Abusive Personalities – The early warning signs (Part 2)
The Resentful Personality
Resentment is driven by a perception of not getting what is owed to one, be it love, praise, money or help. Unfortunately life is full of unfair situations and we don’t always get what we want or feel entitled to, but it is our reaction to it that matters.
A healthy one is to deal with it and move on yet the resentful person spends a lot time and emotional energy fretting and dwells on the unfairness of it all, whilst being completely ignorant to their own unfairness. They themselves completely ignore everyone else’s perspective and rights and they often believe they are powerless to change their lives and they use this as an screen to protect themselves from a sense of failure or inadequacy.
Resentful people often exaggerate situations and use phrases such as: “Why does this always happen to me?” or “What have I done to deserve this?”
If a resentful person perceives you to be unsupportive of their plight, you may become the next focus for their resentment and almost certainly feel excluded and devalued in the relationship.
Have you ever dated someone who was resentful? How did that make you feel?