The First Date…
We receive so many questions from our members on where to go, how to be and what to say on a first date therefore I have decided to answer as many questions as I possibly can through this post. After reading, if there is anything I have left unanswered please let me know and I’ll try my very best to get back to you.
I don’t believe in giving you instructions on what to do or what to say on a date. If someone were to follow strict instructions they would appear almost robotic and quite frankly no one wants to be dating R2-D2…well apart from a freaky Star Wars fanatic perhaps?! Instead, I am going to give you some guidelines…mainly to deal with those pre-date nerves. I hope it helps!
Ok, you have arranged to meet someone in “real life”.
Before meeting, do you think it is OK to communicate via E-mail only?
So far you have only communicated via E-mail and E-mail is only one dimensional. You are reading out carefully chosen words. Before meeting I would highly recommend having a phone conversation as you have no time to think on the phone and the conversation will be based on instant reactions. Speaking on the phone is a good safety measure anyway and will allow you to make a more informed decision as to whether you definitely want to meet the person.
What if he/she is completely different to what I imagined?
It is important to keep things in perspective. When meeting someone online, offline it is important to keep an open mind. When you meet face-to-face the communication and chemistry may be quite different. My advice to you would be just start afresh and go with the flow.
How can I calm my nerves before my date?
Don’t panic. It is perfectly normal to be extremely nervous about a first date. Many of us will worry so much about what the other person may think about us, we will completely forget about what we think of them! Just try and remember that they will be feeling as nervous and anxious as you.
Are there any safety precautions that I should take?
You should always let someone know where you are and until you feel that you know the person well enough you should use your own transport. I would recommend meeting in a public place, probably a coffee shop or something, quiet enough to hear each other speak!
How should we end the date?
End the date by telling them you had a good time and let them know that you enjoyed yourself (if you did!!). If you feel that the date didn’t go too well, let them know that it was nice to meet them and thank them for the date. They should get the message that a second date is probably not on the cards.
I hope this answers your questions 🙂 If you would like to ask me anything else then please feel free to leave a comment…
Happy Fishin’ !