Ready to get your kink on?
In recent years kink and BDSM have gained mainstream popularity and are no longer viewed as activities for the perverted few. And for good reasons. The world of Kink/BDSM (Bondage, Discipline/Domination, Sadism, Masochism) is as vast as there are forms of human sexual desires so there is something for everyone looking to get their rocks off. When practiced safely, BDSM can be hugely liberating, empowering and OH-SO-GOOD.
But whilst getting kinky is certainly fun, it can also do some real harm. Before you get all kinds of fifty shades, it is important to discuss any fantasies and activities before you try them, always get explicit consent from your partner and always set clear rules.
Ok, now that we got that important titbit out of the way, let’s add some zesty zing to that vanilla sex life of yours. Here are some safe kinks for you to try before expanding your ‘sexpertoire’ to more advanced levels.
Definitely high on the list of fantasies for many, light spanking is a great way to get going with kink play. Start slowly using your hands and work your way up in intensity and choice of spanking tool (paddle, belt, whip). Don’t restrict your spanking to the buttock either, loads of people like to have their private parts spanked.
Pain and pleasure centres are closely connected and pulling a woman’s hair activates the nerve endings at the back of her neck, increasing the sensation she feels, especially during arousal. Combine this with naughty whispers and she’ll be writhing with pleasure.
Speaking of naughty whispers… discussing which words are ok (and not ok) to use during sex which includes name calling are all part of the consent parcel that should be agreed on before jumping in. Also consider which safe words you’ll use to let your partner know when it’s ok to keep going (green), when to slow down (yellow) and when to stop (red).
If being tied up gets you going, start with a tie or a scarf at first. These are soft materials and are less likely to hurt or leave marks before you graduate to more serious kit like ropes and cuffs. Always make sure that blood circulation isn’t cut off (two fingers space between scarf and skin). Adding a blindfold to your play is going to bring focus to your other senses and the lack of control.
Another form of bondage is restraining. Tying your partner to the bed while having your wicked way with them is a real turn on for many. If you are thinking of adding restraints to your routine, there are great options available online that are safe to use and great for beginners (check for quick release features).
Through biting (and clamps) you get to explore the world of arousal through pain. Much like hair pulling, biting is an amazingly simple, yet effective, stimulus. Use your safe words to control the intensity and try all the different body parts. Some people really like to have their nipples bitten, whilst others prefer their neck area.
When you first start exploring a sub/dom dynamic define what each role means to you – there are so many possible interpretations and it’s important to be clear. A great way to apply this is through role play like student and teacher or queen and butler. Another simple tool to create a sub/dom scenario is the use of ‘master’ and ‘mistress’ during kink play time or being tied up whilst giving oral.
As we said before – there is something for everyone and these are obviously only a few ideas to get your kinky appetite going. Hop online for more salacious inspiration and and if you’re still looking for someone to explore your frisky fantasies with, check out our naughty dating pond.