The internet is a funny beast – every day there’s a hashtag trend. When it comes to dating there seems to be a never-ending supply of new terms to describe someone’s behaviour or situation. So if you can’t tell your IRL’s from your DTR’s – fear not. We’ve compiled 15 online dating terms you may need to help you navigate dating life in cyberspace.
Remember back in school when you were last to be picked at rounders? This is similar – only you won’t know if someone is benching you. Benching is when you keep contacting a match just enough to keep them engaged whilst having other options open at the same time.
Much like the little mouse that’s led along a breadcrumb trail – if you are receiving messages from someone but it never seems to go anywhere, it’s likely the other person is breadcrumbing you.
Catfishing happens when someone pretends to be someone looking for love but is in actual fact a scammer trying to get you to send them money. They will befriend you, promise you the world and once you trust them, they will ask for funds usually to escape some hardship or for an emergency playing on your empathy.
Catch & Release
Originating from the angling and fishing world, catch and release in dating terms basically means a one-night stand that you have no intentions of following up on.
‘Cuffing Season’ describes a metaphorical handcuffing to someone for the more depressing winter months just so you don’t have to be alone during that time.
Are we a couple or is it just casual? DTR stands for ‘Defining the Relationship’ and marks the time for both parties (willingly or not) to define the relationship status and get clarity on where you are heading.
‘Fielding Season’ happens before cuffing season when it’s time to evaluate your cuffing contenders for the dark winter months ahead.
Pretty much anyone who has ever been dating has experienced this phenomenon. You are seeing this person; everything seems to be going well, when all of a sudden, they go ‘poof’ and vanish. Usually without any explanation, often leaving a ghosted person reeling since they’ve not been given any closure.
Like ghosting, being haunted (otherwise referred to as orbiting or zombie-ing) means your ghost of a date suddenly materialises back into your life – usually by haunting your social posts, letting you know they are still there, still watching. Time to call the Ghostbusters!
An incel (involuntarily celibate) is someone who would like to have sex but for some reason isn’t getting any. Unlike a volcel, meaning voluntarily celibate being someone who chooses to abstain from having sex.
IRL meaning ‘In real life’ refers to the act of meeting your date in person.
Kittenfishing or ‘Catfishing – The Trial Version’ refers to a form of deception without criminal intent. A person who is kittenfishing uses white lies to portray an improved but inaccurate version of themselves in an effort to be more appealing to potential matches. Examples include using photoshopped profile images or fibbing about the things they enjoy doing, their job etc.
If you have ever met up with someone for the first time and then received tons of messages proclaiming their affection or love for you, you’ve been love bombed. This tactic is used as a means to an end (sex, money etc) and once the individual got what they wanted, tend to move on from you quite quickly. Sometimes those types of individuals can turn unpleasant or abusive if rejected.
Formerly known as a ‘player’, a roach is a person who is dating several people at once without being upfront about it. When confronted they often claim they never agreed to or didn’t realise you were being exclusive.
Remember haunting? This is similar but more manipulative. It refers to someone who ghosted you only 3 months ago and is now back in your life pretending like it never happened. Do yourself a favour and let that sub run aground.
Now that you are an expert at dating lingo go forth and find love. Preferably over on Plentymorefish.com of course. 😉
Zoom is a video app that has gained massive popularity during the Covid-19 Lockdown. Anyone can get Zoom for free and it’s available to use on your Phone & Tablet plus Desktop & Laptop providing you have a webcam attached which makes it absolutely ideal for a Video Date.
The main benefit of using Zoom for video dating over other video apps is that you don’t have to give out any personal information at all. No emails, no mobile numbers, no Facebook info, nothing. You set up the video date and then invite others to join you.
So how do you use Zoom for video dating?
Firstly you need to sign up for a free account, you can do this via their website https://zoom.us or by downloading the Zoom app for you mobile device from the Apple App Store or Google Play for Android.
Video dating is not for everyone that’s why it’s always advisable to let someone know that you are up for video dating as they may not be. In reality you will already be chatting via Plentymorefish and be ready to ‘Video Meet’ to take the next step.
NB: Do not send video invites as an introduction! Don’t let your very first message be “Hey, join me for a video date” as the recipient will most likely just ignore you.
Once you’ve established that your date is willing to chat on video it’s time to set a time for your video date. Hit ‘Schedule
- Set the topic as something like “Hey, Wendy would you like to join me for a video date?” providing it’s Wendy you’re inviting obviously!
- Select a time and duration. We’d suggest an hour at most
- Set meeting ID to generate automatically
- Set the host & participants video to ‘ON’
- Set Audio to Telephone & Computer Audio
- Set calendar to other calendars
Starting May 9, 2020, all meetings for Free or Basic accounts, including previously scheduled meetings, new meetings, and meetings started or scheduled using Personal Meeting IDs will require a password. If your participants join by clicking a meeting link with a password embedded, there will be no change to their joining experience. For participants who join by manually entering a Meeting ID, they will need to enter a password to access the meeting, including participants who join via telephone.
Don’t worry about advanced options. They will be set to ‘Allow waiting room’ and ‘Allow join before host’ this means that if your date gets there before that’s OK. They will be placed in a virtual waiting room and you will see on your display, as the host, that you then have to click ‘Accept’ to allow them into your video date.
Once your Video Date is scheduled it will appear in your meeting diary in the app as above and by clicking on the three dots you will have the option to copy the invitation and paste that into your chat with the person you want to video date.
After you have pasted the invite into your chat it’s probably best to delete everything in the very business-like invite except the URL and write a much more personalised message.
It will start life like this:
Tom Single is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting.
Topic: Hey, Wendy would you like to join me for a video date?
Time: May 1, 2020 20:00 PM London
Join Zoom Meeting
You could turn it into something like:
Hi it’s Tom, I’ve arranged a Video Date for us via Zoom at 8pm tonight as discussed.
Look forward to video meeting you, click this link to join the meeting:
See you later x
Your prospective date will not have to download and install Zoom to join your meeting; however it makes it so much easier if they do. They can do this in advance and this is an ideal opportunity to offer some assistance if they need it.
Once it’s all arranged you both simply join the meeting at the arranged time.
For more detail on how you can use ZOOM visit their quick start section click here.
See our blog on Tips for Video Dating to learn more.
Lockdown in the UK has been extended for a minimum of three more weeks and the likeliness of getting out to see your hot match before the end of April is looking slimmer by the day. Whether your naughty relationship is on firm ground or you’ve been just keeping things casual before lockdown, being separated from your match can be tough. It can really take its toll on any relationship – casual, romantic, old and new. Here at the Naughty Pond, we’ve put together some helpful tips to help you save your naughty relationship during lockdown!
Use your space
This might sound silly in the middle of a pandemic when all you have is space away from each other, but space is important. If you are all over each other too much you can start to feel suffocated. Space is good, space is healthy and as the old saying goes, absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
This is especially important when considering your own state of mind. If you are feeling a wave of negativity, hopelessness and anger coming towards you like a tsunami, take yourself away, let your hot match know that you need some time and make sure they don’t get washed away in your distress.
No doubt your match will be having similar episodes that will leave them feeling lost, scared and panicked.
Space during this time is key – for your own mind and for your naughty relationship!
Keep things exciting
If, like many of the readers of this blog, you met your match in the Naughty Pond, you will know a thing or two about keeping things exciting. Excitement and anticipation are the foundations of your hot and sexy relationship! But with time and distance hanging between you like an uncrossable canyon, the excitement can wear off.
Why not set each other some exciting tasks that will get the heart pumping and the anticipation back?
Why not send your naughty match a sexy message during the day when you know they’ll be working and trying to concentrate? How about leaving them a suggestive voice note or voice message asking them to call you as soon as possible? You could even send a naughty picture to let them know what they’re missing!
Send each other gifts
Is there anything better, during this awful time, than opening your front door to see a gift on your doorstep? Be it a bunch of flowers, some washing up liquid or a naughty toy to keep you busy, gifts are the only thing getting us through!
So why not send your naughty match something that will make them smile – along with something that will make them moan!
Put together a sex bucket list
Sex is important in any relationship. But for a purely casual, hot relationship sex is a huge part of what makes you tick! So, why not spend some time during lockdown putting together a sex bucket list that is filled with fantasies and naughty ideas on what you’d like to do (and be done to you) when you’re free!
It can include stuff like:
- play dress up
- sex in public
- fun with food
- sex where you know you’ll get caught
- pillow fort in the living room sex
- tying each other up
and so much more…
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Everyone who’s ever been on a date has had a bad one or two. You know those where your date shows up and looks nothing like their profile pic, is rude or makes bad jokes. Sadly, it’s all part of the dating game … how else would you recognise a good date, right? But if your dating life is nothing but a string of bad rom coms it may be time to assess your approach and here are some tips on how to avoid bad dates in future (once we’re all allowed back out again).
Get to know your dates beforehand
This may seem like a no brainer but spending a little more time getting to know your date online and by phone can reveal a lot of useful info about them beyond what they are sharing on their dating profile. Ask open-ended questions that match your interests to see if you are compatible like, “tell me about your last trip. What was your favourite part about it?”. It’s also important to consider whether your date can keep a conversation and whether they return texts or emails in a timely manner or call when they say they will. If you are struggling to connect offline, it’s unlikely you’ll hit it off IRL.
Request more photos
This needs to be approached carefully to avoid offending your date or coming across as a creepy psycho. It’s no good saying “I’m not feeling your profile pics, can you send a recent one?” It’s better to share a few of yourself and inspire them to reciprocate. Maybe start off by sharing a photo or two from your last BBQ with friends or a concert you went to and encourage them to share what fun things they’ve been up to recently and then see what comes back. Just don’t be too pushy, keep it playful like “walking by the river sounds fun. I’d love to see your smile. Feel free to send me a pic.”
Keep in mind that not everyone loves to take selfies or might be a little shy so don’t worry too much if you don’t get much back. If however, something feels off it’s always good to go with your gut.
Pick the right meeting spot
Make sure the place you chose for your first date is somewhere cosy and relaxed and it’s easy to have a conversation without shouting or try an activity like miniature golf which is fun and you can test working as a team. Picking the right venue can make turn awkward date into a fun one.
Ask good questions
You wouldn’t rock up at a job interview unprepared so why do that on a date? Taking some time to consider a few questions can be fun and helps to ease first date nerves – just don’t turn it into the Spanish Inquisition. Keep it natural, ask a follow-up question to keep a conversation flowing, for example, “What was it about XYZ you liked?” or “what was your favourite part?”.
Try to relax
Sometimes things happen – he turns up late or the restaurant you’ve picked is rubbish. The conversation doesn’t flow and you’re quite frankly bored. It’s easy to get hung up on the things that don’t work but try to relax and don’t set your expectations too high. Sometimes it’s easiest to just go with the flow. At worst case, you’ve got to go out and enjoyed a drink with someone new.
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Lockdown doesn’t have to be a complete turn-off, right? Naughty dating is thriving now that people are stuck at home with no hotties to go out and see and the lockdown has brought about some brilliant new dating terms, guides and ideas!
Here is a rundown of the newest naughty dating lockdown slang!
Quarantine & Chill
Remember Netflix & Chill? Well now that we’re stuck in quarantine and locked down, there’s no better way to waste your days watching the Tiger King, vegging out together and hooking up – a lot! If you’re a fairly new couple, make sure you are safe to hop over to each other’s places and stay for the long haul!
Remember back at the start of the Corona outbreak when people went mental and started panic buying and hoarding stuff? What a crazy time. Well in naughty dating, there are singles who are Hamstering. You know how a hamster stuffs everything into their cheeks to save for later? Well, hamstering in naughty dating is when you hoard all of your naughty contacts ready for when you’re set free. Lining up your shags while in lockdown. Genius.
Much like the dreaded post-Summer singledom and Cuffing, the Corona Clinger is someone who is desperate not to be lonely while on lockdown and self-isolating. A Corona Clinger isn’t always a positive thing and the feeling of being constantly attached at the hip, or the phone can be off-putting but Cuffing works for many.
Corona Cabin Fever
So, we’re some way into lockdown now and things are getting desperate. Corona Cabin Fever is where you will settle for any kind of action – be it your housemate, your foreign exchange hotty next door and anything else in between!
We get it, you’re desperate to get it out of your system, no judgement here guys!
We’re all ready for this to be over now right? Well if you’re already planning your life Past Rona, you’re not alone. Many singles looking for a naughty hook up are planning romantic dates, hot hookups and naughty fun!
What Corona slang are you guilty of?
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Many of us now find themselves in a long-distance – or should we say – socially acceptable distance relationship and are worried if their connection is going to last. To be honest, being apart from your significant other can suck, especially if the relationship is new and all you really want is to snuggle up close. So we’ve asked couples who’ve gone the distance, literally and figuratively, to give some tips on how to keep the spark going during lockdown.
Get some virtual Face to Face Time
With all the technological advances we have at our disposal, tech is definitely your best friend when it comes to staying connected. It makes long-distance relationships infinitely easier but many of us are used to using messaging apps and text rather than using video. This is definitely a key element in a long-distance couple’s toolbox. FaceTime each other during cooking or do some exercise together.
Set Clear Boundaries
When video chatting – set clear boundaries. For example, you should not record the conversation or share anything you wouldn’t want your grandmother to see. It’s best to avoid circumstances that may cause your partner to feel awkward or undermined. You don’t have to check in or get consent for each social connection with your partner, however, you both should define clear limits and decide what works for the both of you and then stick to those rules.
Have fun together despite the distance
Don’t let the physical distance stop you from doing things together. Watch a film or have a romantic dinner together via a video app. Talk about the meal you’ve prepared, what you like about the wine etc. Just like a normal date – without the waiter. Or have a fun quiz or karaoke night – you can even patch your other friends in.
In the absence of a goodnight kiss schedule a nightly video call to wish each other sweet dreams just before you turn off the lights and if you’re adventurous spice things up with some sexy time describing what’s happening beneath the sheets.
Understand that physical distance can be a trigger for fear and insecurities which can lead to needy or controlling behaviour that may ultimately cause friction and sometimes the very thing you are dreading. Don’t let these insecurities take over and try not to lean on your lover for all your emotional needs. Speak to family and friends often, practice self-care through exercise or with a hobby.
Create a routine
Sticking to a set schedule will help you both to really focus on the relationship when you’re together. To keep the spark during a physical distance spell, it’s vital you know when you’ll see the other person – much like the future getaway you’ll be planning – as it creates a sense of security and familiarity.
Make plans for the future
Just because we are on lockdown now doesn’t mean you can make plans for the future now. Plan your next romantic getaway or holiday for when things have returned to normal. Make it really detailed and vivid. Talk about the foods you’ll enjoy, what the weather will be like – almost as if you’d been there already. Your brain doesn’t know the difference and it’ll be something to look forward to and keep you bonded.
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As most of the world has gone into lockdown and people are self-isolating, the task of keeping your dating life going requires a bit more creativity as well as technology. Here are some great games to play whilst in isolation.
Go on a double date
Download the Houseparty app – a free group video chat platform, and invite another couple to go on a double date or go big and invite your friends for a virtual party. The app already comes loaded with in-app games so you can dive right in.
Get musical with “Guess the Tune”
In this game, you have to try and guess a song by singing the song using only the word “doo”. This may sound easy but it’s actually pretty challenging and always hilarious. All you need is a list of songs (just search the web) and a timer. Make it interesting by adding a caveat for the loser – like removing an item of clothing.
Get sporty playing basketball
All you both need for this game is a paper basket and rolled-up socks. Move the basket away as far as possible and then shoot some hoops. The person with the highest score in a set amount of time or tries wins. The loser has to complete a predetermined penalty like doing 20 push-ups.
Play “Would you Rather”
This one is a fun way to get to know each other better. Would you rather kiss an actual frog or give a public speech? Swim with sharks or jump out of a plane? Would you rather have dinner with Ironman or Batman? Get creative, the weirder the better!
Have an Omelette Challenge
You may have seen this one done on a cookery show. Go to your kitchen and get out some eggs. The goal of this game – besides eating an omelette afterwards #dinnerdate – is who can cook an edible omelette in the fasted time. Ready. Steady. Cook!
Have a Naughty Truth or Dare
Last but not least, the eternal classic – Truth or Dare. You can keep it clean or make it naughty, the choice is yours. Here are some deliciously sinful questions we found online to get you started.
- What’s the most unusual place you’ve made love?
- What sex act have you done that you’ll never do again?
- What do you like during foreplay?
- What’s the best orgasm you’ve ever had?
- When was the last time you masturbated?
- What is your favourite position?
- How do you feel when touching yourself?
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No matter where you are, Corona Virus is being mentioned. Right now, you can’t turn on the TV or boot up your mobile without seeing a warning or an update on the current situation. But, we are here to put your mind at rest, as well as giving you some ideas on how best to take your mind off the outside world!
Plenty More Silver Fish is an online dating site that was purpose-built to bring together mature singles who are vibrant, fun and want to find new friendships, companionship and even romance. It is a site that works hard to put the fun back into dating for mature singles who are looking for more than a few messages and nothing more.
Our mature dating site offers you the opportunity to search, chat and connect with mature and like-minded singles – many of whom may also be affected by the Corona Virus. The site is easy to use and we’ve taken the stress out of online dating as a silver single so that you can concentrate on finding exactly what you’re looking for!
Plenty More Silver Fish can help not only take your mind off being in self-isolation but also put you in contact with some brilliant silver singles in your local area. You can search for singles in all sorts of ways. You can use our brilliant search features to search for singles by their age, location, appearance and even whether they still work or are retired or whether they are academic so that you can spend your time chatting about literature and the books that you love. If you’d like to chat and connect with someone that has grown up children and even grandchildren – check ✅. Looking to bond with someone who loves nature and gardening, you can do that too!
Our goal at Plenty More Silver Fish is to help you to see how fun and easy online dating can be! We know that you may have heard horror stories in the past and we all know someone who knows someone who had a terrible time with online dating, but that doesn’t have to be you.
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So, you’ve been dating for several months and things are going really well between you. You’ve even had ‘the Talk’, are exclusive and happily floating on cloud 9.
On a night out you and beloved take smoochie selfies and just as you are ready to type the caption and share it on your Insta you stop, asking yourself if it’s okay to make it ‘online official’.
It seems that switching your online status from ‘dating’ to ‘in a relationship’ has people all frazzled and many worry it comes with too many complications and only adds pressure to the relationship.
Some say it’s time “when you both agree it’s ok” whilst others are firmly in the “it’s nobody’s business” camp.
A survey by Jewelers F. Hinds only 32% of people would remove their dating profiles to confirm a relationship.
We think it all depends on the couple. It’s important that you both feel ready to declare it to the World (or not). So talk about it before taking this step.
Even if it doesn’t work out and you’re back to changing your status to ‘single’ – it is really that important to you what other people think?
What do you think? Cast your vote below
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Long gone are the days where people thought being on a dating website was for weirdoes.
Online dating is now a key part in today’s dating culture, and it’s actually one of the most successful and efficient ways to meet someone special. But most people just don’t know how to unlock this opportunity.
So here are our top 5 tips on how to make it easier to find love online.
- Be yourself
It can be so tempting to exaggerate or embellish your traits to help find a date but it’s important that you are honest on your dating profile (and IRL obv). Saying you are 6’1 when you are 5’5 may not seem like a big fib to you but your date might feel like they’ve been deceived. Stay honest and real and the right person will find you.
- Go on dates
It seems like an obvious one but it bears repeating – the more dates you go on the bigger the chances you will click with someone in real life. When looking for a new job you wouldn’t say no to turning up for an interview and expecting to get the job, would you? If you are serious about finding that special someone you’ll have to go out to find him or her. No hiding behind a computer screen!
- Stay optimistic
It can be really disheartening when you’ve been single for a while and feel like you’re the only person on Earth still left without a partner. To take the pressure off, focus on making a new friend rather than meeting the love of your life. This may seem weird at first, but if you’re too focused on ‘The One’ it may blind you to the possibilities out there. Most of the time it’s our own expectations that get in the way of connecting with the people around us. Go easy on yourself and your date!
- Check your dating profile
Coming back to point 1 (being honest) when was the last time you’ve checked in on your own dating profile. Are you honest about yourself? How old are your images? Sprucing up your dating profile can really boost your dating game. Check out our post on DATING PROFILE MISTAKES WOMEN HATE for some dating profile tips (also relevant for the ladies!) If in doubt, ask a straight-talking friend to check over your profile and give you some tips.
- Before you meet in person, have a phone convo
We know in today’s world having an actual phone may seem like your dating in the 90s but trust us when we say this should be the first step before you meet a date in person – no matter how much you liked them online. A phone call will give plenty of time to check if you have chemistry. After all, if you can’t talk over the phone, you are not likely to have much to say to each other in real life.
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