Dating after Divorce or Breakup
Breakups, and divorces in particular, are hard to deal with. Finding yourself ‘back on the market’ can be scary and the thought of meeting new dates daunting. How do you know if the time is right and whether you are ready to start dating again? Read our tips to help you make the right decision:
Give yourself time to heal
Separation is an emotional process and can leave you feeling vulnerable, lonely and hurt. The fear of ending up lonely and the pain of loss can often pressure people to start dating too soon. Ask yourself if you are emotionally ready to commit to someone new. If the answer is no or you aren’t sure, give yourself more time and allow your heart to heal again.
Make yourself your number one priority
Life changing events such as divorce can be a catalyst for positive change. Spend some time reflecting on how you want your life to be. What did you always want to do? Where have you always wanted to go? Being single has many advantages, one of which is that you can do what you want. Focus on your own needs and do what makes you happy.
Who is your Mr/Ms Right?
Was your ex a total couch potato or hated travelling abroad? Perhaps you’d like someone who shares your love for animals? Perhaps someone who’s quite sporty? Now is your time to focus on the type of person you’d like to be with, then go out and find them. (psst – online dating sites are usually a good places to start)
Remember it’s not a competition
So, the ex has moved on and is going out with someone new. As tempting as it may be to “keep up” by landing yourself a new boo, such competition is unhealthy and will lead you to pick someone who might not be a great choice. This in turn can intensify the resentment and tension between you and your ex. Be patient, love will find you.
Wait until you introduce them to the kids
You are floating on cloud nine and are sporting rose tinted glasses. New love is exciting and you want to share it with the whole world. If you have kids though, it’s best to leave it for a while. If children get attached to your new partner and things don’t turn out, it can be very hard for them to understand. Give your heart the freedom to love again but listen to your head and take things slow. Good things are worth the wait.
Dating is an exciting time and a new opportunity for finding your perfect partner. Our advice is to take it easy, have faith and most importantly, have fun!
Remember, there is always plenty more fish in the sea. 😉
Happy fishing! xxx