Blast from the Past
So, you’re in a new relationship and heard a few rumours about their past? Now, we think it’s good to be aware but we also think that everyone makes mistakes and deserves a second chance (well, most people). This could also be a vicious rumour spread by a jealous ex who loves to cause a stir. Above all, we believe that you should trust your instincts.
If something is worrying you, just ask your partner outright.
Here are some tips on how to deal with certain worries you may experience.
You have heard your partner jumps from one serious relationship to the next
It is pretty clear he/she loves being loved and isn’t afraid of commitment. However, be aware that jumping straight from one serious relationship to the next can indicate insecurity or fear of being alone.
They cheated
This does not mean they would cheat on you. But you should have a conversation about why they cheated and if they don’t address the reason and don’t regret it then alarm bells should start ringing.
They have been cheated on
They may have trust issues. They may have trouble opening up. Just give them time and reassure them if need be.
They’re new to the relationship thing
This person could have a fear of rejection, they could apt to jump ship when the tides get rough. Or, they may simply be unlucky in love. It’s best not to judge anyone before you get to know them properly!
They’re a “player”
Hmm, well with this it completely depends on who you have heard it from. If everyone refers to your partner as a player then they probably are! Don’t stick around to find out. You don’t want to be just another notch on their bedpost! There’s plenty more fish in the sea 🙂
So there’s a little bit of red flag info for you. Just remember – trust your instincts! Like we said at the start, some people just love to cause trouble. If something is bothering you the best thing to do is ask the person in question. Their reaction should indicate whether you need to steer clear.