There aren’t many people in this world who don’t like to be kissed (we hope). Kissing is an evolutionary tool, one that creates a bond between two people long enough so they procreate and thereby ensuring the survival of mankind. This may seem a little clinical but that’s what Mother Nature intended.
Yet, it seems it’s not quite as straightforward as simply puckering up and “Voila!” we have a relationship. Recent studies revealed that 59% of men and 66% of women say they have ended a new relationship because of the other person’s sorry snogging style. Have you ever stopped seeing someone because of this? (We have to admit, we have!). But how do you know if you are indeed a Krappy Kisser? And, what can you do to improve it? Apparently, quite a lot judging from a little web search we conducted.
Here are some of the top tips we came across:
1. Pay attention to your partner
It goes without saying that you should be in the moment, not ogling around you to see what’s on the TV, or worse, checking out other potentials in the bar. Close your eyes and enjoy the sensation.
2. Start out slow
Going in like Great White hunting a seal, is sure to put your kissing buddy off for life. Focus on small areas first. Kiss a little bit around the mouth and nibble and suck the lips gently, use your tongue sparingly. Build up the passion slowly and you’ll both get into the rhythm very soon.
3. Tongue technique is key
Kissing may also be called Tonsil Tennis but for the love of Cupid, don’t even think about it. EVER! NEVER EVVAAA! Your tongue should be a sensual explorer of your partner’s mouth, not a spoon stirring a pot of yoghurt or a lump of slippery meat hanging there to dry. Mix it up, be playful.
4. Spit Stop
It may be difficult to keep your saliva in check when you are snogging someone but it’s well worth the effort. Daters list too much saliva during kissing as one of their top turn offs, right behind…
5. Bad breath
It’s pretty obvious that smelling like the back end of a badger won’t win you popularity points. Bad breath is often seen as an indicator of poor health, which means your partner is unlikely to choose you for a longer stint. So make sure you look after your mouth, pay regular visits to your dentist and keep off the garlic before a date.
So, there you have it.
Join in on the conversation. We’d love for you to share your good / bad kissing stories with us, so you drop us a comment!
“Mick and I have now been together for about 6 weeks and have just returned from our first holiday together. It was just a wink from me that made Mick look at my profile and see how we think alike. He would have never known but for that wink. After he winked back and we exchanged a couple of messages to each other we arranged our first date. As soon as we met I knew that there was a buzz between us and we held hands all night. Since we met and as we spend more and more time together we realise just how alike we truly are and how luck we have been to meet.”
Mick & Sue
Congratulations to Mick & Sue who met on Plenty More Fish. You look so happy in your picture! Wishing you both a very happy future together. x
Seriously folks, what is cooler than having a signature drink? Being able to whip up a delicious and aptly named concoction, à la Tom Cruise in Cocktail, is guaranteed to impress the ladies.
If you really want to look like an expert, we can highly recommend attending a cocktail making class – just Google it and you’ll be sure to find one in your area.
In the meantime, we’ve compiled 3 of our favourite and easy to prepare ‘love potions’:
Amore Vietato (Forbidden Love)
- 2 oz. Hendricks gin
- 1 oz. blood orange juice
- Dash simple syrup, 2 strawberries
- 4 slices of cucumber
Muddle fruit with simple syrup, add gin and blood orange juice. Shake and strain into a martini glass. Garnish with strawberry, cucumber spiral and orange peel hearts.
[SOURCE: Wendy Verdel, Zeffirino, The Venetian, Las Vegas]
1 ounce (30 ml) vodka0.35 ounce (10 ml) apricot liqueur
0.35 ounce (10 ml) cranberry juice
0.35 ounce (10 ml) pineapple juice
1 strawberry, for garnish
Place the vodka, apricot liqueur, cranberry juice, pineapple juice, and ice cubes in a shaker and shake well. Strain the cocktail into a martini glass and top off with champagne. Garnish with the strawberry.
[SOURCE: Slurp by Nina Dreyer Hensley, Jim Hensley, and Paul Lowe]
Strawberry Shag (ooh err)
1 to 2 large sprigs fresh basil
1/4 cup Sugared Strawberries with juice
1 1/2 ounces vodka
1 ounce fresh lemon juice
3 to 4 ounces chilled soda water
Fresh strawberry for garnishing
Small basil leaf for garnishing
In a cocktail shaker, press the basil and strawberries together with a muddler to release the basil’s flavor. Fill the shaker with ice. Measure in the vodka and lemon juice. Cap and shake vigorously. Pour into a large glass, top with soda water, and stir. Garnish with a strawberry and basil leaf.
[SOURCE: Sips & Apps: Classic and Contemporary Recipes for Cocktails and Appetizers by Kathy Casey]
We hope you enjoyed our suggestions. Do you have a signature drink? Fancy sharing the recipe? Then leave us a comment! x
Can you believe it? It’s July already! How time flies when you are having fun, right? Speaking of fun, where are you taking your date this weekend? Still undecided? Well, your Fairy Fish Dating Blog Mother has a little idea you might enjoy.
A date, especially a first date, should be memorable and the more senses you engage, the more memorable the date will be. Our Date Inspiration for this month certainly ticks that box.
Enter London’s Dans le Noir, the restaurant with a difference. You and your date will be dining, yes you guessed it, in the dark, where you will guided and served by blind staff. Devoid of your dominant visual sense, you and your date can enjoy one of 4 ‘mystery’ meals where you will get to choose between meat, seafood or vegetarian. This way you get to explore your sense of taste and smell (and let’s not forget hearing) more fully. The food, mostly organic, is based on first quality ingredients, making the experience as interesting and tasty as possible.
Outside distractions, such as mobile phones, are a big no no at Dans le Noir and you will be asked to lock yours away (lockers are provided), giving you an opportunity to completely focus on each other and your sensory experience for the next hour or so.
Expect a few culinary surprises and a new perspective on dining and dating. To end the meal in a more traditional way, there’s a lit bar for post-dinner drinks. Or if you’d prefer sumptuous concoctions of the drinkable kind, why not head over to the nearby Zetter Townhouse cocktail lounge?
Whatever you decide, above all, we hope you have fun. ‘Cos that’s what dating should be!
Happy Dating! x
Evidence suggests that the stigma associated with dating online is continuously crumbling. It is no longer a place for the “cyber geeks” to hang out but a place for people like you to have fun, date and perhaps even meet the man / woman of your dreams!
So here I propose to you our top reasons for jumping on the online dating bandwagon:
There’s a HUGE pool of potential dates
We have over 1.5 million members to search through and this is constantly growing.
You can find dates in your PJ’s
I think this has got to be one of my favourite reasons to give the online dating world a go. You can get into your pyjamas, pour yourself a cheeky glass of wine and sift through all the people matching your search preferences.
You can filter out unsuitable dates through the search options
By doing this, you can view members that match your search preferences based on things like age, whether they have a profile picture or not and their location. So no awkward questions – perfect! There are also always new faces to see and meet and you can find these easily by searching for our new members
There are Niche sites out there to suit your preferences
At PlentyMoreFish we currently have 3 ponds: The Single Pond, The Silver Pond and The Naughty Pond.
Logging on to find winks and messages from fellow members is a very exciting experience and can give you a great confidence boost.
Paid dating sites are usually moderated
If you are paying for membership on a site, there are usually people behind the scenes checking out each and every member. This is why paid dating sites like us are much safer than the free sites. We work hard to ensure scammers are eradicated and that only genuine people can join our site.
So, what are you waiting for? Get fishing, get dating!
You don’t keep secrets
Happy couples know that keeping secrets will only hurt their partner, and their relationship so they are open and honest with each other.
You have fun
In a healthy relationship you can be yourself and that includes being able to make a fool of yourself. When you are comfortable with one another, you are more willing to open up and show your silly side.
You share responsibilities
When one person spends Saturday morning cleaning and doing the laundry while the other one chills out in front of the TV, it’s not an even share of responsibilities. Divvying up the work is a sign of an equal and healthy partnership that is based on mutual respect. You are a team in all aspects of life.
You spend time on your own
In a healthy relationship you can and are both encouraged to have your own life, circle of friends and interests. There’s no jealousy or constant checking up on the other person.
You appreciate each other
As you get comfy in your relationship, routine sets and you could start to take each other for granted. However happy couples continue to make an effort and remain appreciative of each other. They remember why they fell in love in the first place.
Open communication is the cornerstone to a happy and healthy relationship. Expressing of and listening to feelings without the fear of being judged or criticised is a sign of emotional maturity and encourages trust between two people.
You are intimate
Sex is another form of communication and couples who have sex on a regular basis are often happier than couples who don’t.
We just received this email by Marcella and Jake who met using Plenty More Fish and we’d love to share it with you. So happy for you guys! All of us at Plenty More Fish wish you ever lasting love and happiness! xxx
Our Story – Marcella and Jake
Marcella and I met through the Plenty More Fish site and we thought we would let you know how this came about. I had been on the site for about 3 months on the advice of my son who had met a very suitable lady on there. Marcella had been on the site for some time too.
Marcella and I had previously met a number of people separately through the site, each of which had resulted in one-date meetings, only for both of us to find that that vital spark was not there with the other person and there was no point in pursuing such connections.
Then on Tuesday March 12th this year I received a wink from Marcella. I looked at her profile and liked very much what I read. There was no photo so I responded by asking her for a pic and sending her an extended profile which told her much more about me. I didn’t need to send a photo as my profile already had one and she had obviously seen it. She responded with a pic and an email entitled “Gobsmacked” as she was very surprised but delighted by the amount of detail that I had provided in my extended profile. Her pic showed her to be an extremely attractive lady.
I was working in Devon that week and by Fish-mail I asked Marcella for a date and we exchanged mobile phone numbers and after some texting and a long conversation we arranged to meet up on the Thursday evening two days later, at a very nice bar and bistro in the North West that I know, which puts on lots of gigs, jazz, blues, rock – all sorts – usually on a Thursday evening. I have played there with my own band several times so it was very familiar to me. I was driving back that Thursday evening from Devon to my home in Yorkshire, which is about 40 mins drive from there and Marcella lives not too far away as well, so we were both easily able to get there.
We met outside the bar where I was waiting for Marcella to arrive in a taxi. When she alighted from the taxi and came to me I was immediately and instantly attracted to Marcella and for me it was quite simply love at first sight – she greeted me with such openness and warmth – she has such a beautiful personality. I know that sounds corny but it’s true. She was a little more practical, falling for me (she later confessed) during the evening, when I pulled out a “nit comb” to comb my hair!!!! “I don’t have ‘em” I hastened to tell Marcella, and explained that “it’s just that this kind of comb is very small and neat and fits nicely into my wallet”. Hey, I’m just a practical guy………I was somewhat dishevelled as I had just driven 275 miles to get there – about 5 hours in the car, and having worked in Devon for many weeks I had not had a chance to have my hair trimmed for the date. I think it was my practicality and lack of pretension that hooked her.
We talked and listened to the band and had a really lovely time together, till the gig finished about 1am. By then Marcella was confident enough about me to allow me to drive her home and I dropped her off at her door – but didn’t even get a peck on my cheek for my trouble. The cheek!! – although we did hold hands in the car. The following day I asked Marcella by text for another date and we agreed to meet for lunch the following Tuesday (I was moving house that weekend) at a pub up on the East Lancashire Moors, called “Owd Bett’s”. It’s an old pub, very charming and we spent all afternoon having a lovely lunch, very leisurely, with the place virtually to ourselves. We finished about 5pm, when I had to set off on the 5 hour drive to Devon to my worksite, where I was working for the rest of the week. That evening Marcella had arranged to go out with a group of female friends but she later text’d me to say she had cancelled, as she wanted to stay at home and chill and savour our afternoon together. I text’d back that I had savoured the afternoon all the way down to Devon for 5 hours in the car. Our next date was the Sunday following when Marcella invited me to go swimming with her as a guest at her health club – fortunately I was still reasonably fit and I accepted. That was very pleasant even though I had not done any swimming for a long time.
That first date was exactly 3 months ago and since then we have been inseparable, going to gigs (some of mine), dancing and to gym and swimming whenever possible. Marcella is into keeping fit and has drawn me into this and I have lost 20 lbs without trying and am now much fitter – to our mutual benefit.
I have been with Marcella to her home country in the Far East for a holiday – her parents were Chinese and she was born and raised in a Far East country, but has been resident in UK for many years. There I met all her family and many of her friends from childhood and school, with whom she has stayed in touch. We had a fantastic time, very romantic and exciting – especially for me – not being familiar with the Far East or its culture and customs. I was very blessed as I had a “local” with me as my guide and mentor and she introduced me to all manner of new experiences that most tourists and holidaymakers would not see for lack of local knowledge.
Being Chinese, Marcella is a fan of Astrology and related matters. Some weeks ago we looked up my birth year and determined that in Chinese astrology I am a Dragon. Marcella is a Rat from her birth year and it seems that the best of all possible compatibility matches is a Dragon and a Rat. We also did the same for our Western birth signs Virgo and Pisces – with the same result. That pleased us both greatly…..
We have become totally besotted with each other and can’t bear to be apart. We intend to spend the rest of our lives together and we are very very happy. It seems as if each of us is the person that the other has dreamed of meeting – but has only finally met and each has fallen totally in love with, quite late in life. We did not expect this to happen as we are both mature people – but we had kept an open mind.……. We have both said to each other more than once that it feels too good to be true and it’s really scary – especially the speed with which our relationship has developed ……….. But we are both very confident that we will make it work – it is already working wonderfully well. I am still pinching myself to make sure I am awake and not dreaming!!
As a jazz musician I can and do quote from many romantic songs to express my feelings for Marcella and none expresses them and the way of our meeting better than the words of an old Standard, that I emailed to her recently, called You Stepped out of a Dream. The words go like this……………..
Stepped out of a dream,
Are you too wonderful
To be what you seem?
Could there be eyes like yours?
Could there be lips like yours?
Could there be smiles like yours,
Honest and truly?
Stepped out of a cloud,
I want to take you away
Away from the crowd,
And have you all to myself,
Alone and apart.
Out of a dream……….Safe into my heart.
This is our story and we hope you like it.
Thank you Plenty More Fish for our blissful happiness, without your site we would never have met.
With love from Marcella and Jake x