Love Hurts (sometimes)
“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”~ Bob Marley
When I read this statement, my initial impression was one of sadness. I pictured a bitter and depressed man, one who resigned himself to the fact that he will have to suffer.
Not being one to dwell on sad things, I quickly turned my attention to brighter subjects and forgot about the statement until later that day, when I read an article about a famous Hollywood actress who very recently cheated on her equally famous Hollywood actor boyfriend with a married man and father of two.
“Huh”, I puffed, “what were they both thinking? Didn’t they consider what hurt they would cause their partner/wife? How betrayed they would feel?” But I guess it’s often not as simple as that. I don’t think either of the cheating party had the intention to hurt their loved one. Don’t get me wrong, I am not defending their behaviour, my point however is that people do and will make mistakes, and it is often those mistakes that end up disappointing or hurting someone. Sadly, that’s a fact of life.
Recalling Bob’s quote, my interpretation suddenly changed and I came to understand the underlying message of his words; one of forgiveness and love. Do you love the other person enough to forgive them? Do you trust them enough to believe them, when they say they will never make the same mistake again? Are you prepared to work on your relationship when things go wrong?
Personally, I would answer yes to all of the above but I would love to know what you think.
Do you believe in second chances? What are you willing to forgive and what is unforgivable?
Answers on a postcard please! xxx