Don’t settle for ‘Mr or Ms. Wrong’
All your friends are taken, acquaintances all seem to be settled, even your slightly odd neighbour seems to have found Mr Right. In fact, from looking around it feels as if the only singleton about is you.
Ever felt like this? Everyone has at some point.
For some, being in this position creates tremendous amount pressure to find a partner quickly. You crave what you think everyone has: “The Perfect Partner.” However, it’s important to take into account that the relationships of your friends are probably entirely different to what you see. External appearances can be deceitful! Just because they have a partner it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ve got it all!
It’s not worth dating Mr or Ms. Wrong for dating’s sake and neither is it good to enter a relationship merely because someone has shown a large amount of interest in you. If you do this, you may find you’re constantly entering relationships below your standards. This will, in turn, increase your insecurity and cause you to think negatively about dating. Settling for Mr or Ms. Wrong isn’t a good move for this reason.
It’s not fair to ‘make do’ with someone just because you want a relationship. You will find yourself trying to mould them around what you want them to be. You should never try and change someone. If you feel yourself trying to do this then it’s fair to say – they’re not the right one for you.
Our advice to you would be, make sure you’re happy in yourself before going into a relationship. There are so many singletons out there, there’s absolutely no need to rush. Rather than rushing into anything and settling for mediocre, decide what you want from your next relationship. You don’t have to match your future partner with everything on your list but at least it’ll point you towards the right kind of person for you!
This weeks catch – Nicole
Meet this weeks great catch – Nicole.
Nicole is 37 and describes herself as “an easy going, fun, open minded, positive gal that prioritises friends and family above everything else.” Her career is important but “it is not the be all and end all” and she wants to find someone who feels the same.
Experiencing new things is important to Nicole and she thinks “it would be great to meet someone who can continue to expand my horizons.” Her likes includes; “the smell of cut grass, coffee, the sun, laughing, mint chocolate, Masterchef, politeness” and her dislikes are; ”marzipan, selfishness, spiders, board games and bad writing/spelling.” Another great reason to spell- check that profile!
Fancy sending Nicole a message, just click here if you’re a Plenty More Fish member. If not, sign yourself up for free on Plenty More Fish today!
10 Things NOT to Say on a First Date
If you’ve been away from the dating scene for some considerable time, you may have become a little rusty with some of the dating norms a.k.a “dating etiquette.” I think the biggest and best piece of advice I can offer is to be yourself and never ever pretend to be someone your not. This definitely applies to both off line and online dating.
Sometimes, it’s easy to say too much on a first date and TRUST me, I know all too much about verbal diarrhoea… it happens to the best of us 
Chatting a lot on a first date is by no means a bad thing – if anything, it’s good – but saying the wrong thing could mean the difference between the first and second date. Steer away from the following topics of conversation and you’ll be one step closer to date number two!
"Oops...I mentioned my ex"
1. Bad mouthing your ex
Refrain from talking about your ex.. any ex. It’s a huge turn off. Your date will want to know about you, not your ex. It’s not attractive, plus it can suggest that you’re not quite over them.
2. Dishing out blame
Not taking responsibility for your mistakes will cause alarm bells to ring straight away. A relationship is built on trust and if your date feels they can’t trust you, well, that’s the second date out of the window!
3. Living with parents
So you’re 30 and still living with your parents without good reason and show no sign of moving out. Dependence on your parents at this age is pretty unattractive to most. It’s not just about the living with your parents though. Relying on your mum for your cooking and cleaning is a huge, huge turn off. Independence is SO much more attractive!
4. Discussing financial problems
It’s neither the time nor the place to be discussing personal matters like this. It’s way too much information for a first date and can leave your date feeling awkward. Get to know your date first. They may be a bit freaked if you start discussing your credit card bills, not to mention – turned off.
5. Your wish to be married with kids ASAP
It doesn’t take a genius to work out that discussing your marriage and family plans on a first date isn’t the best idea. I don’t think I need to explain why..
6. “You’re too smart/ attractive/good for me”
Self confidence is incredibly attractive to the opposite sex. Your date is on a date with you because they like you. There’s absolutely nothing else to question.
7. “Can I take your picture?”
Don’t ask to take a photo on a first date. It comes across as needy, freaky and a little stalker-ish. . Some of you may wonder why I’m even mentioning this..? Well, it did actually happen to someone I know and all I can say is a second date definitely didn’t happen.
8. “Come back to mine?”
Unless you know for sure that your date feels the same – don’t ask. Your date could end up being offended.
9. “I love you”
Argh. These three little words should never be used on the first date for obvious reasons. It’s worrying for your date as you’ll come across as clingy/ psycho. Harsh but true!!!
10. You’re jobless with no intention of getting a job
Laziness is not attractive. Showing no intention of working is to most, extremely unattractive. No one wants to date a ‘bum’ do they?!
This weeks catch – Lee
It’s been a while since we’ve graced you with one of our favourite members but you’ll be glad to know we’re back with another fantastic singleton…
Lee is 36 and likes “socialising in the pub and playing sport.” He also tells us he has “a bit of a love for musicals” which he thinks may be a “dangerous confession” but we reckon this will only ever work in his favour. For once, us girls won’t have to drag our fella kicking and screaming to “Les Misérables!”
Lee’s “looking to live again.’ He would like “someone to laugh with” and someone to “share the adventure” he’s about to start. Admittedly, he watched ‘Up’ the other day but we think that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a bit of inspiration!
Is Lee your type? Why not show your interest with a wink or a message? If you’re a member of Plenty More Fish just click here.
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6 Tip to Make Dating in 2012 the Best Ever!
“London beats Paris in the 2012 Olympics bid.” It seems like only yesterday doesn’t it? In fact, the announcement was made 7 years ago, in 2005. Gobsmacked? So are we. We welcome 2012 with open arms however, the year that once seemed SO far away has suddenly caught up with us.
Oh how time flies!
Time passes so quickly and at Plenty More Fish, we feel that if you want something, you shouldn’t just sit back and wait for it to happen, you should go out and get it! This includes waiting for that special person to whisk you off your feet – you really need to put the effort in too. It will make your search for that special someone easier and much more successful!
To help you out we have racked our dating brains and come up with 6 great ways to help you make a fresh start and get the most out of dating in 2012.
1. Change your attitude
Ever had a bad relationship? You’re not alone. Most of us have a past relationship that didn’t work out the way we intended. Don’t let it hold you back or drag you down. Everyone’s different and chances are you won’t make the same mistake again. The best way to move forward and get on with your life is to see your negative relationship experience in a positive light and treat it as a learning curve. It will probably give you clearer insight into what you want and what you don’t want out of your next relationship.
2. Make yourself heard/seen
Get yourself out there! Your perfect partner is unlikely to know you even exist if you hibernate in your house. Make the effort to meet new people through singles events and dating sites like Plenty More Fish. If you decide to go down the online dating route, make sure your profile has all the important stuff in; a show stopping picture (or two), a great profile description and all relevant information to name a few.
3. Go on as many dates as possible
Get out there and get dating! Find out who you like and find out who you don’t like! Meeting new people will help with confidence building , especially if you haven’t had a relationship in a while. Finding the right person for you is often a numbers game and a process of elimination so we recommend throwing yourself right into it. Relax and have fun when dating and remember with each date, you’re one step closer to finding the right person for you!
4. Let go of your “type.”
It’s easy to focus too much on a certain ‘type’ and miss great potential matches right in front of you. We completely understand that there’s certain very important criteria such as location and age but are you being too picky? . Bin the list and try to be a little more open-minded. Does star-sign, eye colour and hair colour really matter? It’s definitely worth dating a wide range of singletons in order to figure out what you really want.
5. Don’t take things personally
It’s not you…it’s them! Seriously though, if something doesn’t quite work out the way you had hoped just remember that it’s not you, it’s them! If someone isn’t interested then it’s their loss. Not everyone will fall for the same person..I mean, how boring!! (Not to mention we’d all be fighting over the same people!) Don’t let it throw you off dating others. Pick yourself up, there will be someone awesome out there for you!
6. Don’t give up
This follows up from the last point. Keep a positive attitude and if the first couple of dates don’t work out then don’t get put off or start to panic! There are SO many singletons out there. On Plenty More Fish alone there are over 2 million! Just keep dating.. you get out what you put in.
I hope you find these tips helpful and from all of us at Plenty More Fish…..
Plenty More Fish on Your Phone
With our simple and straightforward mobile dating web app, you no longer have to wait for your computer to load up to check who’s winked or messaged you. You can now date completely on the move!
Give the Plenty More Fish mobile web app a try by simply typing www.plentymorefish.com into your mobile browser. Enjoy!
If you’re a member of any of the following sites, you can access Plenty More Fish on your mobile from the 21st of December:
Plenty More Fish UK, Plenty More Fish South Africa, Plenty More Fish Ireland, Plenty More Naughty Fish UK, Plenty More Naughty Fish South Africa, Plenty More Naughty Fish Ireland, Plenty More Silver Fish UK and Plenty More Silver Fish South Africa.
Merry Christmas from Plenty More Fish!
Will Sidney the snowman find his true love? Find out in our new Christmas ad!
Meet Sidney!
Our member of the week this week is Sidney the Snowman. We don’t usually give shout-outs to snowmen but as Christmas is fast approaching and with it being the season of goodwill and all that, it’s only fair.
So what’s Sid like and what’s he looking for? He’s a couple of days old (32 in snowmen years) and is looking for a snow woman of similar age. He’s already dated penguins, reindeer and even tried his luck with a fairy once – unfortunately that fizzled out. It’s not that he doesn’t like other Christmas folk… they just can’t seem to hack the cold. He’s back for another season and looking for someone to have a few laughs and mainly, chill out with.
Will Sid find who he’s looking for on Plenty More Fish? Find out on your TV from the 20th December – 31st December!
Sidney (or Sid, as we like to call him) will be appearing on various Sky Channels from the 20th – 31st December. We will also be posting the ad on our blog and YouTube so keep an eye out for that!
And the award for the best on-screen couple goes to…
What makes a great TV couple? The chemistry? The comedic timing or the audiences’ ability to relate to the screen couple? We asked our friends on Twitter and put our heads together at the Plenty More HQ to come up with some of the best TV couples we’ve ever had grace our screens. From Mulder & Scully all the way to Marge and Homer Simpson, here they are …
(If you have any more you think we should add, just leave a comment below!)
This could be a case for Mulder and Scully…
First up, it’s your favourite paranormal investigators, Mulder and Scully. This couple had the looks, brains and the chemistry. Their platonic relationship throughout the series had us on the edge of our seats…will they or won’t they? Their relationship finally developed into a romantic one a little later in the series. HURRAY!
More than Friends…
We couldn’t possibly go without mentioning Monica and Chandler. After many hints by Chandler, Monica FINALLY cottoned on. Their relationship began as a secret, not wanting the others to make a big deal of it. Their sneaking about continued for sometime and mixed with their great childish humour – made for a very funny watch.
We wish…
So apparently Kirsty and Phil are not actually together, never have been and never will. *sob* Apparently, Phil is married and Kirsty has a partner. All this may be true but we can’t deny their on-screen chemistry. Admittedly, this is a HUGE reason as to why I watch the programme…it’s like a real life soap!
“I Love You, Marge.” “I Love You Too, Homey.”
Marge and Homer Simpson…ahhh. They have got to be the best cartoon couple around. They’ve been through so much together…even the Homer & Mindy situation but have always managed to patch things up. Marge may sometimes find Homer pretty frustrating to live with but they sure were made for eachother. *Pinches self* Yes, it’s a cartoon, I know… :S
All I ever knew, Only you…
Office fans you will be more than aware of the on-screen flirting between Tim and Dawn. Something always stood in the way of their relationshipdeveloping..mainly Dawns rubbish boyfriend, Lee. If you’re anything like us, you would’ve been shouting at your telly for Dawn to GET RID! Anyway, the Christmas special absolutely melted the hearts of all office fans alike when they finally kissed. YAY!
I’m pretty sure I’ve missed tons of great TV couples out. Who’s your favourite? Leave us a comment below I’ll add them on!
Jen @ Plenty More Fish x
Long Distance Relationships: Could you?
As a member of Plenty More Fish, you have the option to meet new people from all over the UK and Ireland but would you message those who live a bit further afield? What’s the cut off point? More importantly, would you be prepared to commit to a long distance relationship for the foreseeable future?
I guess it’s all very much down to personal preference. Some people like to know their partner is always around and others prefer their own space. For the latter, long distance relationships are bound to be more successful. It also depends on what you want from the relationship. If you want something a little bit more laid back then the distance might even be a good thing!
There seems to pros and cons with a long distance relationship. One positive is that you’ll probably make a bigger deal of the time you have together and plan something great for the weekend but the negative may be that you can’t be as spontaneous as you’d like. Hmm…
We’ve had some great feedback from our followers on Twitter – so thanks! It seems most of you think long distance relationships have a higher chance of working now than ever before due to the numerous methods of communication such as Facebook, Twitter, Email, Text, Skype etc. Others think that if the cost of travel were cheaper, it wouldn’t be such a big deal. The general consensus was that you have to like the other person enough from the word go to make the extra effort associated with long distance relationships. Which, is sometimes difficult to figure out straight away.
What do you think? Have you/ would you give long distance relationships a go?
