Post Divorce Dating Tips for Parents
Finding yourself back in the dating world after a divorce or long-term relationship can be a daunting process, particularly if you have children to consider. But getting back on the dating horse doesn’t have to be difficult as long as you keep a few things in mind when it comes to your kids.
Take your time
There’s no need for rushing to introduce your new partner to the kiddos unless the relationship is getting serious. Make sure you are both on the same page and discuss how you want to approach this. You wouldn’t want your kids to become attached to your new squeeze only to have them experience the loss of someone they liked.
Telling your new partner about your children is a given and he/she should really know from the very beginning. If he or she doesn’t like children or can not accept you are a parent, it’s pretty clear they aren’t right for you. Save yourself the heartbreak and move on.
Being honest with your children about your new love is vital to have them on board. They will smell BS a mile away, so try and be as honest with them as possible about your relationship. It’s important that you reassure them and explain that they will always be the most important people your life, no matter what.
Accept that your kids may be slow to warm up to your new partner. If that’s the case, don’t push the relationship on them too quickly. Give them time.
Let your children know that your new significant other isn’t intended to replace your ex — ever. This way, they don’t have to feel as though they have to choose or that they betray the other parent.
Many children cling onto the hope that their parents will get back together for a long time and may struggle to come to terms with it. When you’ve moved on to a new partner, the finality of your split becomes more real to your children, which may bring out feelings of jealousy, anger, and fear in them, so talk to them about their feelings and let them express their emotions without judgement. Gently remind them that mummy or daddy are also people who deserve to be happy, even if it’s with someone else.
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