on something or someone sexy? Watch a movie with your favourite thirst trap or grab an erotic novel and delve into a sensual fantasy world of lust and desire. Feast your eyes, take it all in and feel that carnal desire reawaken inside of you.

Touch your skin
Take a shower and luxuriate in a bit of pampering, take the time to massage your skin with a sweet-smelling lotion, give yourself a neck rub to relax. Caress your skin for a few minutes each day using a soft brush, rounding your curves, making your skin tingle with anticipation of what’s to come.

Set the scene
Kids toys, dirty dishes and a pile of laundry are total passion killers. Book a babysitter or ask the grandparents to take the kids out for the day. Next create a sexy sanctuary for you and your hot lover. Have an adult-only zone full of things that serve to ignite your passion. We’re thinking silk ties and candle wax. Then it’s time to dive into your love nest and have some grown up time.

There are many ways to make you feel sexy and rediscover your joy for sex. Hopefully, these tips will help to make you feel excited about living out your lusty thoughts! Time to get down and dirty again.

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Tips for finding the best naughty dating site for you

These days you are spoilt for choice when it comes to adult dating sites. A quick online search will reveal the options catering for all kinds of naughty singles. Not everyone is after the same thing though and when it comes to adult dating most of us want to get straight to business – pun intended. But how do you pick one that is right for you? Here are some tips:

Ask around

One way to find one that might be for you is to get references. If you have friends that have used online adult dating sites, ask them about their experience. Find out what they liked about the site and what not. Decide based on their answers whether that site is for you but the only way you’ll know for sure is to give it a go for yourself.

Check out a few

The great thing with dating sites, and adult sites are no exception, is that you can try out several all at once and see which one you like best. Many are free to register, and most let you unlock additional paid-for features on a month by month basis.

Get stuck in

As the saying goes “you get out what you put in”, the same can be said for dating so get online and get involved. Spend a fair bit of time sprucing up your profile and make sure you add recent images. Start connecting rather than waiting to be approached. Just like regular dating, nobody is going to come knocking on your door unless they know that you are home and open to meeting new people. That is definitely the fun part, so jump in and find out who your horny neighbours are.

Test it out

Once you’ve started chatting you can discover if your matches are interested in the same turn-ons, kinks and fantasies. If you’re looking for ‘romance’ and ‘roses’ an adult dating site is probably not right for you.

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Friends with Benefits – The Do’s and Don’ts for No-Strings Attached Relationships

Let’s be honest, a ‘friends with benefits’ deal is super fun, carefree and oh so sexy. All of the sex and none of the snooze. Sign me up!

As fun as FWB situationships are though, they can be just as tricky to navigate if there are no established ground rules. “But”, I hear you say, “what about the no-strings?”

Well my friend, I hate to burst your bubble but there’s not really a no-strings-deal. As with anything in life, love and horny hookups there are do’s and don’ts. Can you tell people you two are shagging or should you keep it to yourself? Can you bring a third person to the party or is it just you two? What if one of you wants to get more serious and start having a relationship i.e. catches feelings?

When lines start to get blurry your once fun and carefree relationship can quickly turn sour and no one wants that. So, don’t play fast and loose with peoples’ feelings and make sure you set some rules and boundaries right from the start to avoid heartbreak, drama and disappointments.

So, here’s what you should address if you want to keep it fun and light:

Be open and honest

Open communication is probably the most important factor in having a successful FWB relationship. Both of you need to be crystal clear about your intentions and expectations and you both need to be on board with them. It’s no use agreeing to something and hoping it will change later down the line or assuming that your friend will know what you meant when you described your relationship as casual. Clearly define what that means.

Is this REALLY for you?

On the subject of being honest…are you being honest with yourself? Have you considered if this is really for you? Can you handle the uncertainty that this type of relationship brings? Are you mature enough to separate sex and feelings? If the answer is no to any of the above, it’s advisable to stay clear and look for someone who wants the same things.

Protect Yourself

Think unwanted pregnancy. Think STDs. Whatever you do, please always practice safe sex – ALWAYS!!! Insist on condoms – no exceptions. It’s not worth the risk.

Check your expectations

A friends with benefits relationship is quite different from a romantic relationship. Don’t confuse the two and adjust your expectations – it’s boink and go. If you are looking for flowers, presents and deep conversations, you’re on the wrong path my friend.

Avoid doing things couples do

You know this is a temporary arrangement so don’t complicate matters by introducing them to your inner circle like family. Also, stay clear of couple-y behaviour like cuddling after sex, going shopping together and staying for breakfast if you want to keep it casual.

Don’t get jealous

Remember, this is casual and should come without strings so don’t turn into the green-eyed monster when they find someone else to hookup with. It’s not cheating and you’re both allowed to meet other people. If this wasn’t clear you haven’t set or discussed those crucial ground rules.

Above all, a no strings attached relationship is meant to be fun!

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