We spent a lot of time online. A.LOT.OF.TIME. So we can confidently say we’ve seen our fair share of men’s dating profiles. Some good, some amazing, and some…well, let’s just say there’s room for improvement. Sorry, lads – we have to call it. It’s always surprising when someone looking for love doesn’t seem to put any effort into creating at least a ‘decent-ish’ dating profile.
So from a female perspective here are the biggest dating profile turn-offs.
We get it – you like your friends. But if your dating profile comprises of mostly group shots you are turning it into a game of “Where’s Wally”. Worse yet, looking at you in group shots with other ladies. What exactly are you telling a potential date? She won’t know if the other woman in the pic is your ex or your sis, and as soon as confusion sets in, she’ll be on to the next profile. Make it easy for her to see whose profile she’s looking at.
Sex doesn’t sell
That’s right, Gentlemen, your abs may be harder than the surface of our office desk but we really don’t want to see them in your dating profile. Whilst we can all appreciate a bit of eye candy, that’s what Instagram is for. Your dating profile isn’t a place to hawk the goods unless you’re after a no-strings-attached-date, in which case check out our Naughty Pond. If you are looking for a relationship, add photos of you in well-fitting clothes that compliment your nice physique. If in doubt, ask yourself if you would show that pic to your Nan.
If I could turn back time
That ‘used by date’ applies to images too, or at least it should. Any images of you that are older than your mobile phone should not make it onto your dating profile. How would you feel if your date shows up to a dinner date having suddenly aged 20 years? It’s not a great way to start off! The same applies to fibbing about your age, height, hobbies, anything really – just be honest, please.
Let’s face it
Your profile pic should not make you look like you ought to be on Crime Watch. We cannot tell you how many photos we’ve seen taken by low light, with a shadowy figure staring down into a webcam. It’s simply creepy af and is not going to get you dates. Instead, go for images taken in natural daylight. Ask a trusted friend and head to the garden or the park and take a few pictures – preferably headshots. So – you know – she can see your actual face!
Gents, if any the above describes your dating profile, we hope you take our well-intentioned advice and put some effort into updating it. We really want you to find that special someone. So start with your dating profile and put your best (virtual) foot forward.
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It’s not always easy to find something to do with your date – especially as the days get shorter. Dinner and a movie are safe and boring. But don’t worry, we got you covered. Why not try one of our favourite dating ideas?
Cream of the crop
One of our favourite dating activities at this time of year is visiting a Harvest Festival. With a huge variety of different festivals happening each week across the country – especially if you are a foodie. Each festival has a different way to celebrate autumn, from gin and pie tasting to craft demonstrations and foraging tours – there’s something for everyone. Check out Country File’s favourite harvest festivals for some inspiration or browse the net for a local listing near you.
Autumn is undoubtedly the best season to get out and take some photographs. You and your date can take some really creative and Insta-worthy shots of each other with minimal effort or equipment. Not only will you have tons of fun but you’ll also create lasting memories. #relationshipgoals
Go Go Glamping
As it gets colder it’s also a great time to cosy up. Whilst booking a hotel is nice, it’s also a tad snooze-worthy. But rather than go full-on Bear Grylls on your lover, consider the unusual options of glamping. Stay in a safari tent or a treehouse for a weekend out of the ordinary but with most of the creature comforts. Certainly beats a boring hotel room, right? To get inspired visit Canopy & Stars.
Après-Ciate the slopes
This is for the sporty couples among you. If you haven’t tried skiing yet, you’re missing out on a whole lot of fun. To get started, book some time on an indoor ski slope (just Google ‘ski slopes near me’). Impress your date with your graceful – or not so graceful – moves. And who knows? You might end up booking a winter ski break for two.
Cook up some magic
Cookery classes are as varied as there are culinary tastes. Whether you are an accomplished hobby chef or barely manage not to burn the toast, you’ll be spoilt for choice. And what’s not to like? You get to work together as a team preparing, cooking – and importantly – eating a meal. I mean, food! Right? Regardless of how the meal turns out, you might just learn a thing or two about cooking – or your date!
If you got it, haunt it!
Strong emotions – such as fear – are known to make someone more attractive, so our next idea is set to bring you close than ever – muhahaha! Check out Haunted Happenings for a hooooge offering of mystery and spookiness. Stay at a Haunted Inn or go on a fully-fledged ghost hunt a la Scooby-Doo. Whatever you decide to go with, this type of date activity is guaranteed to send tingles up your spine. We’ll leave it up to you to find out if that’s a good thing or not.
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Chemistry alone is not an indicator of a successful long-term relationship. Going the distance takes effort (on both parts) and a real dedication to making it work. Once the honeymoon phase is over and routine kicks in we tend to forget that it’s often the smaller and less obvious things that make or break a relationship.
Happy and healthy relationships are built on fundamental behaviours that ensure both partner’s needs are met, leading to a deeper understanding and strengthened the bond.
To quote Salt-N-Pepa, “Let’s talk about sex, baby.” Yes, sex is a form of communication. One form. There are so many other ways couples communicate and every person has different needs. Knowing how your partner needs to be shown love – touch, words, gestures, intimacy – will make all the difference. Don’t fall into the trap thinking that just because you are a touchy-feely person, your partner is the same. He/she may feel loved when they are praised or told they are loved. Happy couples understand this difference and make a real effort to show their partner they are loved in a way they understand.
In a healthy partnership, winning isn’t about having the last word or being right. It’s about each of you feeling happy with the outcome. When your ego becomes more important than your relationship you’re on a path that will only lead to heartache. It all comes back to communication – truly hearing your partner and understanding what they need is just as important as your own needs. The key is to focus what this means for your partnership and less for you as an individual, from there you work towards a mutually happy outcome.
You can’t be in a relationship when you don’t trust your partner. If your partner displays behaviours that make you suspicious even though you aren’t a jealous person, it won’t work. Equally, if you mistrust your current partner because you’ve been hurt in the past and you’re reading into things, your relationship is going to fail. Trust boils down to respect and healthy boundaries. Identify what a trusting partnership looks like to each of you and communicate this to each other.
“Thank you” and “I’m sorry”
Words almost as hard to utter as “I love you”, but words that can bond and heal. Admitting when you are wrong or showing gratitude for your partner are key factors for any relationship but especially a romantic one. No one is always right and no one likes to be taken for granted. Hearing a sincere “I’m sorry for….” shows maturity, vulnerability and a high degree of self-awareness. On the flipside – forgiveness and gratitude are equally as important.
This means different things to different people. Some couples are in an open relationship whereas others prefer a more traditional approach. Make sure these boundaries clear from the start. Set an expectation early on before you get too invested. Honesty and authenticity are integral to building a solid foundation for your partnership.
Follow this advice and you’ll be sure on your way to a mature and lasting relationship.
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Welcome to Plenty More Naughty Fish! An online dating site dedicated to matching like-minded naughty singles who are looking for no strings attached fun and so much more!
Are you a naughty single looking to find someone sexy online? Are you looking to dive into the naughty pond and enjoy everything that it has to offer? There’s always plenty more naughty fish and by joining The Naughty Pond you could be on step closer to finding hookups and fun with naughty singles!
Plenty More Naughty Fish is purpose-built to help you message, flirt and match with dirty-minded singles! Our vast and ever-growing database has lots of sexy singles who want to be put through their paces and matched with someone who is fun in the bedroom! No strings attached fun is within reaching distance – all you have to do is become a member!
To join the Naughty Pond and start dating today, all you have to do is register using our 5 step registration form. Within the form we’ll ask you for details like your email address and your date of birth – we’ll need this information to help match you with the right kind of people and to send you emails with our new and sexy members each week!
Once you are a member of the Naughty Pond you’ll be able to create your own profile. This is a perfect opportunity to show off everything amazing and naughty about yourself! In your profile, you should write things about yourself: what makes you tick? What excited you in the bedroom? What sort of person are you looking to get down and dirty with? What gets you off? Do you have any kinks?
Your profile is a window into the best things about you and members will be able to learn more about you before taking the plunge and introducing yourself so make sure you keep it light, happy and completely honest!
You’ll also be able to add photos to your profile. Add sexy snaps, add saucy snaps and be as naughty as you like – show off everything good about yourself and let people know what you look like!
Once you’re a member in the Naughty Pond you’ll be able to send an introduction message so be honest, be open and be as naughty as you want!
As a member of the Naughty Pond, you’ll be able to use our brilliant and easy to use search features. These can help you search for exactly what you know you like – and avoid what you know just doesn’t do it for you! Search by location for a local fling or for dirty weekends away; search by appearance – looking for a slim Jim or a curvaceous Karen? Search by sexual orientation – a fan of water sport? Can’t get enough of doggy?
You could be just a few clicks away from matching with a naughty like-minded single and taking it to the next level – so what are you waiting for? Hit this link to dive into the naughty pond now!
Let’s call it what it is.
Dating is expensive!
Besides the cost of making yourself look less sasquatchey (pretty sure we’ve financed our beautician’s third salon) and more like the Snapchat Goddess that you are, you have the cost of the date itself – movies, dinners etc., all of which quickly deplete your fun budget. And yes, we always go Dutch!
So before you go and sign up to discount days on various voucher websites check out our date ideas that don’t suck (budget or balls):
Most big cities have places where you can hire a tandem bike and which are really affordable (around £40 for the whole day). It’s also also a right hoot and you get to explore your city (and your date’s bottom) more closely. Remember to take a picnic with you to refuel (*wink *wink) at the next park.
Pop-up Wine Bar
Vinery London is hosting another pop-up wine bar this Saturday. Just rock up and sample some delicious wines and pay what you think the night was worth (and based on how much you’ve guzzled away).
Volunteering together may not be the first thing that pops into your head when you think ‘hot date’ but it can be a really fun and rewarding experience. Head on over to http://www.do-it.org for some ideas and let’s not forget the mayjaaah karma points you score. Who knows, this could be your thing as a couple.
Just have pudding
A girl’s gotta eat, right? So next time you head on to a restaurant, why not ditch the starter and main course and just have one (or four) different desserts to share with your date instead? It will be cheaper and let’s face it, you will have the pudding anyway so you might as well have the brownie, lemon tart and creme brûlée at the same time.
Go to a festival
What’s better than to dance the night away with bae at a festival? Dancing the night away at a free festival of course. Check out this handy guide to find one in your area.
Do you have any other wallet-friendly date ideas you want to share with a fellow dater? Share them in the comments below!
Hey meat lovers, it’s #Nationalvegetarianweek so let’s talk about why it’s ok to date a vegetarian.
Many members of the carnivorous persuasion are often put off by the idea of dating someone who doesn’t’ share our love for all things burger, steak and sausage. I mean, it is delicious, right? Anyhoo, let’s look at why dating a veggie may actually be a good idea:
They won’t bite
Pun intended. Believe it or not most vegetarians aren’t out there to recruit you to their way of life like some crazed cult follower. Oftentimes they worry if being veggie may be a problem for you. Seldom are your carnivorous ways a deal breaker for them. Vegetarianism is a personal choice so you won’t have to worry you may have to gnaw your chicken drumsticks in secret.
Your culinary world will open up
Veggies are foodies too and they don’t like to eat boring stuff, so finding restaurants that offer delicious veggie options that go beyond the cheesy pasta dishes or salads can be an exciting adventure, which is sure to open your world to new and exciting dishes.
You won’t have to share your fave food
If you are like me, you don’t particularly like to share your food. Sorry, it’s nothing personal, but you order yours and I’ll have mine, thank you very much. So, hands off my sticky BBQ ribs!
Lastly, when dating a veggie you may inadvertently start to eat healthier without even trying. More veggies = longer life. What’s not to love?
Are you a vegetarian? What advice would you give Meat Lovers? Sound off in the comments below.
As April draws to a close, I’m often reminded of a courtship tradition that plays out on the night of the 1st May in German. As a native born in the Rhineland region, where this tradition is alive and well, this night played a significant role, especially during my teenage years.
On that night, boys of the region go out, armed with ladders, saws and often slightly inebriated to cut down a young birch tree which they would decorate with colourful paper ribbons and then plant on the roof of their beloved’s home (or a slightly less treacherous place) to declare their undying love.
Historically this tradition was used as an attempt to promote marriages in rural areas; today it’s still a popular way for singles to flirt.
It’s certainly romantic and probably not something you’d associate with the German culture but it also made me wonder how love is expressed in other cultures. So I started to look and here are my favourite 3:
Everyone knows that finding a four-leaf clover is the symbol of good luck. But not many people know what in certain parts of Ireland it is also part of an ancient love ritual. It is still believed that if a woman consumes a four-leaf clover while she’s thinking of her crush, he will eventually be hers.
In China, the Dai people have this courtship tradition where a group of girls sitting together in the evening are approached by a group of men in red blankets. They will then pick a woman they like and serenade her. If she likes him too, she’ll give him a stool to sit on and he’ll return the favour by wrapping her up in the red blanket.
In what is now a worldwide phenomenon, in 2000, couples started to attach love padlocks – often engraved with their initials – to Rome’s Ponte Milvio bridge and then threw the key into the river Tiber as a symbol of their unbreakable and eternal love. Sadly, this ritual caused quite a safety hazard threatening the collapse of the bridge under all the weight. After a lamppost partially collapsed this tradition was stopped and it became illegal. But since the Italians are a romantic folk they created a website where you can attach virtual love padlocks.
Love is universal and it’s lovely to see that so many wonderful expressions of it are still traditionally practiced around the world.
All you need is love, right?