You are on your first date and things are going really well, you both seem to have a good time and there’s an obvious connection. However you haven’t told your date that you come as part of a package. Often, when you mention the C word (by which I mean children of course!) they run faster than a bolting horse during a bonfire night, leaving you to deal with the setback and rejection. You may be tempted to withhold the fact that you are a single parent, but it’s always a better strategy to be honest right from the start – ideally before a first date. That way you save yourself a whole lot of frustration, time and disappointment.

Which is why online dating is the a great solution for single mums and dads. It gives you the freedom to explore your options. You can search for similar preferences, set your profile so that others know what to expect and screen those interested in you before committing to a face to face meeting. You can even get the kids to tell you what they think.

The right person might be waiting behind their PC at this exact moment, so what are you waiting for? Go online and get dating!

“I joined the site in mid December for 1 month. I met Stephen only a week or so after joining. We chatted for a few weeks and met up in January for a meal in Glasgow.

Things have been going well since then. He came to my cousins wedding (see photo) and we have been spending just about every weekend together for meals or drinks.

Thank you for the opportunity to meet someone!! 

Carol and Stephen x”

Thanks Carol for sharing your story with us. All of us at Plenty More Towers wish you a very happy future together. x

Needless to say we get very giddy with excitement when we hear such wonderful news and wish them both a blissfully happy and long future together. This is their story:

Both Wendy and I had joined the dating site last year to hopefully meet someone to share another relationship with. We were both divorced last year and felt it was the right time to move on. We found each other through the adverts on the site and at first I saw Wendy and thought what a wonderful profile she had and a “cheeky smile and looks to match”.

I made contact and asked if Wendy she would like to chat, to which Wendy replied yes. After a few brief exchanges through the chat side of the site, both Wendy and I agreed to swap numbers and started chatting on the phone. We both lived local and made arrangements to meet for afternoon coffee and lunch. The first date went really well and we both got on really well with each other. I already had a good feeling about Wendy, which I think people on the site call “chemistry”. We met again and things where really good, it was near valentine’s day and both Wendy and I exchanged cards with some really romantic verses.

We have now been together for 2 months and have had lovely days out, walking on the beach in the snow at Filey and we are about to have our very first romantic weekend away. Both Wendy and I are now an item and are looking forward to our future together with holidays planned and more romantic times to come.

I can sum up by saying to anyone out there on the site that in my profile said “you have to pull the weeds out the garden first to see the true flower that you like” and that is what I did. Wendy is the sweetest flower I have ever seen. You must wait for the right person and if you wait, you will find your flower.

Good luck to everyone out there, you will find your soul mate as long as you are prepared to wait and not go for second best.

Howard and Wendy

This won’t come as any surprise but statistically men are more than happy to go without a gift on Valentine’s Day, as opposed to women who may say they don’t want something, but secretly do. Do we really need grand and predictable gestures to assure ourselves that our Romeo or Juliet is still truly, madly, deeply?

Why is it that we need cards adorned with googly-eyed cupids and nougat filled choc hearts to make us feel loved? Don’t get me wrong I love chocolate/diamonds/flowers/insert-your-favourite as much as any other person but when I think of my other half I don’t think of cards etc. What I see in my mind’s eye, are the little idiosyncrasies that make him unique and which have me gushing….like the way he smiles when I wake him in the morning. His utterly contagious hyena laugh and how he pulls up his cute little chin when he’s concentrating. Like the way only one of his hugs can soothe me after a hectic day and how he can’t remember people’s names but every football score since the first caveman kicked a pebble. The way he chameleon-like propels his tongue out to moisten his fingers when he’s reading the newspaper and his amazing ability to talk to anyone about anything. The way he – even after 11 years – still thinks I’m gorgeous.

This is what makes him special to me and why I love him. 365 days of the year, for the next and the one after that. Now, if you’ll excuse me – I have got to go and eat that box of Thornton’s I gave him for Valentine’s.

“Hi Im Jann, I’m a positive, bubbly girl who likes to laugh. Love doing new things and having adventures. I like people who enjoy life and dont take themselves too seriously. Ive never joined a site before so im a little bit shy

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Here at the Plenty More Fish towers nothing makes us happier than finding out that our members have had success on our site – afterall, that’s what we’re here for. So when we got this lovely success story from Lynne and Roy we were over the moon.

“We met for the first time in Decemeber and knew straight away that we felt we had met someone special. It was a lovely Christmas present! Since then our relationship is going from strength to strength and we are both so happy in each others company.“

I’m sure you’ll all join us in saying a huge congratulations to Lynne and Roy and wishing them all the best for their future together.

Why not log into your account on Plenty More Fish and see if you can find that special person.

We’ve got a treat for you to help beat those Monday morning blues. Meet this weeks great catch – Dave.

A 25 year old self emplyed Tree Surgeon from West Sussex, Dave leads a fairly active life both in and out of work. He enjoys meeting new people and says he’s “an easy going and social person”. Dave is always up for a chat so why not drop him a message and say ‘hi’

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Ever felt like this? Everyone has at some point.

For some, being in this position creates tremendous amount pressure to find a partner quickly. You crave what you think everyone has: “The Perfect Partner.” However, it’s important to take into account that the relationships of your friends are probably entirely different to what you see. External appearances can be deceitful! Just because they have a partner it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ve got it all!

It’s not worth dating Mr or Ms. Wrong for dating’s sake and neither is it good to enter a relationship merely because someone has shown a large amount of interest in you. If you do this, you may find you’re constantly entering relationships below your standards. This will, in turn, increase your insecurity and cause you to think  negatively about dating. Settling for Mr or Ms. Wrong isn’t a good move for this reason.

It’s not fair to ‘make do’ with someone just because you want a relationship. You will find yourself trying to mould them around what you want them to be. You should never try and change someone. If you feel yourself trying to do this then it’s fair to say –  they’re not the right one for you.

Our advice to you would be, make sure you’re happy in yourself before going into a relationship. There are so many singletons out there, there’s absolutely no need to rush. Rather than rushing into anything and settling for mediocre, decide what you want from your next relationship. You don’t have to match your future partner with everything on your list but at least it’ll point you towards the right kind of person for you!

Nicole is 37  and describes herself as “an easy going, fun, open minded, positive gal that prioritises friends and family above everything else.” Her career is important but “it is not the be all and end all” and she wants to find someone who feels the same.

Experiencing new things is important to Nicole and she thinks “it would be great to meet someone who can continue to expand my horizons.”  Her likes includes; “the smell of cut grass, coffee, the sun, laughing, mint chocolate, Masterchef, politeness” and her dislikes are;  ”marzipan, selfishness, spiders, board games and bad writing/spelling.” Another great reason to spell- check that profile!

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