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We’re all familiar with the romantic love story of Romeo and Juliet, but what happens when the modern day Juliet can’t find her perfect match? Well, she signs up to Plenty More Fish and tries out online dating of course. It’s true, just check out our new advert appearing on your television screen for the first time tonight! Can’t wait that long? Oh go on then, we’ll let you have a sneak peak.
We’d love to know what you think of our new Plenty More Fish ad, so please leave your comments in the box below. Enjoy!
Success with Plenty More Silver Fish
Here at the Plenty More Fish towers nothing makes us happier than finding out that our members have had success on our site – afterall, that’s what we’re here for. So when we got this lovely success story from Lynne and Roy we were over the moon.
“We met for the first time in Decemeber and knew straight away that we felt we had met someone special. It was a lovely Christmas present! Since then our relationship is going from strength to strength and we are both so happy in each others company.”
I’m sure you’ll all join us in saying a huge congratulations to Lynne and Roy and wishing them all the best for their future together.
Why not log into your account on Plenty More Fish and see if you can find that special person.
10 Things NOT to Say on a First Date
If you’ve been away from the dating scene for some considerable time, you may have become a little rusty with some of the dating norms a.k.a “dating etiquette.” I think the biggest and best piece of advice I can offer is to be yourself and never ever pretend to be someone your not. This definitely applies to both off line and online dating.
Sometimes, it’s easy to say too much on a first date and TRUST me, I know all too much about verbal diarrhoea… it happens to the best of us 😉 Chatting a lot on a first date is by no means a bad thing – if anything, it’s good – but saying the wrong thing could mean the difference between the first and second date. Steer away from the following topics of conversation and you’ll be one step closer to date number two!
"Oops...I mentioned my ex"
1. Bad mouthing your ex
Refrain from talking about your ex.. any ex. It’s a huge turn off. Your date will want to know about you, not your ex. It’s not attractive, plus it can suggest that you’re not quite over them.
2. Dishing out blame
Not taking responsibility for your mistakes will cause alarm bells to ring straight away. A relationship is built on trust and if your date feels they can’t trust you, well, that’s the second date out of the window!
3. Living with parents
So you’re 30 and still living with your parents without good reason and show no sign of moving out. Dependence on your parents at this age is pretty unattractive to most. It’s not just about the living with your parents though. Relying on your mum for your cooking and cleaning is a huge, huge turn off. Independence is SO much more attractive!
4. Discussing financial problems
It’s neither the time nor the place to be discussing personal matters like this. It’s way too much information for a first date and can leave your date feeling awkward. Get to know your date first. They may be a bit freaked if you start discussing your credit card bills, not to mention – turned off.
5. Your wish to be married with kids ASAP
It doesn’t take a genius to work out that discussing your marriage and family plans on a first date isn’t the best idea. I don’t think I need to explain why..
6. “You’re too smart/ attractive/good for me”
Self confidence is incredibly attractive to the opposite sex. Your date is on a date with you because they like you. There’s absolutely nothing else to question.
7. “Can I take your picture?”
Don’t ask to take a photo on a first date. It comes across as needy, freaky and a little stalker-ish. . Some of you may wonder why I’m even mentioning this..? Well, it did actually happen to someone I know and all I can say is a second date definitely didn’t happen.
8. “Come back to mine?”
Unless you know for sure that your date feels the same – don’t ask. Your date could end up being offended.
9. “I love you”
Argh. These three little words should never be used on the first date for obvious reasons. It’s worrying for your date as you’ll come across as clingy/ psycho. Harsh but true!!!
10. You’re jobless with no intention of getting a job
Laziness is not attractive. Showing no intention of working is to most, extremely unattractive. No one wants to date a ‘bum’ do they?!
6 Tip to Make Dating in 2012 the Best Ever!
“London beats Paris in the 2012 Olympics bid.” It seems like only yesterday doesn’t it? In fact, the announcement was made 7 years ago, in 2005. Gobsmacked? So are we. We welcome 2012 with open arms however, the year that once seemed SO far away has suddenly caught up with us.
Oh how time flies!
Time passes so quickly and at Plenty More Fish, we feel that if you want something, you shouldn’t just sit back and wait for it to happen, you should go out and get it! This includes waiting for that special person to whisk you off your feet – you really need to put the effort in too. It will make your search for that special someone easier and much more successful!
To help you out we have racked our dating brains and come up with 6 great ways to help you make a fresh start and get the most out of dating in 2012.
1. Change your attitude
Ever had a bad relationship? You’re not alone. Most of us have a past relationship that didn’t work out the way we intended. Don’t let it hold you back or drag you down. Everyone’s different and chances are you won’t make the same mistake again. The best way to move forward and get on with your life is to see your negative relationship experience in a positive light and treat it as a learning curve. It will probably give you clearer insight into what you want and what you don’t want out of your next relationship.
2. Make yourself heard/seen
Get yourself out there! Your perfect partner is unlikely to know you even exist if you hibernate in your house. Make the effort to meet new people through singles events and dating sites like Plenty More Fish. If you decide to go down the online dating route, make sure your profile has all the important stuff in; a show stopping picture (or two), a great profile description and all relevant information to name a few.
3. Go on as many dates as possible
Get out there and get dating! Find out who you like and find out who you don’t like! Meeting new people will help with confidence building , especially if you haven’t had a relationship in a while. Finding the right person for you is often a numbers game and a process of elimination so we recommend throwing yourself right into it. Relax and have fun when dating and remember with each date, you’re one step closer to finding the right person for you!
4. Let go of your “type.”
It’s easy to focus too much on a certain ‘type’ and miss great potential matches right in front of you. We completely understand that there’s certain very important criteria such as location and age but are you being too picky? . Bin the list and try to be a little more open-minded. Does star-sign, eye colour and hair colour really matter? It’s definitely worth dating a wide range of singletons in order to figure out what you really want.
5. Don’t take things personally
It’s not you…it’s them! Seriously though, if something doesn’t quite work out the way you had hoped just remember that it’s not you, it’s them! If someone isn’t interested then it’s their loss. Not everyone will fall for the same person..I mean, how boring!! (Not to mention we’d all be fighting over the same people!) Don’t let it throw you off dating others. Pick yourself up, there will be someone awesome out there for you!
6. Don’t give up
This follows up from the last point. Keep a positive attitude and if the first couple of dates don’t work out then don’t get put off or start to panic! There are SO many singletons out there. On Plenty More Fish alone there are over 2 million! Just keep dating.. you get out what you put in.
I hope you find these tips helpful and from all of us at Plenty More Fish…..
And the award for the best on-screen couple goes to…
What makes a great TV couple? The chemistry? The comedic timing or the audiences’ ability to relate to the screen couple? We asked our friends on Twitter and put our heads together at the Plenty More HQ to come up with some of the best TV couples we’ve ever had grace our screens. From Mulder & Scully all the way to Marge and Homer Simpson, here they are …
(If you have any more you think we should add, just leave a comment below!)
This could be a case for Mulder and Scully…
First up, it’s your favourite paranormal investigators, Mulder and Scully. This couple had the looks, brains and the chemistry. Their platonic relationship throughout the series had us on the edge of our seats…will they or won’t they? Their relationship finally developed into a romantic one a little later in the series. HURRAY!
More than Friends…
We couldn’t possibly go without mentioning Monica and Chandler. After many hints by Chandler, Monica FINALLY cottoned on. Their relationship began as a secret, not wanting the others to make a big deal of it. Their sneaking about continued for sometime and mixed with their great childish humour – made for a very funny watch.
We wish…
So apparently Kirsty and Phil are not actually together, never have been and never will. *sob* Apparently, Phil is married and Kirsty has a partner. All this may be true but we can’t deny their on-screen chemistry. Admittedly, this is a HUGE reason as to why I watch the programme…it’s like a real life soap!
“I Love You, Marge.” “I Love You Too, Homey.”
Marge and Homer Simpson…ahhh. They have got to be the best cartoon couple around. They’ve been through so much together…even the Homer & Mindy situation but have always managed to patch things up. Marge may sometimes find Homer pretty frustrating to live with but they sure were made for eachother. *Pinches self* Yes, it’s a cartoon, I know… :S
All I ever knew, Only you…
Office fans you will be more than aware of the on-screen flirting between Tim and Dawn. Something always stood in the way of their relationshipdeveloping..mainly Dawns rubbish boyfriend, Lee. If you’re anything like us, you would’ve been shouting at your telly for Dawn to GET RID! Anyway, the Christmas special absolutely melted the hearts of all office fans alike when they finally kissed. YAY!
I’m pretty sure I’ve missed tons of great TV couples out. Who’s your favourite? Leave us a comment below I’ll add them on!
Jen @ Plenty More Fish x
Long Distance Relationships: Could you?
As a member of Plenty More Fish, you have the option to meet new people from all over the UK and Ireland but would you message those who live a bit further afield? What’s the cut off point? More importantly, would you be prepared to commit to a long distance relationship for the foreseeable future?
I guess it’s all very much down to personal preference. Some people like to know their partner is always around and others prefer their own space. For the latter, long distance relationships are bound to be more successful. It also depends on what you want from the relationship. If you want something a little bit more laid back then the distance might even be a good thing!s a member of Plenty More Fish, you have the option to meet new people from all over the UK and Ireland but would you message those who live a bit further afield? What’s the cut off point? More importantly, would you be prepared to commit to a long distance relationship for the foreseeable future?
There seems to pros and cons with a long distance relationship. One positive is that you’ll probably make a bigger deal of the time you have together and plan something great for the weekend but the negative may be that you can’t be as spontaneous as you’d like. Hmm…
We’ve had some great feedback from our followers on Twitter – so thanks! It seems most of you think long distance relationships have a higher chance of working now than ever before due to the numerous methods of communication such as Facebook, Twitter, Email, Text, Skype etc. Others think that if the cost of travel were cheaper, it wouldn’t be such a big deal. The general consensus was that you have to like the other person enough from the word go to make the extra effort associated with long distance relationships. Which, is sometimes difficult to figure out straight away.
What do you think? Have you/ would you give long distance relationships a go?
5 Romantic Winter Dates
When dating, bars and cafés can be great venues but if you fancy something a little bit different, why not take advantage of the wintry season (if you can beat em’, join em’!) and really impress your date. So grab your coat…and your mittens and check out our favourite 5 romantic winter dates.
1. Outdoor Ice Rink
Oh *OOPS* you fell over. It doesn’t matter if you can’t ice skate, in fact it’s probably better. If they’re nice, your date will help you up. Excuse the pun but it’s a great way to break the ice between you both!
2. Christmas Market
Does your nearest town or city have a Christmas market? Put on your warm winter coat, browse the stalls and get into the Christmas spirit. This can make for a fun and cheap(ish) date. This of course depends on whether you can drag yourself away from the chocolate fountain and how many mulled wines you guzzle! Yup, I’m talking from experience!
3. Comedy night
Comedy nights are great in any season but if you fancy getting out of the cold we would recommend heading down to your local comedy club. After all, laughter is the best medicine.
4. Country pub
Preferably one with good hearty pub grub. Even better if you can sit next to an open fire. This will make for a very cosy date indeed.
5. Catch an Afternoon Movie
Get down to your local independent cinema and choose from a wide range of films from old classics to quirky feel good films. These places have a great atmosphere with a small cosy feel to them. Perfect.
5 Tips for Dating Again after a Long Term Relationship
After a long term relationship dating again can be pretty nerve-racking for some. Getting back into the swing of things can be like entering a whole new world – an exciting world nevertheless. We have racked our brains here at Plenty More Fish and come up with 5 top tips to help you make a smooth return back into the dating game.
1. Keep some information back. How many details should you give away? The best way to decide this is by asking yourself how much you would like to know about your date. By all means, tell them you have just come out of a long term relationship but there’s really no need to rant about your past. Your date is there to get to know you and for now, this doesn’t include your past.
2. Be yourself. It’s so important to be yourself. Don’t try and change who you are just because you think you’ll meet more people. If they don’t like you for you then they are obviously not the right person for you. It’s also extremely hard to keep up an act and it’s much less stressful just being you!
3. Single Friend Advice. Ask your single friends for advice. If you have been away from dating for a while then you may be feeling a little rusty. Getting advice from your single friends and learning about their real- life experiences is a great way to feel more confident and prepare yourself for a date.
4. Don’t be too picky. After a relationship you may think you know what you want and sometimes this could even be a clone of your ex. If you’re looking for someone specific, you could risk missing what’s right in front of you. You may not think she or he is your type but how do you know without trying?
5. Do what feels right. The biggest and best tip we can offer would be do what feels right for you. If you feel pressured to start dating again but don’t feel ready too, then don’t. Do what feels comfortable. If you go on a date and there’s no spark, it’s no big deal, just chalk it down to experience. After all, there’s plenty more fish in the sea!
How Important is Body Language?
When on a date, it’s not just about being aware of what you’re saying – body language plays a huge part too. In fact, it’s the biggest tell tale sign if you’re feeling uncomfortable. From eye contact to the way you sit can all play a major part as to how you come across on your date.
I came across this great infographic on body language with some really interesting facts which helps us to understand just how important body language actually is. E.g. Raise your eyebrows all you like in the US but unless you want to cause offence – refrain from doing so in Japan!
Have a look, some really interesting stuff. Let us know what you think!
Being Friends with the Ex Pt. 2
Last month I wrote a post on “Being Friends the Ex” where I decided that generally, staying friends with the ex wasn’t such a good idea. Well, staying friends with MY exes hasn’t always worked out for the best so I guess I am biased. Just because it didn’t work out too well for me, it doesn’t mean it can’t work well for others.
After writing the post, I have received lots of feedback from you ( and thank you!). It’s always really good to hear your views which, in this case were pretty different to my own. It seems many of you have remained great friends with exes so I thought I’d take the time to approach the topic from a different angle.
Let’s not kid ourselves, staying friends with an ex is not always easy. From your feedback it seems that the way to do it successfully is to be completely honest about your feelings for one another. If you still feel more for them then you need to decide whether this will affect your friendship. From your input it’s pretty clear that whatever happens, being “besties” straight away isn’t going to happen. Both of you will probably need time beforehand to come to terms with the split and deal with any unresolved feelings.
It seems many of you have managed to overcome this and remained friends. One reader made a really interesting point. He told me that after a long-term relationship and getting to know each other so well it’s a “shame to just throw it all away” and I would definitely have to agree with him. I think it’s so hard to just wave goodbye to the person you spent so much time with, knows you inside out and have so many memories with. It’s so final. If you can work things out after a split and have a stress free friendship for the both of you then, ideal. It’s just getting to this point that can be problematic. As one reader told me, staying friends “depends a lot on the circumstances of the split.” If someone cheats or treats the other badly then at some point in the future, the animosity may kick in ( if it hasn’t already) and just end up getting messy. However, if the split is amicable then friendship may come pretty naturally. One of our Twitter friends recently told me that she has remained great friends with her ex and that “he even baby sits my son which isn’t his and likewise me for his daughter!”
I think it can be tough but given time, if you really want it to work it is possible to salvage a friendship after a break-up providing both parties are honest and upfront with each other from the beginning.
Thoughts? Drop us a line below…
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